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What makes or breaks a relationship? The truth is another person can't make you happy; being fulfilled is an inside job. Today's guest is Barry Selby. He's helped thousands learn to love themselves. He's affectionately known as the "Love Doctor." Barry is an inspirational speaker, relationship expert, best-selling author, and spiritual guide. Most successful women rely on masculine energy to survive in the business world but often don't know how to shut it off. Barry is a champion for the divine feminine and he's dedicated to helping strong women attract relationships that equal who they are. Barry offers principles that will change how you experience romance and how to love and treat yourself.

Barry Selby is passionate about helping successful women create greater balance in love, life, and business. He's on a mission to awaken women to own and express their feminine magnificence in love and in the world. He's a relationship coach and a guide for singles seeking relationships and self-love. He has over 35 years of training and experience, including a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and more than two decades as a professional spiritual counselor. His #1 best-selling book, "50 Ways to Love Your Lover," helps singles and couples embody powerful principles for passionate and richly rewarding relationships. He brings deep compassion, a calm masculine presence, and wise guidance to assist his clients in their journey to true love. Barry epitomizes the perfect blend of practical, spiritual, tangible, and intangible in relationship coaching. In this week's episode, we'll learn about his approach to dating and love.

Kerry Brett and Barry Selby discuss masculine and feminine energy and why that needs to be in balance to find love. Topics include:

The polarity between the masculine and feminine.
You don't need the other person to complete you if you truly love someone. Come from a place of loving yourself first, which is the best place to attract a new relationship.
How to love from overfill and not love from a place of lack.
The difference between masculine and macho energy.
Masculine energy comes from having a strong spine and being single-focused.
Why women need to turn off the masculine energy that they use at work.
Feminine energy comes from the energy of the heart.
Why women don't trust their feminine energy.
Why women have a difficult time letting the man lead in dating.
Rule #45 in "50 Ways to Love Your Lover" Ladies, let your man be masculine and remember you are feminine. Don't compete for it, or you will lose in romance. Barry, can you expand on this?
Rule #42 is men and women attract each other differently. Men see attraction, and women feel attraction.
Why is it crucial to be grounded in your feminine as a woman in dating?
Barry Selby's advice for dating and healing a broken heart.
Why you want to be fulfilled as a single person? So, when you find a relationship, it just adds to who you are.
If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from men.
Why being single doesn't mean you are undesirable or unwanted. It means you know your value and are holding out for someone who is worthy and sees your worth.

To find out more about Barry Selby go to www.barryselby.com. All of his social he can be found under Barry Selby except on Instagram which is @therealbarryselby and you can talk to him directly on Clubhouse or watch his 1,400 videos on YouTube.

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Get ready for some exciting news! Today, we’ll hear all about Lola, a brand-new dating app exclusively launching in Boston. I think it’s safe to say that intentional daters are tired of mindless messaging, time-consuming chats, and the frustration of virtual dating pitfalls. Lola is designed to get you on real dates with real people on your schedule. Lola is about to revolutionize your dating experience by creating genuine connections, scheduling dates at your convenience, and eliminating the clutter of multiple conversations. Imagine conversing solely with only those you're interested in meeting face-to-face. Get ready to say goodbye to endless swiping, catfishing, and ghosting and say hello to dating because Lola is putting dating back into dating apps.

This week, we have the privilege of hearing from the masterminds behind Lola, its founders, Paul English and Rachel Cohen. Paul English is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, the founder of six start-ups, and the co-founder of the travel industry giant Kayak.com. Rachel Cohen has a background in Human Resources for renowned fashion and luxury brands such as David Yurman and Diptyque Paris. Together, they combined their expertise to create a dating app that focuses on matching based on availability. They'll share why Lola stands apart from traditional dating apps and how it could redefine your dating journey. And they’ll also share with us their story and what’s in store for us with Lola.
Kerry Brett, Paul English, and Rachel Cohen cover a lot of ground around what’s working in online dating and how Lola plans to create a new community and change the dating culture. Topics include;
· The benefit of a dating app centered on matching based on availability.
· Their Journey to love and the inspiration behind Lola:
· Paul and Rachel shared their serendipitous meeting on Bumble four years ago, sparking a conversation that eventually led to identifying the common problems in existing dating apps and, later, falling in love, getting engaged, and launching Lola.
· Rachel discusses the experiences that fueled their passion for addressing these dating app challenges, emphasizing the need to reinvigorate hope for the discouraged.
· Rachel highlights Lola's calendar-based matchmaking system. Introduces the 4-day timeline, benefitting users and empowering women to take control of their dating schedules.
· Fast-tracking dating: Paul explains from a male perspective why immediate in-person meetings can revolutionize the dating landscape, expediting genuine connections.
· Rachel sheds light on how Lola caters to single parents or individuals with restricted availability, maximizing dating opportunities.
· Paul draws from his tech experiences to simplify and enhance Lola's user interface, ensuring it's both familiar and efficient.
· How Lola plans to filter out non-intentional daters.
· Lola's review feature, offering constructive feedback while eliminating non-genuine or uninterested users.
· Why Lola values quality over quantity: addressing the trend of excessive conversations Lola's commitment to quality interactions rather than volume.
· Enforcing rules for genuine engagement: Paul advocates for a no-nonsense approach to discourage habitual cancellations.
· Anonymous feedback system: the benefit of anonymous post-date feedback, aiding users in self-improvement and finding better matches.
· Rollout plans and recruitment events: Insights into Lola's rollout strategy, inviting potential users to join and engage.
To learn more about Lola, visit www.lola.com and follow on Instragram @lola_dates.

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Today's guests are Hello Prenup's Co-Founders Julia Rodgers and Sarabeth Jaffe, and they discuss one of the most important topics around love PRENUP'S! Julia and Sarabeth are fearless female entrepreneurs and disrupters in divorce. They recently landed a deal on Shark Tank. A lot has happened during the pandemic. Although 80 percent of new couples found love online, divorce is still rising. People are three times more likely to get engaged during the holidays, but if you don't talk about money before you get married, bring on the problems and complications. In this episode, Julia and Sarabeth share ideas around moving to the next level or moving on. At the same time, offering tips that will put you in a place of power by protecting your pocketbook. We cover all the things – life, legal, and love.
Hello Prenup's Co-founders are CEO Julia Rodgers, a Boston-based family law attorney, and CTO Sarabeth Jaffe, a software engineer. Julia could identify a need when she witnessed the enormous cost and hesitancy of couples looking for prenuptial agreements. With her legal training in law and experience drafting prenups, Hello Prenup was born. Hello Prenup is a company created by women with women in mind because it's no secret women's finances are negatively impacted by divorce more than their husbands. People's desire for prenups has increased by 500% in the last twenty years. Millennials want prenups because most get married later in life and are more established. Julia Rodgers and Sarabeth Jaffe tell us all about their passion Hello Prenup, the first digital platform where you can create a prenup quickly from your own home for a fraction of the price. Hello Prenup has been featured in the Boston Globe, Geek Wire, Forbes, Reuters, Biz Women, and WCVB Channel 5, to name a few. For those who missed Hello Prenup's debut on ABC's Shark Tank, it was viewed by 5 million people.
Kerry Brett, Julia Rodgers, and Sarabeth Jaffe cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
Why do people want prenups, especially millennials?
The three reasons why people are hesitant to create a prenup, and how to overcome those challenges.
262,000 people search google monthly looking for information around prenups. Hello Prenup has the most knowledge and content on prenups and is the #1 resource.
Why a prenup decreases the stress in your relationship, enhances communication, and builds trust around the important things in marriage.
Communication is key, especially around finances. Finances affect everything, your health, well-being, where you live, and the trajectory of your life.
Make sure you're operating under the same basic principles and values; while making sure you have the big questions answered before the big day. Remember, you can always change your answers down the line as long as you communicate effectively.
Why a relationship is a collaboration and essentially a business deal.
Why women are more susceptible to financial ruin after divorce.
How to overcome anxiety around talking about your finances and put yourself in the best position to protect the assets you have.

If you'd like tips on discussing a prenup, go to helloprenup/discuss. To find out more information you can go to their website www.helloprenup.com. Follow on all social platforms, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter under Hello Prenup.

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In this special episode, I’m honored to welcome Natalie Lue, someone who has profoundly influenced the lives of countless individuals, including myself. Natalie Lue, a beacon of inspiration, joins us today. As a podcaster, speaker, artist, and renowned author, her remarkable works, particularly "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl," have left an indelible mark. Natalie's narrative is a testament to the transformative power of self-discovery.

Natalie's story is a tale of metamorphosis. In 2005, a debilitating illness and a tumultuous breakup with an emotionally distant partner ignited a spark of self-realization. Her experiences became the cornerstone for her incredible journey, which encompasses five best-selling books, the creation of Baggage Reclaim, an archive of over 16,000 enlightening blog entries, and a podcast that has touched the lives of millions of women across 140 countries. Her unwavering mission is to help others overcome abandonment, rejection, trauma, and the damaging effects of people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feelings of inadequacy.

Natalie Lue's impact extends far and wide. Her candid, compassionate, and humor-infused approach to relationships has gained her a global following. She's been recognized by esteemed outlets like The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC. Her books, including "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl," "The No Contact Rule," "The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship," and "Love, Care, Trust & Respect," with over 140,000 copies sold, have been pivotal in reshaping perspectives. Her podcast, "The Baggage Reclaim Sessions," has surpassed 2 million downloads. Furthermore, Harper Horizon published her latest book, "The Joy of Saying No," in October 2022.

Natalie's expertise is not confined to the world of self-help and relationships. She's also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog, Bambino Goodies. For the past 13.5 years, she has dedicated herself to full-time blogging, leaving behind a career in advertising. Natalie has shared her insights on relationships at numerous conferences worldwide, and her current focus encompasses subjects like people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity.

Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue dive into a rich and enlightening conversation. Natalie's remarkable ability to unravel complex relationship dynamics and her skillful articulation in "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" are highlighted. If you've ever grappled with feelings of unworthiness or questioned your value in the world of dating, this episode is a game-changer.

Natalie's unparalleled ability to identify and address relationship issues with unfiltered candor.
Unpacking the enigma of "Mr. Unavailable" and the emotional turmoil it entails.
The enduring impact of the book "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl."
How Natalie's work resonates with women worldwide, illuminating shared pains.
The societal conditioning that often leaves women with the short end of the stick in toxic relationships.
The imperative of never settling in matters of the heart.
A sobering glimpse into relationships with "Mr. Unavailable."
The importance of recognizing and navigating "Future Faking."
The phenomenon of "Fast Forwarding" and its fleeting intensity.

Connect with Natalie:
Stay connected with Natalie Lue on Instagram @natlue or visit her website at natalielue.com. You can find all her empowering books on Amazon and access her podcast, "The Baggage Reclaim Sessions," on all major podcast platforms.