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You have the power to transform your life and write your own love story, and today we'll hear from a special guest who did just that. Lisa Shield is a world-renowned love, dating, and relationship coach whose journey to love didn't start as a fairy tale. It began as an unhappily married fashion photographer who entered the dark room and emerged into a lighted hallway when she realized the stories we tell ourselves dictate who we become. We make it up, all of it. Lisa decided that if she was making it up, she might as well make it good. And that she had the power to change her life, take control of the narrative, and write a new story. She divorced, changed the portrait of a woman who was always sad, left a dysfunctional relationship, and embarked on a path of self-discovery. In two years, she went on 95 dates. On the 96th date, she met her husband, who encouraged her to become one of the first love coaches twenty years ago.

Lisa Shield is a love, dating, and heart-opening ninja with two decades of experience. She is a pioneer in the field of love coaching. Lisa earned a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and is a certified life and relationship coach. She has been a featured expert in The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, LA Times, ABC News, and Cosmopolitan, to name a few. Last year, twelve of Lisa's clients were married, and she officiated four of those weddings. She and her husband, Benjamin, have been together for over 20 years and live with their two dogs in Santa Fe, New Mexico.

Today we discuss what men want in a woman, and Lisa shares her wisdom while encouraging us to take power back and take control of our love life. Kerry Brett and Lisa Shield cover a lot of ground and topics, including:

Tips around the importance of being present on the first date.
Small acts of kindness, caring, and being a great listener can go a long way on the date.
Getting emotionally naked is the most challenging part, but if you let your guard down will gain an extra point on the date.
Look for your final five. Throw away the list that everyone has and create a relationship inventory that will lead you to your final five. And remember, he doesn't have the final five; you can't date him.
Men want to be hunters, and if we have a checklist and put them in a box, men are very sensitive to a woman who want to take away their freedom and clip their wings.
We must move away from looks; are we choosing someone from our heads or hearts?
There is a difference between being a strong, successful woman and being competitive.
Stop creating rules; every hoop you put up is another restriction on men. Men don't like jumping through hoops. Men want women who make their world bigger because you're in it.
No man is going to allow women to put them on a shortlist. You must understand that a man's bandwidth is smaller than a woman's.
There is a big difference between genuine emotion and drama.
We have to learn how to talk to men without getting passive-aggressive.
Lisa’s five shifts to find love.
To learn more about Lisa Shield, visit www.com, Instagram @lisashieldcoaching, and on Facebook under lisashieldcoaching. Listen to her podcast Finding the Guardian of Your Soul on all platforms where podcasts are found.