What Men Want Women To Know With Dating Expert & Author Barry Selby

03/29/22 • 49 min

What makes or breaks a relationship? The truth is another person can't make you happy; being fulfilled is an inside job. Today's guest is Barry Selby. He's helped thousands learn to love themselves. He's affectionately known as the "Love Doctor." Barry is an inspirational speaker, relationship expert, best-selling author, and spiritual guide. Most successful women rely on masculine energy to survive in the business world but often don't know how to shut it off. Barry is a champion for the divine feminine and he's dedicated to helping strong women attract relationships that equal who they are. Barry offers principles that will change how you experience romance and how to love and treat yourself.

Barry Selby is passionate about helping successful women create greater balance in love, life, and business. He's on a mission to awaken women to own and express their feminine magnificence in love and in the world. He's a relationship coach and a guide for singles seeking relationships and self-love. He has over 35 years of training and experience, including a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and more than two decades as a professional spiritual counselor. His #1 best-selling book, "50 Ways to Love Your Lover," helps singles and couples embody powerful principles for passionate and richly rewarding relationships. He brings deep compassion, a calm masculine presence, and wise guidance to assist his clients in their journey to true love. Barry epitomizes the perfect blend of practical, spiritual, tangible, and intangible in relationship coaching. In this week's episode, we'll learn about his approach to dating and love.

Kerry Brett and Barry Selby discuss masculine and feminine energy and why that needs to be in balance to find love. Topics include:

The polarity between the masculine and feminine.
You don't need the other person to complete you if you truly love someone. Come from a place of loving yourself first, which is the best place to attract a new relationship.
How to love from overfill and not love from a place of lack.
The difference between masculine and macho energy.
Masculine energy comes from having a strong spine and being single-focused.
Why women need to turn off the masculine energy that they use at work.
Feminine energy comes from the energy of the heart.
Why women don't trust their feminine energy.
Why women have a difficult time letting the man lead in dating.
Rule #45 in "50 Ways to Love Your Lover" Ladies, let your man be masculine and remember you are feminine. Don't compete for it, or you will lose in romance. Barry, can you expand on this?
Rule #42 is men and women attract each other differently. Men see attraction, and women feel attraction.
Why is it crucial to be grounded in your feminine as a woman in dating?
Barry Selby's advice for dating and healing a broken heart.
Why you want to be fulfilled as a single person? So, when you find a relationship, it just adds to who you are.
If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from men.
Why being single doesn't mean you are undesirable or unwanted. It means you know your value and are holding out for someone who is worthy and sees your worth.

To find out more about Barry Selby go to www.barryselby.com. All of his social he can be found under Barry Selby except on Instagram which is @therealbarryselby and you can talk to him directly on Clubhouse or watch his 1,400 videos on YouTube.

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Kerry Brett and Barry Selby discuss masculine and feminine energy and why that needs to be in balance to find love. Topics include:

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You Need A Dating Coach To Get Relationship Ready With Dating Coach, Lori Mendelsohn

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Today's guest is Lori Mendelsohn. She's a dating app profile writer, dating coach, and matchmaker. This week's topic is why you need a dating coach. Lori will break down the difference between a dating coach and a therapist and why there is such a huge difference. Dating coaches help you move into the future, identify your blocks and create a structure to achieve your goal faster. A dating coach gets you relationship ready while helping you break past patterns. Asking our family and friends for dating advice is not the best way to go because often we're asking advice from those who have never been on a dating app, which is why we should ask a professional. Lori shares why it's important to keep an open and curious mind– And like the great coach Ted Lasso said, "Be curious, not judgmental."

Lori Mendelsohn is a dating app profile writer, matchmaker, dating coach, and award-winning entrepreneur. She writes unique profiles that help you not only tell your story by adding some swagger, levity, and humor because, after all, laughter is the best Mendelsohn. Lori is excellent at helping you write a dating profile that stops suitors in their tracks. When Lori writes, you find love. In this episode, Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn break down why hiring a dating coach is in your best interest. Topics include;

You should be curious, not judgmental, because who's to say what type of person will make you happy. Stay curious; on a date, have a conversation of curiosity-ask the other person where they see themselves in five years? This question will give you a lot of information.
Why a dating coach can save you emotional energy and time when navigating these dating sites.
Dating coaches have a playbook and identify what skills you need to improve.
Setbacks are not failures; it's an opportunity to learn and course-correct once you realize your mistakes.
Why hiring a dating coach will help you discover what's not working and help you put a new plan in place.
Dating coaches will identify the patterns we need to break, remove blocks, and figure out why you are pulling in the same type of people.
How to build off of your strengths and put new strategies in place so you can play to win.
An investment in yourself is so worth it because what counts is the inside work you've done on yourself.
Why you shouldn't trust the opinions of friends or family and work with a professional.
Why blind spots are almost impossible to see when your heart is involved.
Look closely at the qualities you want in a partner. Are you focusing on the wrong things, or are you being overly selective?
This is not Build a Bear. You aren't assembling a stuffed animal. It's impossible to be all things to all people.
Why it's so important to live in the present and enjoy the moment without any expectations.

To learn more about Lori Mendelsohn and all of her services, go to www.avconnexions.com or email Lori at [email protected]. Follow on Instagram @avconnexions or follow her on Clubhouse under Lori Mendelsohn and check out her Clubhouse Club Single Over 50 every Tuesday at 6 PM (EST).

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Law Of Attraction, Manifest Love With Author Michael Losier

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This week is all about deliberate attraction! Today's guest is Michael Losier, author of the Law of Attraction. A book so powerful he's sold almost 4 million copies in 37 languages! We'll learn how to attract the perfect partner so you can get more of what you want and less of what you don't want. Have you ever noticed how people repeatedly find themselves in a bad relationship or complain about pulling in the same type of person? Well, the Law of Attraction is at work for them too. Michael's motto is you attract whatever you give attention, energy, and focus to, whether positive or negative. He'll share his 3-step process for deliberate attraction, how to let go of doubt and allow love into our lives. Michael will show us how to stop using the words don't, not, and no and how to reset your vibration because we all have the power to manifest incredible relationships and experiences.

Michael Losier is the author of best-selling books such as Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What you Want and Less of What you Don't, Law of Connection: The Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships and Your Life's Purpose. The movie The Secret brought international exposure to the subject of Law of Attraction. Michael's business flourished as a result, and Michael was branded as the "How-to-Guy" for teaching others how to use the Law of Attraction, and even caught the attention of Oprah Winfrey. Oprah interviewed him four times on her Soul Series Radio show on Sirius/XM satellite radio, and then Michael enjoyed a year-long run hosting his own radio show on Oprah & Friends Radio. He's been around the world twice teaching the Law of Attraction and has certified 470 Law of Attraction Facilitators in 17 countries. Michael shares evidence of the law of attraction around finding love and how we can get what we want if we deliberately use the Law of Attraction.

Kerry Brett and Michael Losier cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
How to become a deliberate attractor to attract your perfect partner.
Why allowing is the opposite of doubt.
How you can reset your vibration.
Why we should stop using the words, don't, not and no.
Why a belief is a word or a phrase you say repeatedly.
The importance of changing your vibration to attract love.
Why you should say daily, "I'm in the process of attracting my ideal partner."
Why you shouldn't tell your friends about a bad date.
To find out more about Michael Losier go to www.michaellosier.com, follow on Clubhouse under Michael Losier or on Instagram @michael_losier_loa. Purchase his book Law of Attraction or book an appointment at www.ReleasingNegativeEmotions.com