30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma (Season 2 Finale)
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08/08/21 • 72 min
Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face. This episode was recorded on IG Live on the day of our 1 year podversary!
**Content Warning: Child Abuse
Highlights:
- Kristy’s experience running away from home
- Angie’s experience as a new immigrant
- Kristy and Angie fall in love at question #22
- Kristy cries three times and Angie made her cry two of the times
- Friendship means loyalty, trust, and healthy support
Takeaway:
- Love and affection sustains life and it doesn’t always have to be for others
- Forgiving our caregivers for their past mistakes allows us to move forward
- It’s possible to repair your relationship with your Asian mom
- Normalize uncomfortable conversations instead of causing indirect harm by shame
- It’s your own approach to your own mental health journey that will yield the result you wish for
- Grab someone and say five characteristics that you like about the other person
Mentions & Resources:
- 36 Questions to Fall in Love
- Angie’s Medium: 36 Questions to Fall in Love
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Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face. This episode was recorded on IG Live on the day of our 1 year podversary!
**Content Warning: Child Abuse
Highlights:
- Kristy’s experience running away from home
- Angie’s experience as a new immigrant
- Kristy and Angie fall in love at question #22
- Kristy cries three times and Angie made her cry two of the times
- Friendship means loyalty, trust, and healthy support
Takeaway:
- Love and affection sustains life and it doesn’t always have to be for others
- Forgiving our caregivers for their past mistakes allows us to move forward
- It’s possible to repair your relationship with your Asian mom
- Normalize uncomfortable conversations instead of causing indirect harm by shame
- It’s your own approach to your own mental health journey that will yield the result you wish for
- Grab someone and say five characteristics that you like about the other person
Mentions & Resources:
- 36 Questions to Fall in Love
- Angie’s Medium: 36 Questions to Fall in Love
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Enjoyed this episode? Share with a friend! The best way to support this show is by listening. So thank you
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Previous Episode
29. Judging Our Life Choices: Cultural Identities and Love vs. Sex ft. Stephen Yuan
Is there a gender difference in how we think about sex, cope with depression, and priorities in life? Stephen Yuan shares his thoughts on how he navigates a semi-open relationship, getting out of low points, and his fascination with studying porn. Stephen is a co-host on “Stories with Stephen Yuan” Podcast. This is an interesting episode because we don’t always agree with each other in this conversation.
**Content Warning: Consensual rape porn is discussed**
Highlights:
- How to deal with your Asian identity as an Asian ex-pat in China
- Stephen's weirdest sexual fetish experience with a woman
- Is there a gender difference in how we cope with depression?
- What separates love from sex?
- How internet porn has affected millennial men and women
Takeaways:
- We don't need to force our own coping mechanisms onto others
- You can be clear and upfront about what you want and not be an asshole at the same time
- We often shame and judge people based on their life choices, sexual preference, relationship style, careers etc. This hurts us all. Respect each other's choices
- Therapy helps you recognize and process emotions instead of pretending they're not there
- Recognize your every day wins
- It's okay for men to "not be in the mood" as well
Mentions & Resources:
- Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by. Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (Book)
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Next Episode
31. Our Shit: Parenting Guilt and Living For Our Own Happiness
Kristy and Angie are back for a new season and they update everyone on what has been going on in their lives. Angie talks about (puppy) parenting guilt and Kristy talks about living her new life in another city. Angie reflects on a childhood incident that had impacted her deeply. Kristy reflects on pursuing an experience for herself and not for filial piety obligations.
**Content warning: Death, childhood trauma
Takeaway:
- We begin to understand our parents more when we step into parental roles
- We are not responsible for the happiness of our parents and vice versa
- Being forced to bring joy to the rest of the family suppresses other emotions and we end up equating our value with displaying feel good emotions
- Emotional boundaries and codependency are a two way street and sometimes we forget that we also hold back our parents from living their best life
- Drawing boundaries with your parents will not dissolve your relationship with them, and might make it even better
Mentions & Resources:
- Coping Parent Guilt
- Mom Guilt: Causes & 10 Tips for Overcoming
- Sew Koo: Scrunchies and masks by Natalie Koo
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Shit We Don't Tell Mom - 30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma (Season 2 Finale)
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30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma
Angie Yu: Christie. Oh my goodness. You're making such a big mess
[00:00:03] Kristy Yee: and we haven't even started drinking yet.
[00:00:05]
[00:00:30] This is live and so things are going to get messy. First thing is first is I really want to drink champagne. Are you ready for this?
[00:00:37] Angie Yu: Welcome back to another episode of shit
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