Shit We Don't Tell Mom
Kristy Yee & Angie Yu
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11. Imposter Syndrome and the Cyber-toothed Tiger
Shit We Don't Tell Mom
10/04/20 • 53 min
How do we find fulfillment in our day-to-day jobs? In this episode, Kristy and Angie talk about the career fog that many of us Millennials are trying to find a way out of as we grapple with imposter syndrome, quarter-life crisis, and the crippling fear of failure and social rejection. Added bonus of some ASMR and coochie-cleaning hacks.
Highlights:
- Kristy attempts at SWDTM ASMR edition
- Imposter syndrome and chasing the non-existent “perfect job”
- Cyber-toothed tiger and fear of social rejection
- Nietschze and eat your fucking chips!
- Angie role plays with Kristy
Takeaway:
- There is no perfect job and we need to look at both extern and internal factors to our dissatisfaction
- Check in on yourself when you’re judging yourself and others
- We can’t control our feelings, but we can control our thoughts
- Work through the fear; practice exposure scenarios with friends and start small
Resources:
- The Imposter Syndrome (Video)
- Philosophize This! (Podcast)
- Angie’s Medium piece on life’s checklist (Article)
- Exposure Therapy for Anxiety (Article)
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10. The F (ailure) Word ft. Calven Wang
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09/20/20 • 52 min
Failure: the word we have learned to fear in an Asian household. In this episode, Calven Wang joins us with his perspective on how to overcome the fear of failure, relationship advice for singles, and how we can improve ourselves. He’s also got this bomb ass relationship with his mom that involves hugging.
Highlights:
- First break up with a girlfriend
- The pressures from family to “be someone”
- From 1.49 GPA to being a TA
- Being jealous in a relationship
Takeaway:
- There is a difference between seeking comfort and seeking improvement
- Get life advice from people who don't know you very well
- Many relationship issues can be resolved by bettering yourself
- Unload your shit with different people rather than the same select few
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9. Depression, Distractions, and Dopamine
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09/06/20 • 75 min
This episode shows the realistic experience, thoughts, and feelings when we were both depressed at the same time. We talk about potential coping methods and understanding the different drivers that keep us going.
Highlights:
- Is it possible to have TOO many plants as a millennial plant mama?
- Changing external factors like our environment and the way we look to deal with how we feel internally is only temporary
- Kristy likes to make a man shape with her fingers
- Oxytocin, the "love hormone" and dopamine, "the achievement hormone"
- Angie swears to god she's not high
Takeaway:
- Talking to someone you trust, even for a little bit, can give you the boost you need to come out of the dark trenches
- If it's too difficult to journal, send voice notes to yourself or someone you trust if it's something you are comfortable to share
- It's not always obvious that we're depressed, and sometimes it becomes more obvious to others than yourself, but it's okay. Take the time to understand your own cycles and process
Resources:
- The 3 Emotion Regulation Systems (Coping Systems) (Article)
- Oxytocin and long term relationships (Article)
- Oxytocin and female orgasms (Article)
- Master Your Emotions by Thibaut Meurisse (Book)
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8. Chinese Moms: From Confucianism to IUDs
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08/23/20 • 49 min
This episode is all about our Chinese moms: their stories, our mother-daughter relationships, and the ever uncomfortable shit when we try to talk with them.
Highlights:
- Angie reconciles the disrespect she had for her parents
- Kristy shares her mom’s story about coming to Canada
- Physical vs Emotional boundaries with our mothers
- Short term vs. long term pain in relationships
- Our moms are having more sex than we are
Takeaway:
- Physical boundaries can be very helpful in maintaining healthy relationships. But it’s also an easy way to avoid having uncomfortable talks about emotional boundaries. It’s time to get uncomfortable.
- Concepts of filial piety are more universal than we may think.
- If you have the privilege, ask your family about their immigration story.
- Sometimes we just need to rip the bandaid off. Which area in life are you using a bandaid?
- Go on a friend date with your mom.
Resources:
- Twitter: Tony Lin @tony_zy
- All Is Well (TV Drama)
- The Empty Nest Companion by Susan Gross and Briget Bishop (Book)
- The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan (Book)
- What is Reparenting and How To Begin (Article)
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7. Astrology, Gryffindor, and Chop Suey
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08/09/20 • 61 min
Chop Suey literally translates to “random pieces” in Cantonese. In this episode, Kristy & Angie cook up some chop suey of random shit including filial piety, Chinese Canadian history, and Asian representation in the BLM movement. Of course, there’s some Harry Potter and astrology goodness as well.
Highlights:
- What does it mean to “be present”
- China is basically Westeros
- Juneteenth March 2020
- Defining confirmation bias
- Old vs. New Chinese immigrants
- Which Pottermore houses are Kristy & Angie in
Takeaway:
- If stories are not shared, they will be lost forever
- Everything we know - labels, stereotypes, astrology, even science - that is all human conjecture
- Our everyday action will determine if we progress or regress as a society
Resources:
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- IG: @blackvancouver
- Chop Suey Nation by Ann Hui (Book)
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5. How I Was Diagnosed With Depression At 12
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07/12/20 • 54 min
Kristy talks about her diagnosis with depression and anxiety at age 12 as well as what happened after she got discharged from the psych ward. We explore how her first encounter with mental health professionals has changed the way she views the healthcare and public school system in the 00s compared to what it is like today.
Highlights:
- Kristy’s genius idea and how well it worked out
- What does it mean to be labeled a “troubled kid” in the school system
- Sharing the same psychiatrist as your dad
Takeaway:
- Labels do not define you. Neither does your diagnosis
- You don’t need to have a full-blown anxiety attack before seeking mental health support
- Mental health symptoms often start small and unrecognized
- Toxic masculinity is a huge disadvantage for boys/men. It blinds everyone from noticing mental health symptoms
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2. Meet Kristy at Emotional Baggage Claim
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06/14/20 • 43 min
Kristy shares the detailed story of when she was institutionalized and put in the psych ward in a Children's Hospital at age 12. We explore how well-meaning adults can significantly change the course of someone's childhood and how the approach to mental health care has changed since 2002. Content warning: violence.
Highlights:
- Defining "Emotional Baggage"
- Being bullied and being the bully
- Acting out from childhood emotional neglect
Takeaway:
- Everyone has a vulnerable story
- Making assumptions serves no one. You never know what is beyond the surface level
- Talking out loud about your traumatic experiences helps you process it for yourself
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1. What Is Our Shit? Introducing Kristy & Angie
Shit We Don't Tell Mom
06/14/20 • 59 min
In this episode, we get to know Kristy and Angie on a personal level about who they are and why they decided to share their personal stories with the internet. We touch briefly on what it was like growing up in East Vancouver, their favourite memory of each other, and their experiences so far in their own mental health journey.
Highlights:
- Monkey prostitution (you read that right)
- What makes Kristy & Angie cringe
- When Kristy gave herself an English name
- How to sit
- Parenting your parents
- What does it mean to be selfish
Takeaways:
- Talking about uncomfortable shit gives us permission to untaboo it
- Costumes: shit you don't want to talk about internally but pretend it's okay externally
Resources:
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20. What Makes Me Bipolar
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02/28/21 • 54 min
What is bipolar disorder, what does it mean, and who has it? Do you think someone you care about might be bipolar? In this episode, your hosts Kristy and Angie sit down to finally talk about a long-awaited topic: Angie’s bipolar disorder. Content warning: mania, depression, suicide.
Highlights:
- We take a stab at defining bipolar disorders
- How bipolar disorders are classified
- How to help yourself when diagnosed with something unfamiliar
- The stigmatization and misrepresentation of bipolar disorder
- How to call out someone who is being an asshole
Takeaways:
- Bipolar depression, like unipolar depression, is a mood disorder
- Medication is here to help, not to stigmatize
- Sleep is very f*cking important!
- A successful relationship (bipolar or not) needs communication!
- Counsellor: RMT, Psychologist: Physio, Psychiatrist: Physician
Resources:
- BP Hope - Hope and Harmony for People with Bipolar
- How Manic Depression Became Bipolar Disorder
- The History of Bipolar Disorder
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16. Embracing Your Sexuality
Shit We Don't Tell Mom
01/03/21 • 55 min
Sex is everywhere but it is also taboo. Why? And how can we overcome this shyness around sex so we can embrace our own sexuality? **Content Warning**: criminalized sex is discussed in this episode.
Highlights:
- Why is Sex Taboo?
- How do we define sex?
- What happens when we feel pressured to be a sexy
- Have confidence and self-esteem in bed
- What Angie needs to have an orgasm
Takeaway:
- Physical intimacy does not equal emotional intimacy
- Be okay with where you are at in your sexual self-discovery
- Tell your partner what you want in bed
- Let's change our definition of sex as a society by not trying to define sex for everybody. It's different
Resources:
- Reddit: How come sex and sexuality is taboo...
- Psychology Today: Why is Sex Taboo?
- The Maudern: Why is Sex Still Taboo?
- The Ripper (Docu-series)
- The Imitation Game (Movie)
- Ethical Slut (Book)
- OMGYes.com
Episodes mentioned:
- Ep.12: Codependency and Intergenerational Trauma ft. William Shaw
- Ep.15: Flatulence, Love, and Discomfort
Fellow Nominees for “Best Wellness Podcast” Asian Podcast Awards 2020:
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FAQ
How many episodes does Shit We Don't Tell Mom have?
Shit We Don't Tell Mom currently has 82 episodes available.
What topics does Shit We Don't Tell Mom cover?
The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Asian American, Society & Culture, Personal Growth, Chinese, Personal Journals, Self-Help, Mental Health, Family, Wellness, Self Help, Self Love, Podcasts, Millennial, Relationships, Self Growth and Mindfulness.
What is the most popular episode on Shit We Don't Tell Mom?
The episode title 'Ep. 9: Depression, Distractions, and Dopamine' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Shit We Don't Tell Mom?
The average episode length on Shit We Don't Tell Mom is 59 minutes.
How often are episodes of Shit We Don't Tell Mom released?
Episodes of Shit We Don't Tell Mom are typically released every 13 days, 23 hours.
When was the first episode of Shit We Don't Tell Mom?
The first episode of Shit We Don't Tell Mom was released on Jun 14, 2020.
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