Shit We Don't Tell Mom
Kristy Yee & Angie Yu
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22. Social Justice with Your Asian Parents ft. Irving Chong (Asians in Space)
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04/11/21 • 57 min
Irving Chong from Asians in Space joins us to share his experience growing up in Alberta, Canada as one of the few Asian kids in the neighbourhood. We discuss what a “rotten banana” is, growing up inside a bubble, shaming people in “doing the right thing”, and how we can talk about social justice with our Chinese parents.
Highlights:
- What does it mean to be an Asian Canadian Millennial?
- Growing up as a Chinese Kid who loved Black culture in a White conservative city
- What is the role of social media activism?
- Angie feeling ashamed of liking hip hop music
- How the Chinese cultural revolution affects the way we communicate with our parents about social justice
Takeaways:
- Culture and identity is less about where you are from and more about where you belong
- Be curious about why someone else might think differently from you
- It takes multiple conversations to get through the cultural, generational, (and maybe language) barriers
- Bring kindness, compassion, and patience into any conversation
- The point isn’t for your parents to agree, it’s for your parents to understand your perspectives and for you to see theirs too
Resources:
- Asians in Space (Podcast)
- The Asn Canadian (Instagram)
- Fresh Off The Boat by Eddie Huang (Book)
- For the Culture by Irving Chong (Paper on What it means to be an Asian Canadian Millennial)
- Unlocking Us: Shame & Accountability by Brene Brown (Podcast)
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21. Managing Expectations as an Asian Millennial ft. Natalie Cheung (Yellow Bee Pod)
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03/14/21 • 66 min
Natalie from Yellow Bee Pod joins us to share her experience transitioning out of her civil engineering job to an outspoken supporter of Asian identity and women in STEM. We talk about what our parents’ expectations of us are growing up, our own expectations of what our life will look like, and how those expectations have changed as we approach milestones in our adulthood.
Highlights:
- Natalie kept her new job secret for six months before telling her mom
- Keeping your career plans to yourselves because it's easier than explaining it to your immigrant parents
- What we thought being an adult would be like versus what it’s actually like
- What emigrating was like for our moms when they were young
- We open up a safe space to discuss what we know and what we should know about Asian incels
Takeaways:
- Turning away from the expectations of your parents can happen at any time in your life
- Our parents never had a open-communication relationship with their parents, so it’s up to us to initiate that as our generation’s contribution
- Good grades, good university, and good job does not always equal happily ever after
- Our immigrant parents craved stability but did not have it and now they want that stability for us
- Median warps representation of all groups, whether it’s religion, incels, or our own communities
Resources:
- Natalie's Yellow Bee Pod
- Yellow Bee Pod (Instagram)
- Rice to Meet You Pod with Evelyn Mok and Nigel Ng (Instagram)
- Never Have I Ever (Netflix)
- To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
- Asian America: The Ken Fong Podcast
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18. Masturbation & Sexual Consent ft. Karen Zheng (MX Asian American) - Part 2
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01/31/21 • 65 min
How did you learn about sex? Did you have sex first or masturbate first? Did you ever get the “sex talk” from your parents/guardians? This is a special episode where Karen from MX Asian American Podcast interviews us about our sexual awakening, what is sexual consent, and how we learned to have sex.
Highlights:
- When Karen walked in on her parents having sex
- Kristy’s first time using a vibrator
- Angie’s first time watching porn
- What happened when Kristy & Angie got the “sex talk” from our moms
- How sex ed has changed from Millennials to Gen Zs
- Why is masturbation so embarrassing to talk about
Takeaways:
- Masturbation can be super empowering
- Sexual consent is needed
- Trying to mimic porn is not a good idea
- Sex education should also include positive connotations such as how sex feels and exploring emotional connections with partners
Resources:
- MX Asian American (Podcast)
- Yaoi Manga (Gay Manga)
- Chanel Miller (Website)
- Me Too Movement (Website)
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17. Exploring Our Sexual Identities ft. Karen Zheng (MX Asian American) - Part 1
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01/17/21 • 55 min
How are our sexual identities formed? Is it from the media that we consume like magazines and porn? And how do we go about unlearning the dysfunctional and destructive ideas around sexuality and body image? **Content Warning**: anorexia nervosa and behaviours of disordered eating is discussed in this episode.
Highlights:
- Learning about sex from magazines and porn
- Trauma from parents who enforce gender roles
- Karen’s journey in accepting her queer identity
- Religious beliefs and how they influence sexual taboos
- Inheriting body dysmorphia
Takeaways:
- Closed-mindedness can hurt your loved ones
- Internalized homophobia can develop from parental pressure
- There are resources out there other than mainstream porn
- Different people want different experiences, there is no one size fits all
- You don’t need a diagnosis to improve your mental health
Resources:
- Mx Asian American on Instagram
- Matt D’Avella on Youtube
- Chester 5000 XYV (NSFW)
- Curvy (NSFW)
- Strictly Dumpling (Mike Chen)
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23. Masculinity ft. Lance Gee & Eric Wu (Off the Wok)
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04/25/21 • 75 min
2 Asian men get vulnerable with us and share their fears, shames, and insecurities. Lance Gee and Eric Wu from over at Off The Wok discuss losing a job, feeling suicidal, de-sexualization of Asian men, and starting all over from failures. Check out this hilarious episode that takes a turn for a deep dive into the Asian male psyche as Lance and Eric get super vulnerable with us. Content warning: suicide
Highlights:
- Going back to school and restarting a career with a family
- Eric’s fear of water (what?) but he takes showers every day
- Losing your job as the “man” of the family
- Asian male representation in media
- Lance and Eric overcoming the lowest points of their lives
Takeaways:
- The shame comes from comparisons and it ruins us
- Our judgements of others are projections of our own insecurities
- People don’t give a crap, so give a crap about yourself
- Provide non-judgmental support and a safe space for the men in your life
- Everyone’s low point is different but they are all painful and valid
Resources:
- Off The Wok (Podcast)
- Off The Wok (Instagram)
- Why I’m Done Trying to Be “Man Enough” (Ted Talk)
- Crisis Centre Helpline (Canada)
- Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA)
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30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma (Season 2 Finale)
Shit We Don't Tell Mom
08/08/21 • 72 min
Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face. This episode was recorded on IG Live on the day of our 1 year podversary!
**Content Warning: Child Abuse
Highlights:
- Kristy’s experience running away from home
- Angie’s experience as a new immigrant
- Kristy and Angie fall in love at question #22
- Kristy cries three times and Angie made her cry two of the times
- Friendship means loyalty, trust, and healthy support
Takeaway:
- Love and affection sustains life and it doesn’t always have to be for others
- Forgiving our caregivers for their past mistakes allows us to move forward
- It’s possible to repair your relationship with your Asian mom
- Normalize uncomfortable conversations instead of causing indirect harm by shame
- It’s your own approach to your own mental health journey that will yield the result you wish for
- Grab someone and say five characteristics that you like about the other person
Mentions & Resources:
- 36 Questions to Fall in Love
- Angie’s Medium: 36 Questions to Fall in Love
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34. I Dated A Narcissist For 6 Years
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11/14/21 • 40 min
What is it like to date a narcissist? What happens when you get triggered by other people’s breakup? Living with depression and bipolar, we sometimes wonder if we are the “bad” person in a relationship. So when a narcissist who seems like the “perfect” person comes along and gaslights you, you might end up believing them. Angie shares how she felt during her 6-year relationship with a narcissist and how she was triggered by a famous YouTube couple that recently broke up.
Takeaway:
- Narcissistic people will always portray themselves as "perfect" so other ppl will be on their side
- Always go with your gut feelings; they're there to protect you
- You can never fully judge the quality of someone else's relationship just by looking from the outside
- Love bombing: when you're being showered with love and affection only to have the person stop so they can manipulate you with their "love".
- Trauma bonding: bonding over shared trauma without seeking other perspectives can be harmful
- Narcissists use tactics to control you and their own image
- It's better to offer a friend perspectives rather than always agreeing with them
- Overanalyzing a situation can cause you more pain
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35. The Financial, Physical, and Mental Costs of Our Periods
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11/28/21 • 53 min
IUDs. Sex during periods. Pain. Discomfort. The tampon tax and all the other costs associated with our menstruations. Kristy and Angie tackle some burning questions about the ever so enduring, unbelievably persistent, biological event we unwillingly go through - our periods. We hit up our male friends and asked them to tell us something they know about menstruation and then ask something they want to know about menstruation.
Takeaways:
- We need men to do the work to normalize periods for everyone
- Periods are expensive, and pads and tampons are just the tip of the icebergs
- Severe menstrual cramps are debilitating, physically and mentally
- Just because we experience periods on a regular (or not so regular) basis, does not dilute its severity or legitimacy
Mentions & Resources:
- IUD Expulsion: is it as scary as it sounds?
- Intrauterine Devices (IUDs)
- What is Dysmenorrhea?
- Effects of Premenstrual Symptoms on Bipolar
- Ovulation. Breastfeeding, and Being A Chinese Daughter ft. Georgie Mah
- Building Resiliency and Tearing Down Facades ft. Steven Ngo
- Social Justice with Your Asian Parents ft. Irving Chong
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40. Hanging Out With Your Inner Child
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02/06/22 • 53 min
Inner child. Trauma. Reparenting. The Little Prince. In this episode, we sit down to talk about the first time that we confronted our inner child and how we rekindled that relationship. We dive into our definition of inner child and how we practice hanging out with our inner child. Angie also shares her experience with imaginary exposure therapy which exposed some of her deep inner child wounds.
Takeaways:
- Connecting with your inner child can be done by interacting with a younger version of yourself
- Don’t stop doing things you enjoyed doing as a child
- You don’t need a therapist or a counsellor to heal your inner child but you must want to do the work to heal
- Inner child wounds that go unattended can turn into toxic behaviours as adults
- We can now provide for our wounded inner child
Mentions & Resources:
- The Little Prince and You (Angie’s story)
- Le Petit Prince
- 6 Signs You Have a Wounded Inner Child (Psych2Go Youtube)
- Finding and Getting to Know Your Inner Child
- Healing Your Inner Child
- Deep Secrets and Inner Child Healing
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5. How I Was Diagnosed With Depression At 12
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07/12/20 • 54 min
Kristy talks about her diagnosis with depression and anxiety at age 12 as well as what happened after she got discharged from the psych ward. We explore how her first encounter with mental health professionals has changed the way she views the healthcare and public school system in the 00s compared to what it is like today.
Highlights:
- Kristy’s genius idea and how well it worked out
- What does it mean to be labeled a “troubled kid” in the school system
- Sharing the same psychiatrist as your dad
Takeaway:
- Labels do not define you. Neither does your diagnosis
- You don’t need to have a full-blown anxiety attack before seeking mental health support
- Mental health symptoms often start small and unrecognized
- Toxic masculinity is a huge disadvantage for boys/men. It blinds everyone from noticing mental health symptoms
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FAQ
How many episodes does Shit We Don't Tell Mom have?
Shit We Don't Tell Mom currently has 82 episodes available.
What topics does Shit We Don't Tell Mom cover?
The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Asian American, Society & Culture, Personal Growth, Chinese, Personal Journals, Self-Help, Mental Health, Family, Wellness, Self Help, Self Love, Podcasts, Millennial, Relationships, Self Growth and Mindfulness.
What is the most popular episode on Shit We Don't Tell Mom?
The episode title 'Ep. 9: Depression, Distractions, and Dopamine' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Shit We Don't Tell Mom?
The average episode length on Shit We Don't Tell Mom is 59 minutes.
How often are episodes of Shit We Don't Tell Mom released?
Episodes of Shit We Don't Tell Mom are typically released every 13 days, 23 hours.
When was the first episode of Shit We Don't Tell Mom?
The first episode of Shit We Don't Tell Mom was released on Jun 14, 2020.
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