17. Exploring Our Sexual Identities ft. Karen Zheng (MX Asian American) - Part 1

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Highlights:

Learning about sex from magazines and porn
Trauma from parents who enforce gender roles
Karen’s journey in accepting her queer identity
Religious beliefs and how they influence sexual taboos
Inheriting body dysmorphia

Takeaways:

Closed-mindedness can hurt your loved ones
Internalized homophobia can develop from parental pressure
There are resources out there other than mainstream porn
Different people want different experiences, there is no one size fits all
You don’t need a diagnosis to improve your mental health

Resources:

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Previous Episode

16. Embracing Your Sexuality

Sex is everywhere but it is also taboo. Why? And how can we overcome this shyness around sex so we can embrace our own sexuality? **Content Warning**: criminalized sex is discussed in this episode.
Highlights:

Why is Sex Taboo?
How do we define sex?
What happens when we feel pressured to be a sexy
Have confidence and self-esteem in bed
What Angie needs to have an orgasm

Takeaway:

Physical intimacy does not equal emotional intimacy
Be okay with where you are at in your sexual self-discovery
Tell your partner what you want in bed
Let's change our definition of sex as a society by not trying to define sex for everybody. It's different

Resources:

Reddit: How come sex and sexuality is taboo...
Psychology Today: Why is Sex Taboo?
The Maudern: Why is Sex Still Taboo?
The Ripper (Docu-series)
The Imitation Game (Movie)
Ethical Slut (Book)
OMGYes.com

Episodes mentioned:

Fellow Nominees for “Best Wellness Podcast” Asian Podcast Awards 2020:

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18. Masturbation & Sexual Consent ft. Karen Zheng (MX Asian American) - Part 2

How did you learn about sex? Did you have sex first or masturbate first? Did you ever get the “sex talk” from your parents/guardians? This is a special episode where Karen from MX Asian American Podcast interviews us about our sexual awakening, what is sexual consent, and how we learned to have sex.

Highlights:

When Karen walked in on her parents having sex
Kristy’s first time using a vibrator
Angie’s first time watching porn
What happened when Kristy & Angie got the “sex talk” from our moms
How sex ed has changed from Millennials to Gen Zs
Why is masturbation so embarrassing to talk about

Takeaways:

Masturbation can be super empowering
Sexual consent is needed
Trying to mimic porn is not a good idea
Sex education should also include positive connotations such as how sex feels and exploring emotional connections with partners

Resources:

MX Asian American (Podcast)
Yaoi Manga (Gay Manga)
Chanel Miller (Website)
Me Too Movement (Website)

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