
EPISODE 443: Never BEG Someone To Be With You!
11/07/18 • 11 min
Knowing the difference between begging and becoming is essential in BEING valuable, worthy, and desirable. These 4 keys are required.
Today’s S.O.L. Story is inspired by a very personal, yet common, story of NO COMPROMISE...
I started many of my relationships in a state of compromise, until I woke up and realized that I was going to love me...and stop begging for something I already had.
I STOPPED COMPROMISING!
I STOPPED BEGGING AND STARTED BECOMING.
They both start with BE, but take us on very different journeys.
You must STOP compromising and...
1. Know your value.
2. Know your worth.
3. Know your desires.
4. OWN THEM.
Yes, own them.
For your OWN.
Are YOU with YOU?
You become desirable when you OWN your ability to desire.
Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)
TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:
Where in your life have you been begging someone or something to make YOU feel valuable, worthy, or desirable?
You become desirable when you OWN your ability to desire.
Are you ready to OWN IT?
Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you’re drowning, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
I’d be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at [email protected]
Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/
By the way, if you haven't already listened/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.
Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets...and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.
I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.
xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.
A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast...
Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL
Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)
Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)
Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)
Knowing the difference between begging and becoming is essential in BEING valuable, worthy, and desirable. These 4 keys are required.
Today’s S.O.L. Story is inspired by a very personal, yet common, story of NO COMPROMISE...
I started many of my relationships in a state of compromise, until I woke up and realized that I was going to love me...and stop begging for something I already had.
I STOPPED COMPROMISING!
I STOPPED BEGGING AND STARTED BECOMING.
They both start with BE, but take us on very different journeys.
You must STOP compromising and...
1. Know your value.
2. Know your worth.
3. Know your desires.
4. OWN THEM.
Yes, own them.
For your OWN.
Are YOU with YOU?
You become desirable when you OWN your ability to desire.
Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)
TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:
Where in your life have you been begging someone or something to make YOU feel valuable, worthy, or desirable?
You become desirable when you OWN your ability to desire.
Are you ready to OWN IT?
Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you’re drowning, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
I’d be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at [email protected]
Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/
By the way, if you haven't already listened/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.
Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets...and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.
I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.
xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.
A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast...
Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL
Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)
Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)
Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)
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EPISODE 442: It’s So Much Harder To Go SMALL
Today’s S.O.L. Story was inspired by my recent move back to New York City.
The first time I moved here I came with only 3 suitcases and a BIG DREAM!
I started with NOTHING but what was inside me...which was BIG!
Even though it was a BIG move, the transition was comfortable...okay, COMFORTABLY uncomfortable! :)
The second time I moved here it was so much easier to plan, and prepare to get here.
HOWEVER, it’s been HUGELY UNCOMFORTABLE...and so much harder than when I imagined.
Why?
I moved from BIG to SMALL.
But I still held on to BIG.
Lesson #1: When you move to small, you must let go of BIG so you can EXPAND AND GROW BIGGER.
There is an UPSIZE to DOWNSIZE...as long as you’re willing to let go of the SUPER SIZE mindset.
More isn’t always MORE.
Bigger isn’t always BETTER, but it is BOTH BIG AND SMALL.
In order to go bigger you must go small to expand and grow tall.
As Lady Gaga said in her documentary, Five Foot Two, “The truth is, I can always bring my past with me, but I can never go back. You’ve got to leave yourself behind.”
Are you willing to leave the old behind and become something new and BIGGER?
Lesson #2: Whether it’s BIG or SMALL, the same steps are necessary, so GO BIG or GO HOME.
Whether you’re building small or building big, you start small and the same steps are required.
YOU MUST DO THE WORK.
AND going from big to small creates a lot of unnecessary steps that reap no benefits.
When you go BIG, the results warrant the steps...otherwise they’re like EMPTY calories. You’re putting in a lot of energy, but getting no benefit.
Lesson #3 You were designed to go from small to big — naturally.
Growth is natural.
Going from small to big is natural.
What’s not natural is going from big to small, unless you’re willing to let go of BIG.
What’s the “natural process” of growth showing and telling you about going from SMALL to BIG?
Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)
TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:
Where in your life are you trying to force your BIG into something SMALL?
It’s going to cause you a lot of unnecessary time and energy.
Release yourself, my dear!
GO BIG + GO HOME!
Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you’re drowning, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
I’d be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at [email protected]
Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/
By the way, if you haven't already listened/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.
Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets...and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.
I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.
xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.
A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast...
Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL
Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)
Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)
Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)
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EPISODE 444: What To Do When You “Drop The Ball”
It’s that moment when you realize that you’ve forgotten something, or simply lost track of something.
I call it, “Misplacing something in my schedule.”
And what really happened is that it DIDN’T GET PLACED ON THE SCHEDULE.
My first response was, “Oops! Wow, I can’t believe that happened.”
Then I felt kinda bad — l felt like I had been irresponsible.
I felt judged — by myself.
Have you ever dropped a metaphorical “ball” in your life? Of course you have.
We all have!
Then we judge ourselves...
Have you ever done this?
BUT...
This time I’m doing something different!
Right now I’m asking myself these 4 things in order to answer the question of “Now what?”
The next time this happens to you, try this...
1. Ask yourself why you were carrying it in the first place.
2. Ask yourself why you dropped it, but only for learning...not loathing on yourself.
3. Ask yourself if you’d like to pick it up again.
4. If the answer is yes, then pick it up. If the answer is no, then make the decision to lay It down and keep moving ahead.
Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)
TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:
Have you dropped "the ball” lately?
What “ball” have you dropped?
Take yourself through these 4 steps and see what happens for you...
Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you’re drowning, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
I’d be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at [email protected]
Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/
By the way, if you haven't already listened/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.
Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets...and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.
I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.
xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.
A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast...
Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL
Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)
Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)
Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)
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