Sex With Dr. Jess

What do you do when one partner wants to open up the relationship; and the other wants to stay monogamous? How do you broach the topic? What issues tend to arise among discordant couples? Dr. Liz Powell is an author, sex educator, keynote speaker, and licensed psychologist specializing in non-traditional relationships. They join us to weigh in on this topic and share their perspective as a therapist who also identifies as polyamorous. Over the last 4 years, Liz's book, Building Open Relationships, has helped non-monogamous people around the world grow and strengthen their relationship(s). One person even said it was the “most helpful, up-to-date book on ethical non-monogamy.” Building Open Relationships is a practical, applied resource to help you navigate the world of ethical non-monogamy. As a sex educator and psychologist, Liz believes that Great Sex Can Change The World; and is on a mission to help as many people as they can - to understand and embrace the sexual revolution that’s happening in the world right now. While they are so glad the book has been able to reach so many folks and provide them with some resources, they know that there are folks who haven't been able to access it yet because, until now, it's only been available in print and e-book. Because their mission is to help as many people as they can, they believe that they have a responsibility to make their work accessible to all, so they're doing an Indiegogo campaign so that they can finally record an audiobook! Click here to find out more. Don't forget to give Dr. Liz a follow on Instagram and Twitter! Thank you to AdamAndEve.com for their ongoing support of our program. Please use code DRJESS when shopping to save 50% off almost any single item + get FREE gifts and free shipping. Don't forget to check out www.HappierCouples.com and Dr. Jess' Mindful Sex, Mindblowing Oral (Penis and Clit Editions), Last Longer in Bed and other courses to liven up your sex life. Get 25% OFF when you use code PODCAST. Have fun and explore your body (and your partner's) in the bedroom with We-Vibe and Womanizer! Use code DRJESS to save at WeVibe.com and be sure to check out their sale section this week. If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Discordant Couples: When One Partner Wants An Open Relationship Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and Relationship Advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your coach co host, Brandon. We're here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey, we are going to get right into it because our guest is ready to go. The lovely Dr. Liz Powell is a psychologist, a sex educator, a speaker, an incredible author of Building Open Relationships, which is a guide that I've recommended in the past. It's a really practical resource to help you navigate the world of ethical non monogamy. It's not just the theory. It's also like, well, here are some things I should think about. Here are some things that I might want to reflect upon. Here are some ways to start that conversation. This book has been super helpful to me, super helpful to many clients. So I'm super excited to have Dr. Liz with us right now. Thanks for being here. Thank you so much for having me again and for all those compliments on my book. That's so lovely to hear. Thank you. Now, your book has been in print and it's been an ebook,

Boost your confidence and skills when it comes to giving (and receiving) oral sex. There are no sure-fire tips or techniques for better blow jobs, but Jess & Brandon have some insights to help you discover new pathways to pleasure. From the "Liquid Trace" to the "Air Head" to the "F-Spot", tune in to discover novel approaches to blow your lover's mind. And if you want to take your blow jobs to the next level, check out our Mind Blowing Oral video course and use code PODCAST to save 25%. Thank you to Womanizer for their ongoing support of our podcast. Use code DRJESS to save at Womanizer.com and be sure to check out their SALE section this week. If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. Find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Better Blow Jobs Pt I Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon. We're here with my lovely other other half, dr. Jess. You're smiling. Is it because we're talking about blowjobs? Tis is it? It's one of the many reasons I'm smiling. Why else are you smiling? Because our conversation has us very close together today. We are coming at you recording in a very different spot. Today we have to sit very close to making it work. Studio is very different. Today. When we say studio, we use that term quite loosely. I can feel his breath on my cheek. I can feel your heat. Something like that. But we are we're talking blow jobs? Let's do it. You like blow jobs? You know, they're all right. Okay. One to ten. Not in comparison to any physical experience. Like a kick in the balls, for example. One to 1010 being the greatest. One being the least greatest in terms of sexual acts and sexual pleasure and things you've done. Where does the blowjob register? People are going to judge me. I'm going to get some hate comments here. I'm probably like a six and a half or seven. That's actually not a reflection of you. It's a reflection of me, the blowjack. I know, and I know that that's where it's going to go. It's just that there are other things that rank higher for me. Okay, what's higher? The sex. Oh, like intercourse? Yes. Okay, what else? The sex. Anything else? It depends how I feel. I mean, I love a good handy. More than a blow job? It depends on the day. For real. Okay. And the sensitivity. Okay. Yes. All right. So we're going to talk about blow jobs and some techniques. I got a whole bunch of questions on blow jobs. Let me find them here. Okay. I got a message from someone who wants to know how important are blow jobs? How long should they last? What position should I be in? What techniques are best? How do I use my hands? Should I avoid the balls or go right for them? That's a lot of questions about it. I like the last part of that. Just should just get right at them. Should I stab them, or should I do give them a good tug, just give them a flick. Well, it's interesting because obviously all these answers are highly subjective. What did you put? Blow jobs that on a scale of one to ten, make a six and a half to seven. Okay. All right. And so other folks can send us their numbers. Nice, simple, short emails and messages. Where does the blow job register on my end in terms of blow jobs? Obviously, I don't receive blow jobs because I don't have a dick, but I like them. I like them. I'm glad that you put them higher than you. Really? Okay. But I mean, if you're not valuing them,

Are you comfortable talking dirty? Do you feel silly trying new lines, approaches and scenarios? You’re not alone. Jess and Brandon share their struggles (while sharing a few laughs) and offer guidance & strategies for all types of dirty talk from sweet and romantic to naughty and kinky. They try out dozens of lines that you can practice on your own and share with a partner (or two!). Want to learn more about dirty talk? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart. And check out IOBAToys.com for the OhMyC, a silent clitoral massager that fits in the palm of your hand. Use code DRJESS to save 30% off! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 218: Master Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips & Examples (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:16): Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half Dr. Jess. Dr. Jess (00:23): Hey, hey. Brandon (00:24): How are you? Dr. Jess (00:25): I'm fine. I want you to talk dirty to me. Brandon (00:28): I want you. I want you right now. You smiling and laughing at me doesn't help with the confidence here. Dr. Jess (00:36): I’m not laughing, I was just smiling at you. What do you think I want to hear in bed when I say talk dirty? Brandon (00:43): I think you want to hear that I want you that, I can't stop thinking about you. Dr. Jess (00:49): You never say that. If you know I want to hear that Brandon (00:51): I know it, it doesn't mean it’s what I say. Dr. Jess (00:54): So why don't you say that? Brandon (00:55): Because I feel stupid. Talking dirty, I feel dumb. Dr. Jess (01:01): Perfect setup for this episode. Brandon (01:03): Is it really? Dr. Jess (01:04): I think so, because we're going to be talking about dirty talk. And I think so many of us feel that way. But can I ask you something? In the heat of the moment, when you're like all riled up and you’re turned on and you know that I'm liking it and you're liking it, do you feel less silly? Brandon (01:17): No I still feel silly. Because I think, because I don't know what to say. Dr. Jess (01:21): But you do know what to say, because you just said it, in jest. Brandon (01:25): Yes but in the moment, it's like I'm drawing so many blanks. Dr. Jess (01:32): Well yeah anyhow. I was thinking that what I find is, that the more turned on I am, the less self conscious I am. If I'm in the heat of the moment, 'cause I don't worry about what's going on around me, I don't think about anybody else's needs. Brandon (01:47): But that's my problem. My problem is I'm constantly paying attention to everything that's happening around me. And I'm not immersed in the moment, even when I'm really into things. I'm still cognizant of how much noise is being made or you know just the environment and that really detracts from what's happening. Dr. Jess (02:07): So what do we do about that? I mean I know what we can do about that. What do you wanna do about that? Brandon (02:12): I look at it as my problem. I think I have to really get into the head space and also not care as much.

Want to boost connection & appreciation in a matter of minutes? In this episode, we work our way through this short activity, One Thing I Love About You. You can try it with a partner or anyone else you love. It’s simple and you can power through it in a few minutes if you keep things short and sweet. Use these prompts to get started: One thing I love about your body... One thing I love about your voice... One thing I love about your energy/aura... One thing I love about your touch... One thing I love about your personality... One thing I love about your character... One thing I love about how you interact with others... One thing I love about how you treat me... One thing I love about your... This exercise is excerpted from The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay: Techniques & Strategies for Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Jessica O’Reilly & Marla Renee Stewart. This book is full of advice and activities designed to help you better understand and communicate sexual needs, desires, and values. Order your copy here. Adam and Eve are extending their offer of 50% off almost any item + FREE Shipping + some FREE goodies with code DRJESS. If you're looking to add a new toy to your collection or for something that will buzz and vibrate bringing new and intense pleasure, check out our friends at We-Vibe andWomanizer. Use code DRJESS at checkout to save! We've extended the Mind Blowing Oral: Penis or Clit edition sale at HappierCouples.com for one more week. Use code PODCAST to save 25% on this comprehensive video & audio course designed to help you drown out distractions and tune into pleasure. If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Quick Connection Exercise for Couples Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your cohost, Brandon Ware, here with my always lovely other half, Dr. Jess. I'm just here celebrating, man. I'm celebrating you. It's your birthday. What was yesterday? Kind of a big deal. Yeah, such a big deal that I was out of town for work and just flew in this morning. That's all good. You come pick me up? Not made you, but you came 06:00 a.m.. I've been up since, I guess, the equivalent of 02:00 A.m. Here, and we're feeling good. I'm actually feeling fine. I've got the adrenaline rush because I just have started another speaking tour. I'm finally feeling like I'm getting back to work. Pretty excited. We are going to do a quickie podcast on that note, because I have another flight to catch. Yeah. Which is greater flight off to an exciting place for other work prospects. So. And Brandon's joining me. Looking forward to it in Barcelona. Barcelona? You have a friend in Spain. Brandon has the equivalent of I guess it's the modern day pen pal. Yes, I have a penpal. I do. But explain what you do, because I think it's really cool. I went on to a website where you can communicate with other people who are trying to learn your language. So I've been trying to learn Spanish for years. And I'm off and on and off and on. And I think speaking the language is a great way to learn it. So I went on and posted a message and Jose, who lives in Spain, replied, and we're now great friends. And the communication is slow and steady. So you meet with him 30 minutes. Is that what it is? 30, 45 minutes?

Boost your sexual confidence and pleasure with some very specific tips and techniques for hotter oral (clitoral edition). From the "cross-my-fingers" to the "pussy pocket," Jess shares 15+ approaches to hotter sex in this quickie episode. If you're feeling 'inspired' after listening to this podcast and want to add some excitement to the bedroom, check out WeVibe and their extensive list of products to tickle your pickle, vibe your vulva or pleasure the prostate (and more). Use code DRJESS to save when checking out! Save 25% with code PODCAST for the Mind Blowing Oral on the Happier Couples website. If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Better in Bed: 15 Oral Sex Tips Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey. Hey. I hope you are in a good mood already to be put in a good mood because I'm in a good mood right now, mostly because of the topic I'm going to be tackling today. This is better in bed. 15 oral tips and techniques for hotter pleasure, greater excitement, intense orgasms. All for the vulva and the clitoris. And we are just going to dive right in. I've got 15 tips for you today. I think some of them are practical, but many of us need the reminder and some of them are a little bit more technical. Some specific moves and techniques you can try if you want to pleasure yourself or pleasure a partner. I mean, you can't do all of them on yourself unless you're super flexible with your ribs and your ABS and your tongue, but I'm sure you can make do. So let's get started. I'm going to run through these 15 tips. I think it's a bit of a quickie episode today because I am heading out on the Desire Cruise to the Greek Islands and Turkey as well. And I will not have the WiFi on the ship that's strong enough to actually upload a podcast. I'm doing it before I go on my own because Brandon apparently has his own job and I can't afford them. So here we go with 15 oral tips and techniques for the clit and the vulva. So, number one, if you are going down on a partner, regardless of gender, this applies across the board. It doesn't matter what your gender rules are, what your gender identity is, get yourself turned on, okay? So focus on your own pleasure while you go down on them. I think good lovers, generous lovers, sometimes hold themselves back by being too hung up on their partner's reaction, by being too hung up on the technique, by being too into being good in bed. So kind of counterintuitive. But focus on yourself. So get yourself turned on. The more you enjoy yourself, the more your partner will enjoy the experience, the more you'll follow the natural rhythm of their body, of their hips, rather than getting hung up on their specific response or a specific outcome or whether you can do a specific technique. So how do you do that? How do you get turned on? Maybe you fantasize, maybe you touch yourself. Maybe you rub yourself. Maybe you insert or wrap a toy, whatever, around your body. Make sure that you are aroused while you go down on them. And this is also going to help them, especially folks who have evolva have probably received negative messages about our genitals, right, growing up and into adulthood. It doesn't taste good, it doesn't smell good, it doesn't look good. It doesn't look like a Barbie, it doesn't look like a porn star. And of course,