Sex With Dr. Jess

Naked News host & producer Laura Desiree joins us to talk about her career in journalism and her journey to living a life free of shame and full of pleasure. She discusses the stigma associated with nudity and the erotic and shares strategies for letting go of the self-judgment that holds us back from living our best lives. Follow Laura Desiree's work: Instagram and you can find the Licked and Loaded Podcast here. And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How To Let Go of Judgment & Shame Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Happy holidays to you, Mr. Ware. Happy holidays to you, too. I've been in the holiday spirit for, like, two months, and Brandon is finally in the holiday spirit. And why? Why? Because you were throwing snowballs at your nephews yesterday. Because my nephews were lobbing us snowballs to whip at them. They've got terrible lateral mobility, and I stung one of them right in the butt when he was making me another snowball to throw at him. I caught your brother in the butt when he he was walking out of our house, and I don't even think he felt it. He has five children, Brandon's brother, and I think once you have five children, you don't even feel things hit you from behind. I just want to describe our snowball fight, although it's totally unrelated to the topic at hand. We had the ultimate snowball fight yesterday because somehow, I don't even know how this happened, we were standing in our front doorway, like, not even outside of the house, and the kids were all outside making snowballs and gently throwing them to us so that we we could whip them at them. How does that even happen? I have the dream life. That's the dream life. It was wonderful. We were warm. We didn't have to make snowballs. The snow was extra hard, so it's really stung when you hit them with it. And these kids are so polite, they didn't even throw the snowballs at us. They lobbed them to us so that we could throw them at them. And as I had said, they haven't really developed all of their motor skills yet, so they're chucking and jiving and diving just wasn't on par yet, so we won. Basically. It's winning anyhow. Makes you want to have kids, if that's what happened. Kids. That's what kids is all about. Sign me up. Don't at me on that one. Okay, so we're very close to the holidays. If you are in the gifting spirit for yourself or for a partner or for a loved one or for, perhaps your boss, we have some fabulous [email protected]. We have mindful sex. We have how to last longer in bed and get over premature ejaculation. Not for your boss. Unless your boss has expressed, this is my wish list. I'm hoping for a promotion. Here's a course I thought might help. Yeah, this one's on blowjobs, and then there's one on how to pleasure the clip, but you're familiar with it, so check those courses out. Happiercouples.com. Save 25% with code podcast. And I do think that they're all really valuable learning opportunities for you, your friends, your family, and maybe not your code workers. It depends on your relationship with your coworkers. If you work in my field, you can buy it for your coworkers. Yeah. And if you work in the corporate environment, you know what? You've got Brandon's endorsement. Do not buy them the courses. Do not do it. Okay,

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What is hot husbanding, and how can you pursue a threesome safely? Jess weighs in on a question from a hot-husband wife in this quickie episode. Save 50% off almost any item + FREE shipping + FREE gifts at AdamAndEve.com with code DRJESS! If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Hot-Husbanding Threesome Q Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and Relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey. Hey. I am flying solo today, excited actually, for a listener question on Hot Husbanding. So we've talked before about hotwifing and we had a hot wife and her partner on the show not so long ago, but we have never talked about Hot Husband and not easy to say husbanding. So I have a lovely note here and I'm going to read through it because it's a little bit long and I want to keep in all the pieces. She says I'm a straight woman who is very happily married to my husband of more than 30 years. He is an incredibly devoted husband and father. We are very interested in participating in FFM. Threesome. So two women, one guy. He proposed it early on in our relationship before we were married or had kids, but I wasn't ready at the time and we are both totally on board now. I've done a ton of research, I've extensively read online articles and forums, I listened to every podcast on the subject, I watched your Ted Talk about monogamish marriages, among other things. And we're very open in our relationship in that we discuss crushes, discuss what we would like to do in bed, what our fantasies are, et cetera. I would like to participate in what is called Hot Husbanding. I have no interest desire to have sex with other men, but I find the idea of watching him be intimate with another woman super hot. I've always gotten very turned on talking about his previous partners early in our relationship and when we've gone to strip clubs on two occasions. I found it incredibly erotic when he received a lap dance and I had no issues with jealousy. I don't want anything hardcore as we want to ease into something like this, but thought we could bathe hot tub together, all three of us rubbing, touching each other and move on to massaging each other. Maybe end with an orgasm for her and a hand job or blow job for my husband to see how we would react to the situation in real life. We don't want to swing or have a poly relationship, but we'd like to experiment with this to see if it would be something we could see ourselves enjoying on occasion. We have talked a lot and we both feel we are ready to make the leap. But I have some concerns. Number one, we are on the older end of the spectrum. I'm 52, my husband is 53. We look like we're in our mid forty s and she asks sorry, I'm just skipping some of the identifying information here. Is our age going to make it impossible to find a match? Number two, we're concerned about contracting an STI even if we practice safe sex. Number three, we're really concerned about uploading pictures with our faces to an online app. We have two adult kids and wouldn't want them to find out. And number four, lastly, from what I understand, lots of bisexual females are interested in couples as they like the idea of playing with a male and a female partner. And in our situation I feel that would really limit our possibilities because we just want to participate with me above the waist only. Any advice would be much appreciated. So firstly,

Are you comfortable talking dirty? Do you feel silly trying new lines, approaches and scenarios? You’re not alone. Jess and Brandon share their struggles (while sharing a few laughs) and offer guidance & strategies for all types of dirty talk from sweet and romantic to naughty and kinky. They try out dozens of lines that you can practice on your own and share with a partner (or two!). Want to learn more about dirty talk? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart. And check out IOBAToys.com for the OhMyC, a silent clitoral massager that fits in the palm of your hand. Use code DRJESS to save 30% off! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 218: Master Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips & Examples (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:16): Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half Dr. Jess. Dr. Jess (00:23): Hey, hey. Brandon (00:24): How are you? Dr. Jess (00:25): I'm fine. I want you to talk dirty to me. Brandon (00:28): I want you. I want you right now. You smiling and laughing at me doesn't help with the confidence here. Dr. Jess (00:36): I’m not laughing, I was just smiling at you. What do you think I want to hear in bed when I say talk dirty? Brandon (00:43): I think you want to hear that I want you that, I can't stop thinking about you. Dr. Jess (00:49): You never say that. If you know I want to hear that Brandon (00:51): I know it, it doesn't mean it’s what I say. Dr. Jess (00:54): So why don't you say that? Brandon (00:55): Because I feel stupid. Talking dirty, I feel dumb. Dr. Jess (01:01): Perfect setup for this episode. Brandon (01:03): Is it really? Dr. Jess (01:04): I think so, because we're going to be talking about dirty talk. And I think so many of us feel that way. But can I ask you something? In the heat of the moment, when you're like all riled up and you’re turned on and you know that I'm liking it and you're liking it, do you feel less silly? Brandon (01:17): No I still feel silly. Because I think, because I don't know what to say. Dr. Jess (01:21): But you do know what to say, because you just said it, in jest. Brandon (01:25): Yes but in the moment, it's like I'm drawing so many blanks. Dr. Jess (01:32): Well yeah anyhow. I was thinking that what I find is, that the more turned on I am, the less self conscious I am. If I'm in the heat of the moment, 'cause I don't worry about what's going on around me, I don't think about anybody else's needs. Brandon (01:47): But that's my problem. My problem is I'm constantly paying attention to everything that's happening around me. And I'm not immersed in the moment, even when I'm really into things. I'm still cognizant of how much noise is being made or you know just the environment and that really detracts from what's happening. Dr. Jess (02:07): So what do we do about that? I mean I know what we can do about that. What do you wanna do about that? Brandon (02:12): I look at it as my problem. I think I have to really get into the head space and also not care as much.

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