The Ultimate Guide To Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips & Examples

06/18/21 • 38 min

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Are you comfortable talking dirty? Do you feel silly trying new lines, approaches and scenarios? You’re not alone. Jess and Brandon share their struggles (while sharing a few laughs) and offer guidance & strategies for all types of dirty talk from sweet and romantic to naughty and kinky. They try out dozens of lines that you can practice on your own and share with a partner (or two!). Want to learn more about dirty talk? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart. And check out IOBAToys.com for the OhMyC, a silent clitoral massager that fits in the palm of your hand. Use code DRJESS to save 30% off! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 218: Master Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips & Examples (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:16): Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half Dr. Jess. Dr. Jess (00:23): Hey, hey. Brandon (00:24): How are you? Dr. Jess (00:25): I'm fine. I want you to talk dirty to me. Brandon (00:28): I want you. I want you right now. You smiling and laughing at me doesn't help with the confidence here. Dr. Jess (00:36): I’m not laughing, I was just smiling at you. What do you think I want to hear in bed when I say talk dirty? Brandon (00:43): I think you want to hear that I want you that, I can't stop thinking about you. Dr. Jess (00:49): You never say that. If you know I want to hear that Brandon (00:51): I know it, it doesn't mean it’s what I say. Dr. Jess (00:54): So why don't you say that? Brandon (00:55): Because I feel stupid. Talking dirty, I feel dumb. Dr. Jess (01:01): Perfect setup for this episode. Brandon (01:03): Is it really? Dr. Jess (01:04): I think so, because we're going to be talking about dirty talk. And I think so many of us feel that way. But can I ask you something? In the heat of the moment, when you're like all riled up and you’re turned on and you know that I'm liking it and you're liking it, do you feel less silly? Brandon (01:17): No I still feel silly. Because I think, because I don't know what to say. Dr. Jess (01:21): But you do know what to say, because you just said it, in jest. Brandon (01:25): Yes but in the moment, it's like I'm drawing so many blanks. Dr. Jess (01:32): Well yeah anyhow. I was thinking that what I find is, that the more turned on I am, the less self conscious I am. If I'm in the heat of the moment, 'cause I don't worry about what's going on around me, I don't think about anybody else's needs. Brandon (01:47): But that's my problem. My problem is I'm constantly paying attention to everything that's happening around me. And I'm not immersed in the moment, even when I'm really into things. I'm still cognizant of how much noise is being made or you know just the environment and that really detracts from what's happening. Dr. Jess (02:07): So what do we do about that? I mean I know what we can do about that. What do you wanna do about that? Brandon (02:12): I look at it as my problem. I think I have to really get into the head space and also not care as much.

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