EP 116: Jaguar Bite #2 - Attachment Parenting Misunderstandings

03/21/21 • 8 min

Sex Birth Trauma with Kimberly Ann Johnson

Welcome to Jaguar Bites: new solo episodes where I break down big nervous system concepts into bite-sized pieces. Jaguar Bites are meant to clarify some of the major ideas and misconceptions in somatic experiencing, polyvagal theory, sex education, as well as the birth world. These podcast episodes are for you. They are also for anyone who you don't think will take a course or read a book; but who you really want to hear about how trauma works, how we heal from it, how the body is involved, and why it matters so much (especially right now in the world).

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EP 115: Stephen Porges on Social and Emotional Connection, The Role of Oxytocin in Regulation, and Understanding Appeasement

Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a researcher and professor best known as the originator of the Polyvagal Theory, a theory that emphasizes the importance of physiological state in the expression of behavioral, mental, and health problems related to traumatic experiences. He is the author of The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton, 2011), as well as several other books on Polyvagal Theory. Stephen is also the creator of a music-based intervention, the Safe and Sound Protocol TM, which currently is used by more than 2000 therapists to improve spontaneous social engagement, to reduce hearing sensitivities, and to improve language processing, state regulation, and spontaneous social engagement.

What He Shares:

Why he wears glasses for virtual meetings
Why we’re still able to co-regulate when we’re all wearing masks
The intersection of sex hormones and polyvagal theory

What You’ll Hear:

The subtle cues our bodies respond to during virtual contact
Landing in the co-regulatory aspects of online work or classes
How your openness and intention to connect impacts people you’re interacting with
The importance of the orbital muscles in non-verbal communication
How beauty standards impact our accessibility of interpersonal regulation
Cultural interpretation of facial muscles
How our nervous system responds to various perceived threats, including cultural and religious teachings
Locating your resources for settling
Co-regulating with the natural world
The importance of in-person community for parents and children
Oxytocin’s role in co-regulation between mother and baby
Fawning vs appeasement
The evolutionary value of appeasement
Differentiating between an objective event and how it actually registered in your nervous system.
Understanding the autonomic nature of both openness and defensive responses
Being a good student of your body
Being a ‘good enough’ co-regulator
The power of authentic connections
Reducing social distance, even while physically distance is important