97: Marta Obiols Llistar | How Unschooling Transforms Teens: Self-Discovery & Resilience

12/04/24 • 59 min

What happens when you step outside traditional education to empower teenagers to discover their true selves? In this enlightening episode, we sit down with Marta to explore her journey into unschooling and its profound impact on her children and family. We go into how alternative education fosters individuality, emotional resilience, and self-expression in teens, offering a striking contrast to conventional schooling and how unschooling helps raise confident, self-assured teens.

Together, we delve into modern teenage psychology, uncovering teens' struggles balancing societal expectations and authentic identities. Marta recounts personal anecdotes, including the challenges and triumphs of raising teenagers who thrive without the pressure of conformity.

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🗓️ Recorded November 20th, 2024. 📍 Krakow, Poland

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🗓️ Recorded November 20th, 2024. 📍 Krakow, Poland

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96: Rebecca Jean-Charles | Edugenic Harm: The Hidden Abuse of the School System

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In this episode, Cecilie & Jesper Conrad sit down with Rebecca Jean-Charles to explore the concept of Edugenic Harm—how traditional education systems inadvertently harm children by normalizing control, disconnection, and compliance. Through personal stories and reflections, we unpacks our journeys from the conventional school system to homeschooling and unschooling.
Edugenic Harm refers to the subtle, systemic ways in which traditional schooling undermines children's autonomy, emotional well-being, and connection to their natural instincts, conditioning them to accept control and compliance as normal.

Key Points Discussed:

Lack of Consent in Education
- The mandatory nature of schooling removes children's choice, creating a system where autonomy is disregarded from an early age.
Disconnection from Basic Needs
- Schools often restrict children's ability to listen to their bodies, whether it’s moving, resting, eating, or expressing emotions, leading to a disconnection from natural instincts.
Normalization of Control
- Drawing parallels between school and abusive relationships, showing how constant oversight, judgment, and invalidation of feelings can lead to internalized submission and fear of mistakes.
Gaslighting of Emotional Experiences
- How children’s emotions are dismissed ("It’s not that bad" or "You’ll understand later"), teaching them to mistrust their own feelings.
The Long-Term Impact of Edugenic Harm
- How this conditioning in childhood can lead to accepting unhealthy patterns in adult life, including abusive relationships or toxic workplaces.
The Alternative: Unschooling and Freedom
- Rebecca shares her personal transformation and how unschooling her children became a journey of healing, freedom, and connection.

🗓️ Recorded November 18th, 2024. 📍 Krakow, Poland

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98: Rebecca Jean-Charles | It Takes a Village: Community Building and Unschooling

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Traditional schooling isn't the only path to socialization for children. In this conversation with Rebecca, we explore how homeschooling and unschooling empower families to build communities that align with their values.

We discuss how these approaches encourage children to form meaningful, inclusive social networks across diverse age groups. Our talk delves into neighborhood dynamics and the idea of intentional living as an alternative to traditional setups.

Rebecca shares her perspective on how flexibility in diverse communities allows families to adapt their lifestyles without rigid constraints.

We also discuss the unique experiences of unschooled children and the importance of fostering inclusivity in creating supportive environments.

🗓️ Recorded December 4th, 2024. 📍 The Addisons, Withyham, United Kingdom

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Self Directed - 97: Marta Obiols Llistar | How Unschooling Transforms Teens: Self-Discovery & Resilience

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00:00 - Marta Obiols Llistar (Guest)
Perfect Hello.
00:01 - Jesper Conrad (Host)
Hi, we're again together with Marta because we enjoyed our talk so much that we wanted to continue it, and continue it on a specific topic. But first of all, good to see you again.
00:14 - Marta Obiols Llistar (Guest)
Good to see you too. Thank you for inviting me again. I'm honored, don't be?
00:20 - Jesper Conrad (Host)
So, marta, to set the theme for the talk, I remember back when our ol