When It Comes To Kids, Divorce Isn't The Problem

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08/21/17 • 10 min

Even though divorce sucks, it isn’t what screws up your kids. Listen, a can of paint is just a can of paint until you slap it on a wall. And an unhappy marriage is just an unfortunate circumstance until you handle it poorly.

Because a divorce (or even an agreement to stay in an unhappy union) done maturely, done with your children’s future emotional and relational health in mind, can really be okay for them. If you choose to divorce (or to stay in a suffocating, directionless marriage) with some semblance of awareness and amicability, the kids will be okay. Really, they will.

Because it’s the behaviors associated with your unhappiness — not your unhappiness itself — that will take the biggest toll on your kids.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she discusses how to keep your kids happy and healthy through your divorce or unhappy marriage. There is a way! Listen in.

For more of Abby's blogposts, podcasts, and generally unsolicited opinions, go to abbyrodman.com.

Because it’s the behaviors associated with your unhappiness — not your unhappiness itself — that will take the biggest toll on your kids.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she discusses how to keep your kids happy and healthy through your divorce or unhappy marriage. There is a way! Listen in.

For more of Abby's blogposts, podcasts, and generally unsolicited opinions, go to abbyrodman.com.

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Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she discusses what it looks like to raise kids who are honest and take personal responsibility -- instead of blaming, whining and pointing fingers.

For more of Abby's blogposts, podcasts, and generally unsolicited opinions, go to abbyrodman.com.

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