Relationships with Abby Rodman

Secrets? We've all kept them. Lies? We've all told them. But what are the consequences of keeping secrets from -- or lying to -- your partner?

Join psychotherapist and relationship strategist Abby Rodman as she discusses how secrets and lies affect us in more ways than we think.

If you're convinced that keeping the truth from your partner is better than coming clean, you may not be considering the cost of what that could be doing to the well-being of your partner and relationship...and, yes, even your health.

Ready to tell the truth? Committed to keeping that secret or perpetuating that lie? Join Abby as she explores what both options really mean for you, your partner, and the future of your relationship.

You know that person in your life who drives you nuts but you can’t really pinpoint why? That person who brings out the worst in you no matter how many times you promise yourself you’ll stay cool and collected?

If this sounds painfully familiar, you may be dealing with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. You can find out more about the DSM-5 criteria for this diagnosis here. But what if you read the list of symptoms for BPD and realize your “person” doesn’t hit all the markers for it?

That’s why I’m suggesting there’s a real diagnosis of Borderline-ish Personality Disorder. A Borderline-ish Person (BIP) has some (or many) of the markers of the diagnosis, but just not all the DSM purports they should have.

Join me as I talk (from personal AND professional experience) about what it means to have a BIP in your life. And, no, you're not crazy.

Fewer things in life are as upsetting as your spouse telling you he or she wants to split -- especially if you don't. Just the idea of divorce sends you into a tailspin. What now? Psychotherapist and bestselling author Abby Rodman maps out the 5 essential things you must do to navigate these rocky times and plan your next steps.

Even though divorce sucks, it isn’t what screws up your kids. Listen, a can of paint is just a can of paint until you slap it on a wall. And an unhappy marriage is just an unfortunate circumstance until you handle it poorly.

Because a divorce (or even an agreement to stay in an unhappy union) done maturely, done with your children’s future emotional and relational health in mind, can really be okay for them. If you choose to divorce (or to stay in a suffocating, directionless marriage) with some semblance of awareness and amicability, the kids will be okay. Really, they will.

Because it’s the behaviors associated with your unhappiness — not your unhappiness itself — that will take the biggest toll on your kids.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she discusses how to keep your kids happy and healthy through your divorce or unhappy marriage. There is a way! Listen in.

For more of Abby's blogposts, podcasts, and generally unsolicited opinions, go to abbyrodman.com.

Is there such a thing as an empathic narcissist? I believe there is. Not because of what it means to be a narcissist, but because of what it means to be empathic. What evokes empathy in each of us is complex, singular, and multi-layered.

If you suspect someone close to you is an empathic narcissist, pay close attention to what garners their empathy. If it’s usually big picture empathy like sick kids or abandoned puppies, you may be right. Because those are empathic no-brainers. No heavy lifting there.

Join me as I delve into strange phenomenon of empathic narcissists...and how to recognize them!