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In today's episode we talk with Navy Seal, Capt. Lance Bach (Ret.) about how to navigate this current pandemic, why we should be vulnerable in marriage, ways to transform fear, what it means to include God in the mundane areas of life, and a whole host of other real-life topics. Lance even speaks of his struggles to reconnect with his wife, Gina, after deployments.
One thing is for sure... you will be encouraged as you meet a remarkable man who, like the rest of us, experiences the ups and downs of the authentic life. As a bonus, you will hear one of his many stories of the infamous Navy Seal "Hell Week" that he endured!

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Identify those areas of RESISTANCE in your life that keep you from taking action. Perhaps areas such as:
   • Physical Health
   • Your Marriage
   • Other Relationships
   • A Career Dream or Change
   • Your Spiritual Life
   • Or Maybe Even Your Dream Of Writing A Book
2. Write down those qualities you want expressed in your spouse towards you, and decide how to start BEING that person in your marriage. Characteristics such as:
   • Patient
   • Loving
   • Kind
   • Respectful
   • Vulnerable
3. Share this incredible episode with at least one other friend!
4. Drive the Red Truck in your marriage today!

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Do you ever have difficulty remaining strong in the midst of hardship? Perhaps you feel discouraged, disempowered, afraid, or anxious? If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about the Top 5 Ways to Be Strong in A World of Uncertainty. We believe this episode will inspire you to STAND STRONG during difficult life situations. Much of the content we will share originates from the article, 5 Ways to Improve Your Mental Health in 2020, written by Sandee LaMotte of CNN. We take her ideas in the article and adjust them somewhat to match our core beliefs. We encourage you to read the original article by clicking this link: https://www.cnn.com/2020/01/03/health/mental-health-2020-wellness/index.html
So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode:

Top 5 Ways to Be Strong in A World of Uncertainty

1. Practice telling yourself the TRUTH
   • Your Narrative or Self-Talk is powerful.
   • Optimism is great, as long as it's true.
2. Serve OTHERS
   • Looking outside of yourself cultivates hope and a strong sense of power within yourself.
   • Adds perspective to your circumstances.
3. Be GRATEFUL
   • You have the POWER TO CHOOSE to feel gratitude for those people and things in your life that are good!
   • Gratitude changes your narrative/self-talk.
4. Strengthen your PERSONAL CONNECTIONS
   • Your inner being needs CONNECTION with others.
   • Exercise your power to choose those who are GOOD FOR YOU!
   • Limit time with those who drain the LIFE out of you.
5. Realize your GREATER PURPOSE
   • Regardless of your roles, your life can IMPACT OTHERS for good!
   • Be mindful that your life has a purpose GREATER than yourself.

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do:

1. Sit with these 5 points and decide which ones you resonate with.
   • Strength will follow!
2. Have a conversation with your spouse and children about how to BE STRONG when uncertainty exists (during this time of the coronavirus spread, our children's "day job" has been impacted; they know something is up!).
   • This will BREATHE LIFE into those you love!
3. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group!

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How To Manage Your Emotions In Marriage
This episode delivers the absolute #1 tool for living the "empowered life" in relationship with yourself, your spouse, your children, and your friends! Of all the shows we will do, the How To Manage Your Emotions In Marriage will be the one you go back to hear again. It’s a treasure! Not because we are so great, but because it is loaded with a ton a great truths about being empowered as a person.

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode.

1. Thoughts Feelings Actions
   • This is the paradigm: What I THINK determines how I FEEL, and how I feel determines my ACTIONS.
   • This is a great truth that we have used with thousands of people over the years. It's one that now you get to use going forward in your marriage and other relationships!
   • Thoughts, Self-Talk, and Narrative all mean the same. They all determine the feeling that will follow.
2. We are capable of becoming new and empowered people when our Thinking or Self-Talk changes!
   • Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2)
   • It's not about thinking positive. It's about telling yourself the truth!
3. Thoughts and Feeling are two very different things!
   • We use them interchangeably, and get away with it in our culture. (Example: "I feel like this room is too dark.") This is not a feeling, IT IS A THOUGHT! The feeling may be gloomy. "I think the room is too dark because I feel gloomy when I stay in here too long."
   • This point is very important if you want to be intentional about checking your self-talk.
4. I can no longer BLAME others for how I feel!
   • Feelings don't come from people, they come from thoughts!
   • "Stuart made me angry" no longer works in my marriage. What I tell myself about something she did or said will be what determines my feeling of anger or any other emotion.
   • This is a major tool to avoid feelings of RESENTMENT towards your spouse!
5. Be ready to discern if your thinking or self-talk is RATIONAL/TRUTHFUL or IRRATIONAL/LIES
   • If your thought is irrational, YOU MUST REPLACE IT with the TRUTH!
   • Your feelings and actions will follow!

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to actions. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Put Thoughts Feelings Actions on an index card to go in your car or on your bathroom mirror.
   • You will be reminded throughout the day.
   • You will also remember the important order of this process!
2. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to and REVIEW the Red Truck Marriage podcast!
   • We don't want you to miss an episode!
   • You will be one of the first to hear Part 2 of How To Manage Your Emotions In Marriage.
   • We are going to show you how to integrate this new tool every day of your life.
3. Invite another couple you care about to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!
   • We need a community of other couples who want to live out God's Best in marriage.
   • It will help you to have friends who are also processing the Red Truck Marriage content.
4. Choose to drive the Red Truck in your marriage!
   • It will cause your spouse to RUN towards you.
   • Listen to the trailer if you don't know the story about the Red Truck!
5. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
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Have you ever been "stuck" in some area of your life that has brought significant pain? Perhaps there are areas in your marriage, business, or even inner-life that you know needs to change. If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about those things that keep us stuck, and how to make real changes that matter. This episode is loaded with powerful and practical tools that will start you towards a life of freedom, joy, and happiness! We can't wait for you to hear it!!

So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode.

1. The Two Motivations In Our Lives:
   1. The Pursuit of Pleasure
   2. The Avoidance of Pain
2. The 3 Necessary Steps For Change
   1. Motivation
   2. Strategy
   3. Will
3. Dr. Carlos DiClemente's Stages Of Change (We discuss how to practically apply this in Life & Marriage)
   1. Pre-contemplation
   2. Contemplation
   3. Preparation
   4. Action
   5. Maintenance

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Do a self-assessment.
   • Identify those areas in your life or marriage that cause significant pain.
   • Identify areas in your life where more pleasure is waiting.
2. Decide to have a conversation with your spouse about those areas you believe need change.
   • No blaming! Own what you decide.
3. Put on paper what you want to accomplish and how you are going to do it.
   • The probability of experiencing great outcomes go way up!
4. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group

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Have you ever tried to address a conflict within your marriage, but resorted to trying desperately to change your spouse? Or perhaps a better question... have you ever felt frustrated, hopeless, or even angry because your spouse won't do or act in a way that seems so right or logical to you?
My guess is yes! We have all been guilty of trying to do the impossible... change something about our spouse. Changing our spouse is impossible because it is way above our pay grade. So does being powerless to change our spouse (or anybody else for that matter) mean we should just live with it and experience conflict forever? Absolutely not!
There is hope for all couples who want peace, joy, and connection in their marriage. Today we discuss how to navigate conflict in your marriage without attempting to do the impossible task of changing your partner, but instead by helping each other become the best versions of yourselves. We believe this episode will give you tremendous hope and practical tools to grow deeper in your marriage as you live out God's Best together.
This is a can't-miss episode!
So let's get started!