3 Crucial Steps For Making Real Change In Your Life

03/06/20 • 43 min

Have you ever been "stuck" in some area of your life that has brought significant pain? Perhaps there are areas in your marriage, business, or even inner-life that you know needs to change. If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about those things that keep us stuck, and how to make real changes that matter. This episode is loaded with powerful and practical tools that will start you towards a life of freedom, joy, and happiness! We can't wait for you to hear it!!

So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode.

The Two Motivations In Our Lives:
1. The Pursuit of Pleasure
2. The Avoidance of Pain
The 3 Necessary Steps For Change
1. Motivation
2. Strategy
3. Will
Dr. Carlos DiClemente's Stages Of Change (We discuss how to practically apply this in Life & Marriage)
1. Pre-contemplation
2. Contemplation
3. Preparation
4. Action
5. Maintenance

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

Do a self-assessment.
- Identify those areas in your life or marriage that cause significant pain.
- Identify areas in your life where more pleasure is waiting.
Decide to have a conversation with your spouse about those areas you believe need change.
- No blaming! Own what you decide.
Put on paper what you want to accomplish and how you are going to do it.
- The probability of experiencing great outcomes go way up!
Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
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- We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
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So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode.

The Two Motivations In Our Lives:
1. The Pursuit of Pleasure
2. The Avoidance of Pain
The 3 Necessary Steps For Change
1. Motivation
2. Strategy
3. Will
Dr. Carlos DiClemente's Stages Of Change (We discuss how to practically apply this in Life & Marriage)
1. Pre-contemplation
2. Contemplation
3. Preparation
4. Action
5. Maintenance

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

Do a self-assessment.
- Identify those areas in your life or marriage that cause significant pain.
- Identify areas in your life where more pleasure is waiting.
Decide to have a conversation with your spouse about those areas you believe need change.
- No blaming! Own what you decide.
Put on paper what you want to accomplish and how you are going to do it.
- The probability of experiencing great outcomes go way up!
Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
- You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
- We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
- Join the RTM Facebook Group

Previous Episode

Top 5 Tips for How to Have Great Communication in Marriage (Part 2)

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This episode is Part 2 of the Top 5 Tips for How to Have Great Communication in Marriage. We will give you some of our best content on the topic of creating great communication in marriage. You will learn how to avoid those moments of high negative emotions and the disconnect that follows. We have all been there! Sit back and learn how to change those negative experiences into a greater sense of connection with your spouse.

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode.

Tip #3:
- Use Empathy
  1. The choice to walk in your spouse's shoes.
  2. We must develop an emotions vocabulary (this episode explains how to do this).
Tip #4:
- Use a Stop-Phrase
  1. Of all the tips, this may be the most valuable.
  2. The stop-phrase requires a mutual commitment, but it will save you from having major destruction in your marriage.
  3. Hear how to increase your Emotional IQ.
Tip #5:
- Choose to Go First
  1. Perhaps the most difficult of all the tips!
  2. This begin a new story of joy, connection, and peace in your marriage.
  3. Involves the power of prayer in marriage.
Bonus Tips:
- Sarcasm is a huge marriage killer!
  1. Learn how and why we should remove sarcasm and negative humor from your relationship.
- Remove the "D" (Divorce) word from any interaction.

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

Listen to this episode with your spouse so you will have a mutual understanding of this content and be able to use similar vocabulary.
- Be sure to do the exercises! Repetition is the "mother of skill!"
- Our lives are busy! Add fatigue, and we tend to put things off until tomorrow. Decide to be intentional with your spouse today!
Have a conversation about the benefits of a stop-phrase in your marriage.
- Decide today on what your stop-phrase will be.
Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
- You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
- We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
- Join the RTM Facebook Group

Next Episode

How To Write The "Perfect" Love Letter To Your Spouse

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Does writing a Love Letter to your spouse seem like something only for newlyweds? Perhaps you think that your husband or wife already knows your love for him or her. Or maybe you think there is nothing you could possibly put on paper that would have a lasting impact. If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about how to write the “perfect” love letter for your spouse. That is, the letter which is "uniquely perfect" for him or her. The one that speaks to their soul!
So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode.

Learn the difference between a letter "of thanks" vs. a letter of "who you are."
Discover where to find the vocabulary for a "Who You Are" love letter.
Learn what Meta-Messages are, and how we use them without knowing it.
Find out how to make the written word a breath of life for your spouse.
Learn why these principles are applicable in parenting.

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do:

Write a Love Letter to your spouse.
- Tell him or her those characteristics you admire most.
- Include examples of how you see those characteristics lived out daily towards others.
Give your letter to your spouse at the beginning of the day.
- Keep a copy for yourself.
Set aside an uninterrupted time at the end of the day to read your letter to your spouse.
- Remember to sit knee-to-knee!
Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
- You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
- We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
- Join the RTM Facebook Group!