The Three Types of Consequences

11/29/21 • 32 min

Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira break down the three types of consequences, how to use them, and when to use them. If you find yourself asking what's an appropriate consequence, this episode is for you. " The d esign isn't to be punitive. The design is to help the world make sense because we are our children's teachers for how to navigate the world later on." - Deana Thayer Today's discussion includes:

The importance of follow-through and meaning what you say (6:36)
Empty threats lose power over time (7:36)
First type: A Natural Consequence (9:52)
Second type: A Logical Consequence (14:38)
Third type: A Currency Consequence (19:24)
Why experiencing these consequences in childhood help prepare kids for adulthood (26:04)

Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation about the three types of consequences. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021. Resources Mentioned Coaching Call - Beyond Video Games and Later Bedtimes - Thinking Outside the Box When Offering Age Appropriate Privileges Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! We are doing a blowout sale before the end of the year. So if you have been wanting to get any of our online programs, we have many. This is the time to do it, because everything is on sale for $5, except our flagship program, which normally retails at $57, is on sale for 10. And everything else is five bucks. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

The importance of follow-through and meaning what you say (6:36)
Empty threats lose power over time (7:36)
First type: A Natural Consequence (9:52)
Second type: A Logical Consequence (14:38)
Third type: A Currency Consequence (19:24)
Why experiencing these consequences in childhood help prepare kids for adulthood (26:04)

Previous Episode

Cutting Through the Overwhelm with Heather Chauvin

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira have the pleasure of chatting with Heather Chauvin, a leadership coach who helps overwhelmed, ambitious women become leaders at work and home while conquering their fears. She's also the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast, where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage four cancer, and running a successful business without burning out. "Women walk around this earth pretending that they are robots, pretending that they don't matter. When you think about it, we probably take better care of our house plants than we do our bodies . W e water the plants and we can't remember the last time we drank water." - Heather Chauvin Today's discussion includes:

Why Heather does this work (2:37)
How Heather had to recalibrate after her diagnosis (8:02)
When our behavior is really about feeling in control (15:12)
Noticing our resistance, fear and guilt (21:10)
The importance of remembering that we are our child’s teacher (27:59)

Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation with Heather. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media! Connect with Heather Chauvin Instagram Facebook Mom Is In Control Podcast Website Dying To Be A Good Mother Dying To Be A Good Mother's Action-Plan Workbook Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

Next Episode

Things We Wish We'd Said

Sometimes after a recording has finished or an episode has aired, Kira and Deana realize that they have something they wish they had said. In today’s episode, they share those tidbits including a few extra ideas for talking about sex with kids, extra thoughts on peer pressure and more. Today's discussion includes:

A few extra birds and the bees guidelines (3:12)
The power of voting with your dollar and the power of boycotting (8:06)
An extra tool for combating peer pressure (9:59)
The story behind Kira's tattoo (13:25)
Imposter syndrome with parenting (16:04)
Favorite foods (22:03)
If Deana hears this noise, she'll run for the hills (26:36)
Kira can eat what in a soup bowl? (27:31)

Thanks for joining us today to look back at previous episodes and what we wished we would have said. Wasn't this a fun episode? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021. Resources Mentioned Talking With Kids About Sex Teaching Kids About Social Justice Kids and Peer Pressure Tattoos, Piercings and Body Modifications I Have A Question What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up? Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.