Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel - Episode 18: Survivors aren't Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships impacted by trauma histories

Episode 18: Survivors aren't Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships impacted by trauma histories

07/17/20 • 44 min

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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor, David and Ruth offer a very personal look at relationship dynamics when one partner is a survivor. In response to a request from a survivor to explore this topic, David & Ruth share their personal challenges and rewards of navigating historical abuse. What does living with and partnering with a survivor really look like emotionally and behaviorally? How does one learn to honor and respect the emotional implications historical abuse has inside relationships?
Ruth and David talk about

how David learned about and honored the impact of Ruth's earlier abuse in their relationship and co-parenting
how Ruth's openness about her trauma and her advocacy for the voices of survivors has deepened and enriched David's work.
strategies for both survivors and for those who live, love and work with them about how to navigate trauma, trauma content, trauma emotions and trauma behaviors in a healthy and responsible way that improves trust and collaboration.
how David's personal internal work assisted him in learning the principles of how to partner with survivors

This discussion is truly the place where personal meets professional and is an intimate behavioral look at how partnering looks and feels in relationship and in practice.

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how David learned about and honored the impact of Ruth's earlier abuse in their relationship and co-parenting
how Ruth's openness about her trauma and her advocacy for the voices of survivors has deepened and enriched David's work.
strategies for both survivors and for those who live, love and work with them about how to navigate trauma, trauma content, trauma emotions and trauma behaviors in a healthy and responsible way that improves trust and collaboration.
how David's personal internal work assisted him in learning the principles of how to partner with survivors

This discussion is truly the place where personal meets professional and is an intimate behavioral look at how partnering looks and feels in relationship and in practice.

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