78: Addressing the Mental Load of Clutter with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
04/01/25 • 72 min
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"What if our partner says they'll do something, but they don't follow through?"
"How do we get our partners to care about all the details of home/family management?"
These are just two of the questions I ask relationship expert and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip on today's episode of Paring Down.
"The mental load" is a big term getting a lot of attention these days because it's an important component to healthy, happy relationships. Clutter can feel like one big "to-do" list, and if we shoulder the responsibility for dealing with it by ourselves, it's recipe for resentment and disconnection in our relationship.
In today's episode, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip shares about her new book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex," coming out April 15th. I think you'll love her positive yet realistic take.
Paring Down Instagram: @paring_down
Paring Down Newsletter: The L.E.S.S. Express
DR. MORGAN CUTLIP INFORMATION:
Order Dr. Morgan Cutlip's book: "A Better Share" HERE
Dr. Morgan Instagram: @drmorgancutlip
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
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15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
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This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
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"What if our partner says they'll do something, but they don't follow through?"
"How do we get our partners to care about all the details of home/family management?"
These are just two of the questions I ask relationship expert and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip on today's episode of Paring Down.
"The mental load" is a big term getting a lot of attention these days because it's an important component to healthy, happy relationships. Clutter can feel like one big "to-do" list, and if we shoulder the responsibility for dealing with it by ourselves, it's recipe for resentment and disconnection in our relationship.
In today's episode, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip shares about her new book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex," coming out April 15th. I think you'll love her positive yet realistic take.
Paring Down Instagram: @paring_down
Paring Down Newsletter: The L.E.S.S. Express
DR. MORGAN CUTLIP INFORMATION:
Order Dr. Morgan Cutlip's book: "A Better Share" HERE
Dr. Morgan Instagram: @drmorgancutlip
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
For Hers Hair Growth: https://www.forhers.com/paring
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
$300 off Air Doctor Pro air purifier: https://airdoctorpro.com/ - Use code PARING
15% off your first order at PACT (sustainable, ethical clothing):
Previous Episode
77: What If I Regret Getting Rid of It?
What-if items tend to be the biggest culprits of clutter! We are worried we'll need it some day, so we hold on just in case.
In this episode, I walk through 5 helpful ways to combat this battle with "what-if??" so that we can become more discerning about what's worth keeping and what we need to let go.
Paring Down Instagram: @paring_down
Paring Down Newsletter: The L.E.S.S. Express
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/hellofreshpodcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
$300 off Air Doctor Pro air purifier: https://airdoctorpro.com/ - Use code PARING
15% off your first order at PACT (sustainable, ethical clothing): https://wearpact.com/ - Use code PARINGDOWN
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Next Episode
79: Decluttering Before You Move (or Mock Move)
There's no motivation to declutter quite like relocating! But where should we start?
In this episode I break down why we should declutter before we move, and 10 categories to focus on in order to avoid taking clutter with you to your new home.
Even if you're not moving, today's episode is a fun one to get ideas for a "mock move," which is to declutter your home *as though* you plan on moving. It's a really helpful lens through which to find some motivation!
Paring Down Instagram: @paring_down
Paring Down Newsletter: The L.E.S.S. Express
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Episode 48: Decluttering Books as a Book Lover
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Electronics Disposal: Call2Recycle or Earth911
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
For Hers Hair Growth: https://www.forhers.com/paring
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
Only $1.99 per meal with EveryPlate meal service - code paring199: www.everyplate.com/podcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
$300 off Air Doctor Pro air purifier: https://airdoctorpro.com/ - Use code PARING
15% off your first order at PACT (sustainable, ethical clothing):
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