The Learning Curve: Final Stage of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
08/22/23 • 29 min
"As we heal the parts of us that, even in the midst of chaos, need to grieve over the loss of the family we dreamed would be ours, we get better at parenting. We learn to be ok with holding the reins a little looser because holding them tight never seems to bring our child closer. And through this beautiful process of losing and finding, we stumble upon our sweet spot."
In today’s episode, we discuss the 4th and final stage of learning. At this stage, our skills are developing and becoming ingrained in us through repetition. They begin to line up with what feels right to us. Our actions and reactions, even if they don’t always yield the results we hope for, are more incongruent with what’s important to us, and it starts to feel more natural and effortless.
Join us to learn more about....
- Stage 4: Unconscious Competence.
- Parenting and Shepherding - what they have in common.
- The growth required of us.
Links from today's show:
Dr. Russell Barkley: 30 Essential Ideas Every Parent Needs to Know (Parents of ADHD Children)
Skills of a Shepherd by Kim Gooding
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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.
Explore Additional Support:
- Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
- Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
- Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ
Connect with Us:
- Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
- Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
- For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]
"As we heal the parts of us that, even in the midst of chaos, need to grieve over the loss of the family we dreamed would be ours, we get better at parenting. We learn to be ok with holding the reins a little looser because holding them tight never seems to bring our child closer. And through this beautiful process of losing and finding, we stumble upon our sweet spot."
In today’s episode, we discuss the 4th and final stage of learning. At this stage, our skills are developing and becoming ingrained in us through repetition. They begin to line up with what feels right to us. Our actions and reactions, even if they don’t always yield the results we hope for, are more incongruent with what’s important to us, and it starts to feel more natural and effortless.
Join us to learn more about....
- Stage 4: Unconscious Competence.
- Parenting and Shepherding - what they have in common.
- The growth required of us.
Links from today's show:
Dr. Russell Barkley: 30 Essential Ideas Every Parent Needs to Know (Parents of ADHD Children)
Skills of a Shepherd by Kim Gooding
___________________________________________________________________________
About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.
Explore Additional Support:
- Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
- Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
- Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ
Connect with Us:
- Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
- Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
- For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]
Previous Episode
The Learning Curve: Stage 3 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
“Parenting is not your purpose. It’s preparing you for your purpose.”
We often make the learning process more complicated than necessary because of the negative feelings we experience when as parents, we make mistakes. Ironically, not doing it right and making mistakes are actually vital steps in the learning process.
In today’s episode, we are moving on to explore conscious competence parenting, which is stage 3 of any learning process.
Join us to learn more about....
- Stage 3: Conscious Competence.
- How to tell when you’ve reached stage 3.
- Two benefits you’ll experience.
- A few tips on what to practice at this level.
Links from today's show:
Gary Thomas’ book Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls
___________________________________________________________________________
About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.
Explore Additional Support:
- Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
- Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
- Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ
Connect with Us:
- Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
- Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
- For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]
Next Episode
From Seed to Harvest: Finding Peace in The Process of Parenting Teens
Hey Sis! Ever think about parenting teens like you're tending a garden? Well, that's what we're getting into in this episode – 'cause, let's face it, our kids are a bit like flowers. They bloom when they're ready, in their own sweet time.
We're just here to play the gardener, you know? Nurturing, observing, and maybe doing a bit of waiting.
This summer, as I strolled around my yard, checking out how each plant was doing, it hit me how much parenting teens can feel like tending a garden. And guess what? I had to spill the beans (or should I say seeds?) with you.
Come hang out with us as we chat about:
- Your child’s zone: Respecting their own growth timeline.
- Starting at ground level: Embracing those foundational moments.
- How to soften the seed: Creating the right conditions for growth.
- The DANGERS of overwatering: Yep, finding that sweet balance.
- Getting to the roots: Digging into what really matters for your teens.
I'm keeping it laid-back and sharing insights to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting teens. So, grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and let's chat about growing up together, one seed at a time.
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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.
Explore Additional Support:
- Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
- Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
- Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ
Connect with Us:
- Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
- Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
- For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]
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