Jenny Shane – Hating Your EX Less to Love Your Kids More
09/06/24 • 42 min
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Jenny Shane is the founder of Divorce in Peace. She is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Florida Bar Licensed Attorney, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDSTM) through the National Association of DivorceProfessionals, and she has a Bachelor's of Science degree in Psychology.
As a divorce coach, Jenny guides individuals through all stages of divorce and life afterwards. She is skilled in helping her clients understand the legal process behind divorce and how to take control of their divorce decisions, whether they are lawyers represented or not.
Jenny shares her unique journey from a lawyer to a divorce coach, focused on helping parents create and modify effective parenting plans that prioritize the best interests of the children. The discussion also touches upon empowering children to voice their preferences, especially teenagers, and the significance of a comprehensive approach to mental health within the family dynamic.
Takeaways
1. Integrate mental health provisions
2. Be kind to your co parent during divorce
3. Involve teens in time-sharing decisions
Timestamps
00:00 Transition from litigation to family law mediation.
04:21 Transitioned from law to divorce coaching, found fulfillment.
09:33 Working with only one person limits understanding.
10:22 Provide tough love, evaluate behavior, improve relationship.
16:56 Detailed documentation is needed for custody modification.
18:28 Parallel parenting in high conflict divorces occurs when parents refuse to work together, resulting in separate households and parenting styles.
22:32 Transition challenges for young children in custody.
26:37 Children need both parents for balanced support.
29:24 Teen sleeps in closet for privacy, needs empowerment.
33:21 Parenting plans address counseling and cost sharing.
34:26 Each parent is responsible for child therapy.
38:41 Avoiding conflict by intervening in emotionally charged situations.
41:02 Communication through DM and email preferred.
🔗 Connect with Jenny Shane :
Instagram: FamilyTalkwithJenny
Website: divorceinpeacemediation.com
🔗 Connect with Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld:
Instagram | [email protected]Soaring Hawk Life Coaching | Ocean Waves Parenting
Send us an email @ [email protected]
Jenny Shane is the founder of Divorce in Peace. She is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Florida Bar Licensed Attorney, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDSTM) through the National Association of DivorceProfessionals, and she has a Bachelor's of Science degree in Psychology.
As a divorce coach, Jenny guides individuals through all stages of divorce and life afterwards. She is skilled in helping her clients understand the legal process behind divorce and how to take control of their divorce decisions, whether they are lawyers represented or not.
Jenny shares her unique journey from a lawyer to a divorce coach, focused on helping parents create and modify effective parenting plans that prioritize the best interests of the children. The discussion also touches upon empowering children to voice their preferences, especially teenagers, and the significance of a comprehensive approach to mental health within the family dynamic.
Takeaways
1. Integrate mental health provisions
2. Be kind to your co parent during divorce
3. Involve teens in time-sharing decisions
Timestamps
00:00 Transition from litigation to family law mediation.
04:21 Transitioned from law to divorce coaching, found fulfillment.
09:33 Working with only one person limits understanding.
10:22 Provide tough love, evaluate behavior, improve relationship.
16:56 Detailed documentation is needed for custody modification.
18:28 Parallel parenting in high conflict divorces occurs when parents refuse to work together, resulting in separate households and parenting styles.
22:32 Transition challenges for young children in custody.
26:37 Children need both parents for balanced support.
29:24 Teen sleeps in closet for privacy, needs empowerment.
33:21 Parenting plans address counseling and cost sharing.
34:26 Each parent is responsible for child therapy.
38:41 Avoiding conflict by intervening in emotionally charged situations.
41:02 Communication through DM and email preferred.
🔗 Connect with Jenny Shane :
Instagram: FamilyTalkwithJenny
Website: divorceinpeacemediation.com
🔗 Connect with Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld:
Instagram | [email protected]Soaring Hawk Life Coaching | Ocean Waves Parenting
Previous Episode
Jennifer Kelman – Tackling Tough Topics
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Jennifer Kelman is a mental health expert on JustAnswer, where she has provided online support to those in need since 2012. In addition to her work on JustAnswer, Jennifer Kelman has been a licensed Clinical Social Worker for more than 30 years and maintains a private practice specializing in relationships, parenting, and children’s mental health issues. She is also a children’s book author having written three books that delicately weave in themes of trust, vulnerability, and hope in her stories.
She has lectured extensively around the country and appeared on news and television programs covering a range of issues including relationships, parenting, body-image, eating disorders, and children’s mental health.
From discussing the impact of age on children's sense of safety and confidence to navigating conversations about sensitive topics like moving and death, this episode is packed with practical advice for parents. Don't miss Jennifer's tips on building resilience in children and maintaining open lines of communication, no matter their age.
Takeaways
- Prioritize open communication.
- Customize your approach to each child.
- Manage technology use wisely.
Timestamps
00:00 - Introduction and guest introduction
02:30 - Jennifer Kelman's background
05:00 - Communicating life changes to teens
08:45 - Addressing tough topics with teenagers
13:30 - COVID's impact on youth mental health
17:52 - Creating authentic relationships with children
21:18 - Dealing with differing views
26:15 - Setting technology boundaries
29:31 - Handling teenage rebellion
33:02 - "No questions asked" communication approach
36:08 - Importance of parental vulnerability
39:45 - Closing thoughts
🔗 Connect with Jennifer Kelman:
Email: [email protected]
🔗 Connect with Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld:
Instagram | [email protected]Soaring Hawk Life Coaching | Ocean Waves Parenting
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Your Child is Disappointed, How Do YOU Cope?
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Watching your children in pain is one of the most challenging parts of being a parent. In this episode, Carrie and Jessica discuss some tips on how to help parents work through their own discomfort to help their children deal with the emotions of disappointment. These tips include: validating feelings, resisting the urge to "fix" the disappointment, resisting the urge to make their disappointment about something similar you may have experienced, don't dismiss their feelings, and give them the time to sit in their disappointment.
Disappointment is a part of life. It facilitates growth, character development, and resilience. Allow your children to work through their disappointment with your support.
🔗 Connect with Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld:
Instagram | [email protected]Soaring Hawk Life Coaching | Ocean Waves Parenting
Parent Coaches Unleashed - Jenny Shane – Hating Your EX Less to Love Your Kids More
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Welcome to parent coaches unleashed with Carrie and Jessica, where no topics are taboo or off limits. Join us as we let loose and discuss the real raw feelings about parenting. In each episode, we will bring you heartfelt discussions, real life stories, and special guests that will both entertain you and encourage community so no one feels alone in their parenting journey. Thanks so much for listening. Now let's start the show.
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