#85 - Understanding The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment
07/19/18 • 17 min
Recently Henry Cavill gave his thoughts about flirting in a post #MeToo era during an interview with GQ Australia, where he claimed to be afraid that flirting with someone might lead to his being dragged through hell because... reasons. And while he has since apologized for his insensitive remarks, they struck a chord with many people: where do you find the line between welcome flirting and sexual harassment? Does it come down to “flirting is when women like you and harassment is when they don’t"? What are the rules that define what's flirting and what isn't?
Show Highlights:
- Why do some men get away with flirting with women when other men get called out for it?
- Why "Just Be Attractive" gets it wrong
- The crucial details that make the difference between welcome flirting and unwelcome invasions of space
- How to tell when someone wants you to flirt with them
- Why nobody is harassing people by accident
...and so much more
Related Links:
How To Not Be The Office Creeper
Understanding The Dangers of Dating
What It Takes To Be A Better Man
Read Her Signs (Without Reading The Tea Leaves)
Sexual Harassment in Nerd Culture
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Recently Henry Cavill gave his thoughts about flirting in a post #MeToo era during an interview with GQ Australia, where he claimed to be afraid that flirting with someone might lead to his being dragged through hell because... reasons. And while he has since apologized for his insensitive remarks, they struck a chord with many people: where do you find the line between welcome flirting and sexual harassment? Does it come down to “flirting is when women like you and harassment is when they don’t"? What are the rules that define what's flirting and what isn't?
Show Highlights:
- Why do some men get away with flirting with women when other men get called out for it?
- Why "Just Be Attractive" gets it wrong
- The crucial details that make the difference between welcome flirting and unwelcome invasions of space
- How to tell when someone wants you to flirt with them
- Why nobody is harassing people by accident
...and so much more
Related Links:
How To Not Be The Office Creeper
Understanding The Dangers of Dating
What It Takes To Be A Better Man
Read Her Signs (Without Reading The Tea Leaves)
Sexual Harassment in Nerd Culture
Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube.
Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove
Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.doctornerdlove.com/books
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#84 - Can Silicon Valley Save Sex Ed? A Conversation With Brianna Rader
The state of sexual education in America is appalling. If schools aren't required by law to only teach abstinence-only education, then at most we get a glorified plumbing lesson instead of what we really need to know. As a result: more and more people are turning to porn for lessons in sex and sexuality.
But what if there's a better way? If the educational system fails us - either through ignorance or design - can we take sex-ed to the people? Can we disrupt sex education and give people access to the information they need via their smartphones? This week, I talk with Juicebox app developer Brianna Rader about relationship coaching, what we get wrong about sex ed, the trouble with porn... and also what it's like to be condemned personally by the state of Tennessee.
And be sure to listen until the end; there's an exclusive offer for my fans.
Show Highlights:
- Why schools are falling behind when it comes to teaching us about sex
- How porn is filling in the gaps... and why that's a problem
- Why we have such a hard time communicating our wants and needs with our partners
- What it's like trying to fund a sex-based start-up today
- How independent apps are changing the future of education
... and so much more.
Related Links:
What Do Your Secret Sexual Desires Say About You?
What Men SHOULD Have Learned In Sex Ed
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#86 - How To Approach Women In Groups
A lot of men don’t know how to approach women in groups — whether they’re with other women or a mixed group of men, women and more. As a result, they tend to focus on that one person... and end up coming across like a hyena trying to separate a gazelle from the herd. Fortunately, it’s actually very easy to join in a groups, in a way that not only encourage them to accept you, but help you make a powerful connection almost immediately.
You just have to understand how to manage group dynamics.
Show Highlights:
- What men get wrong about approaching groups of women
- The common mistake that gets you rejected by groups
- How men send the wrong signal when approaching women
- Why talking to one person in the group is a mistake
- Understand the power of the 3:2 ratio
...and so much more
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The No-Fear Guide To Navigating Parties Like A Pro
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5 Secrets To Make People Like You
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