66. Erotic Bodywork with Sexological Worker, Darshana Avila
05/24/21 • 30 min
Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! Have you ever met someone who's truly dedicated to helping people feel at home in their bodies and in alignment with their souls so that they can experience more ease and pleasure in all aspects of their life? You have now! This week I'm joined with Darshana Avila; an erotic bodywork/sexological worker!
Darshana mentions that "We are erotic by nature"! Being 'erotic' includes our sexuality, sensuality, and our creativity. Darshana invites people to expand on their relationship and where their intimacy can be cultivated; with everyone not just your partner.
"Stepping into your true nature is the pathway to empowering yourself and really connecting to eroticism". Getting to know your own body is such a crucial step to being ready for a relationship.
What does working with Darshana look like...
1. Figuring out what matters to you? What intentions are you coming in with & what are you seeking from a sexological worker?2. Finding out what is standing in between you at this moment
3. Walking through past experiences
3. People leave with a sense of self after working with Darshana Avila
4. Bringing voice into the bedroom is such a crucial part of Darshana's work, people being able to say ' I like this' 'I don't like that'
5. Learning what you like/don't like
-Discovering your boundaries
Often, people feel a disconnect with sex, or believe their experiences could be even better!
You deserve more! You don't have to settle for 'good', shoot for extraordinary!!!
"When we can be curious about ourselves, about our sex, about our experiences whole worlds of possibilities open up" -Darshana Avila
-Life is different when we get to embrace ourselves, be curious, and be creative!
Connect with Darshana Avila
EBook: "Touch Yourself" (self intimacy practices)
Instagram: @eroticwholeness
Website: https://darshanaavila.com/Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Facebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self
Email: [email protected]
Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]
Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! Have you ever met someone who's truly dedicated to helping people feel at home in their bodies and in alignment with their souls so that they can experience more ease and pleasure in all aspects of their life? You have now! This week I'm joined with Darshana Avila; an erotic bodywork/sexological worker!
Darshana mentions that "We are erotic by nature"! Being 'erotic' includes our sexuality, sensuality, and our creativity. Darshana invites people to expand on their relationship and where their intimacy can be cultivated; with everyone not just your partner.
"Stepping into your true nature is the pathway to empowering yourself and really connecting to eroticism". Getting to know your own body is such a crucial step to being ready for a relationship.
What does working with Darshana look like...
1. Figuring out what matters to you? What intentions are you coming in with & what are you seeking from a sexological worker?2. Finding out what is standing in between you at this moment
3. Walking through past experiences
3. People leave with a sense of self after working with Darshana Avila
4. Bringing voice into the bedroom is such a crucial part of Darshana's work, people being able to say ' I like this' 'I don't like that'
5. Learning what you like/don't like
-Discovering your boundaries
Often, people feel a disconnect with sex, or believe their experiences could be even better!
You deserve more! You don't have to settle for 'good', shoot for extraordinary!!!
"When we can be curious about ourselves, about our sex, about our experiences whole worlds of possibilities open up" -Darshana Avila
-Life is different when we get to embrace ourselves, be curious, and be creative!
Connect with Darshana Avila
EBook: "Touch Yourself" (self intimacy practices)
Instagram: @eroticwholeness
Website: https://darshanaavila.com/Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Facebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self
Email: [email protected]
Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]
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65. Sex Positions for Painful Sex with Amanda Fisher & Morgan Clark
Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! This week I'm joined with Amanda Fisher & Morgan Clark! Do you experience painful sex? If so; keep listening because today Amanda, Morgan & I talk about sex positions for painful sex!
The "Empower your Pelvis" clinic sees patients one-on-one who experience pelvic pain, pain with intercourse to prolapse, menopausal issues, postpartum issues, young/older athletes, strength training issues, etc.
Instagram: @empower.your.pelvis
What can people do to relieve pain before penetration?
-Getting in the mood! *Try taking a warm bath before engaging in sexual activities, anything to try and relieve some of the stress your feeling.*
-Take time for yourself before your partner joins. *Utilize foreplay*
-During daily activities try using your hips and pelvic floor more than your back! This might help you enjoy certain positions more. *Stretching*
-Utilize the childs pose position-Listen to your body!
-Listen to your body!
Recommended positions for vaginal & lower back pain
1. On top position, rear to your partner or facing your partner. With this position, you can control the movement/speed better. When you are experiencing discomfort you can pause and communicate that with your partner.
2. All fours, good for letting gravity help you.
3. Childs pose is also a good pose to let gravity help you.
4. On your back, (bridge position).
5. Resting your leg on a pillow or your partner opens up your torso hopefully alleviating nerve pain.
*Somewhat bent legs/knees, or legs rested on their partner is the best positioning to relieve lower back pain*
Don't be afraid to gain support from pillows and blankets!
Empowered In The Bedroom Series: Empoweryourpelvis.com
Empower Your Pelvis Instagram: @empower.your.pelvis
Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Facebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self
Email: [email protected]
Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]
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67. Coming Out & Celebrating PRIDE with Sarah Swofford
Welcome back, beautiful people! HAPPY PRIDE MONTH! This week I am joined with Sarah Swofford to talk about coming out & celebrating PRIDE!!! Sarah is a sex, love, and relationship coach for the LGBTQIA2+ community, an advocate, and a creative. She runs an edutainment and lifestyle brand & YouTube channel, SwirlBabyTV, with husband Rocky Lane, that’s focused on visibility and community engagement. Sarah identifies as a queer, pansexual, gender-diverse person and lives in Austin, Texas with their husband Rocky and their little dog Doodle. Find her on IG @thesarahswofford
Common worries/anxieties:
"I don't know where I fit"
"what is my label?"
-The desire for community.
-Too "old" to come out
Remember: "Our labels can change! It's okay to grow, change and learn new languages by yourself!" -Sarah
Not everyone can have the same coming out experience.
Sarah helps people evaluate the space they want to come out to and what they are hoping to get from it; whether you're hoping to speak your truth or feel accepted/ celebrated.
You don't owe anybody a justification! You. Are. Valid. You deserve to live in your truth. There are always people/ a community ready to welcome you with open arms.
Resources from Sarah Swofford-
*Human Rights Campaign- HRC.org is an excellent place to start- they have tons of articles on gender and sexual diversity, healthcare resources, education on lgbtq+ issues, etc.
*https://txtranshealth.org/blog - a link to the blog where Sarah wrote about “How to support your partner if they come out as Trans or non-binary” (the second post down on the blog)
*@Translifeline on Instagram- peer support and a crisis hotline if you are in need of immediate support
*Hans Lindahl YouTube channel for intersex related content
*Black Trans Leadership Austin on IG and Transgender Education Network of Texas - which is @transtexas on IG- both excellent organizations to follow for more Transgender and gender diverse related support and information.
*Shohreh Davoodi on Instagram - she is an amazing self-trust coach and podcaster who is also a super affirming member of the lgbtq+ community.
Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Facebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self
Email: [email protected]
Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]
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