Overcome Emotional Eating

Why do you give up on your weight loss goals?

You set a goal to lose weight, you make a commitment and actually we are very good in making commitments. Once you make the commitment, you generate excitement and determination, you plan your meals, sign up for the gym, or for a programme and you are fired up. And all of that feels amazing. But then what happens? Just after you made the commitment, the reality sets in. And how do you feel? You start feeling deprivation, confusion, fear, doubt, anger, sadness, overwhelm, shame, rebellion, you name it...

This is all what happens, you feel this terrible emotions. And what you make all of this mean?

That was a terrible idea. That’s is too hard. This went terribly wrong, this shouldn’t be happening.

Then you say: I never did this commitment anyway.

But then, if you signed up for a programme, gym, or even reading a book about weight loss, what do you make it mean? The programme is terrible, or you are terrible. I tried it and it didn’t work, or you are not capable.

But what if we could look at these terrible emotions and thoughts that come up after we make the commitment, as something normal? So, as soon as you make the commitment this for sure is going to happen on purpose, it supposed to, and there is nothing wrong with the world or with you.

So, to go through this you have to have courage. You need to move forward despite the way you feel. And there is where most people give up. They don’t want to feel terrible.

Eating cupcakes feels good and losing weight feel terrible, right?

So, once you are willing to stay in that place, and learn how to get through it and learn all the skills to manage your mind, and to not eat when you are not hungry, all of that creates capability, which is like your skill set, and once you develop that, then you get confidence.

All success is the ability to get from commitment to capability.

I call it the river of misery. You need to be willing to go through the river of misery to be able to achieve your goal. But there is no way to get to confidence without going through the process of courage and capability.

Everything we want is in the other side of this.

So answering the question I asked in the beginning of the post: Why do we give up in our health goals? The answer is: because we are not willing to go through the river of misery.

We are not willing to feel negative emotions.

Then we give up. Then we change the commitment once you start navigating into the river of misery, because once you change or give up on your commitment then you don’t need to go through the process you don’t need to feel terrible.

So how NOT to give up on your weight loss goals?

By being willing to feel any emotion that will come up to you.

Do not give up when things starts to get terrible, it’s normal, it’s part of the deal, and you will succeed once you get to the other side of the river.

The best news is: you will evolve, you’ll learn, you’ll have the capability and confidence to keep the result forever.
I can help you through this, schedule a free call with me HERE
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I want to tell you something about me that you probably already know (or not)... I love CrossFit and weight training.

I love working out! I train 4 times a week, every week for the past 3 1/2 years.

I have muscle pain, sometimes I don't feel like going to class, I push my body to the limit that I never thought was possible for me. And I got a body transformation as a result. (If you want to see it, check my instagram.)

I'm physically fit. At least, I am more now than 3 1/2 years ago, no doubts about it.

I want you to imagine how someone become physically fit, just like I share my experience. It's a long process. Right?

I was listening to Tony Robins podcast and he talked about being emotional fit, and my mind went crazy trying to get the concept.

Comparing to physically fit, that means we can do things physically that someone who is not fit can't do.

When I started CrossFit I couldn't do 1 push up, now I can do 20.

Thinking about that way emotionally it's super interesting.

Being emotionally fit is having the ability to handle and process emotions in a way that serves us best. Better than before.

It's having emotional resilience to any situation life throw at us.

It's being able to cope with negative emotions without having to escape by using food.

But how do we get emotionally fit?

By training it. Having tools to process and manage emotions and practice, practice, practice.

It's spending time understanding how that specific emotion feels in your body, how does it look like to you, what's the speed, the colour, the location.

It's feeling the emotion. Giving space to be there, without resisting it.

It's a skill we need to practice over and over.

We need to be emotionally fit to stop overeating, over drinking, over spending, etc.

A Coach is like a personal trainer to your brain.

A Coach will help you with the tools, show you how to do it, and guide you to places you never thought you would go.

Being emotionally fit is being able to handle anything.

That's what I want. Do you?

If you want to get emotionally fit, join my 6-week group coaching programme where I will teach all the tools to become emotionally fit and transform your life. JOIN HERE
We start on May 17th - Don't miss this opportunity - only 10 spots available
Not sure this programme is for you? I can help you - I am offering 20min free calls where you can ask all the questions about the group programme.
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When you’re stuck in the pattern of emotional eating, it’s easy to fall into hopelessness and to think there’s something wrong with you. But the truth is, emotional eating is a tool you use to take care of yourself. Join me and US-based life and business coach Kristen King as we explore how being curious and connecting with yourself can help you break the pattern and create your own self-care plan based on what’s RIGHT with you.
Kristen King is a sweary life and business coach for womxn and femme folx who want to give fewer fucks. Kristen helps them reclaim their fucks so they can use them for the shit they actually care about. In addition to being a coach, Kristen is also a mental health and wellness facilitator who loves helping people find compassion and connection with themselves as they learn to hold space for their own emotions. Her specialties are perfectionism, people-pleasing, anxiety, overwhelm, and burning down the motherfucking patriarchy one reclaimed fuck at a time. Find her online at facebook.com/kristenskoveking, instagram.com/kristenskoveking, and kristenking.com.
Resources:
* Kristen’s WRAP articles https://www.wellnessrecoveryactionplan.com/author/kking/
* Kristen’s WRAP Facilitator bio https://copelandcenter.com/facilitators/kristen-king
* What Is the Wellness Recovery Action Plan (WRAP)? https://www.wellnessrecoveryactionplan.com/what-is-wrap/
* Get started with WRAP on your own https://www.wellnessrecoveryactionplan.com/product/wrap-essentials-bundle/
* Find a WRAP Facilitator or group in your area
* US Facilitators https://copelandcenter.com/find-facilitator/facilitator-directory
* International Facilitators https://copelandcenter.com/find-facilitator/international-facilitators
Find Kristen: Facebook, Instagram, and kristenking.com

I have a special guest today to talk about desire, pleasure and sex.
My dear friend and fellow coach, Lydia Feldman.
Here is more about her and what she does:
I’m Lydia Feldman, certified Sex & Pleasure Coach. 
I have the best job in the world.
I help women turn ON and create their wildest dreams… erotically in the bedroom AND throughout their whole life.
Through harnessing & expanding all the simple pleasures, women amplify  the vibrant, creative & FULLY LIT life they MOST desire.
Mind-blowing sex is just the beginning.
I get the pleasure of living in Northern California with my rad husband and my two little kids. I love my millions of house plants, lots of bright color, fancy coffee and the sunshine on my skin.

This conversation was hot and super powerful.
On this episode you will listen about:
- How religion affects how we think and believe about sex, desires and our bodies.
- The desire bank, how are you using your desire? Is it all with food or in other areas of your life?
- How to connect with your body and know what you want and don't want
- Food is not all the pleasure in life, how to create more of it?

Find more about Lydia and her amazing work:
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mrslydiafeldman
Website: www.lydiafeldmancoaching.com 
Podcast "The Pleasure Seeker": https://anchor.fm/lydia-feldman9

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Happy New Year darling! It's a great time for new opportunities and goals.
If you have weight loss in the top of your new year's resolution list, you gotta listen to this episode today.
For many years my new year resolution was to lose weight, until it wasn't anymore because I lost the weight and kept it off.
So, today's episode I'm sharing 6 tips of how to achieve your weight loss goal for the last time, so next year you can let another area of your life get the opportunity to turn into reality.
These 6 tips I'm sharing, you won't hear out there in the weight loss world, or in the diet industry, that's why it works.
They are realistic ideas and internal shifts that we need to be able to achieve any goal, but specially weight loss goals.
2021 is the year to lose weight for GOOD. Are you ready?
I can help you, so let's work together... Schedule a free call with me HERE
Here is the testimonial from my client Helen:
"I attended a conference where Pam was speaking about emotional eating and the poor eating habits CEOs and other Executives have. Practically everything Pamella said resonated with me and made a great deal of sense. Some six months later, having considered what Pam had said, I decided to bite the bullet and contact her. My work-life balance was very out of synch and, as a result, I had completely neglected my own health and wellbeing and had piled on weight and become very sedentary.

I arranged to speak with Pam and engaged on a 6-month programme with her. Every week, Pam calls me and we talk through the model and fundamentals of how the human brain works. Within 1-2 weeks, my eating habits had completely changed and I was much more aware of my actions. Pam has always been non-judgemental and supportive. Her sessions are both extremely interesting as well as practically helpful.

I was able to recalibrate my life. I now hill walk three times per week and have lost 26lbs. I am so much fitter and happier with my level of control over my eating habits. I am signing up for a further 6- months so that I can continue my journey with Pam’s support. This programme has allowed me to be more effective at work and cope with stress much more effectively.

For anyone who is thinking of asking for Pam’s help, do it. She has helped me immensely and I am so grateful for her guidance and expertise. You won’t regret it. I now have the tools to amend my eating habits for life. No more yo-yo dieting for me!"
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