One Broken Mom Hosted by Ameé Quiriconi

Today's episode features Kelly Lynch, a domestic violence survivor. After being trapped in her home at knife-point for two and a half hours by her husband, Kelly was able to remove herself from an abusive marriage and start over with an 18-month-old child. But Kelly is also therapist with practice out in Connecticut called Turning Point Wellness who recognized that her own story and experiences as well as being a mental health professional gave her some valuable insights for other young single mothers to turn their lives around at the moment in time that they probably feel it’s impossible to do so.

In this episode you will hear:
What is the "Cycle of Violence" in relationships

What are ways for a single mom to reconnect with herself?

How do you handle the shame of feeling like you “didn’t do enough” to save the relationship?

What are the signs someone should look for early in a relationship that indicates potential trouble?

What is The Unapology Project?

If you or someone you know is in a violent or abusive relationship, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline

• Call 800-799-SAFE (7233).
• Staff is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
• Get information in more than 170 languages.
• You will hear a recording and may have to wait for a short time.
• Hotline staff offers safety planning and crisis help. They can connect you to shelters and services in your area.
• Staff can send out written information on topics such as domestic violence, sexual assault, and the legal system.
• You can also get help through email or live chat on the hotline’s contact page

Other Resources from this episode:

Domestic Violence Resources for Women by State – U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, Office on Women’s Health

https://www.theunapologyproject.com/home

http://www.turningpointwellnessllc.com/

https://www.facebook.com/theunapologyproject

https://www.instagram.com/unapologetically.authentic/

Henry's disappearance in December of 2017 struck a chord throughout the community of Snohomish, Washington and brought thousands together to search for him.

When his body was found in the Snohomish River in late January, the unimaginable was confirmed - Henry had killed himself.

Henry Groeneveld was a soft-spoken beloved man who had been a dedicated rural postal carrier for decades. He had never shown any signs of depression or suicidal thoughts. He was an active member of the community and a familiar face to many. But after an incident at the post office with his supervisor left particularly rattled and upset, Henry came home that morning briefly and then walked out of the door, leaving his personal items behind on the kitchen table and was gone.

In this interview with his daughter, Liz Dickson, we learn more about this man and how the experience changed her in profound ways. The history of Henry's life is telling in many ways in terms of understanding the "why" but what is also important, is hearing how a stay-at-home mom with three children of her own, had to shift gears for two months in order to hold vigil over the search of her father. And what she has done after to heal the trauma for herself and her kids after dealing with such a devastating situation and loss.

We also discuss how hard it is to get media coverage and law enforcement support for suspected suicide victims. Today, Liz administers a Facebook group called Letters for Henry that reminds people of Henry's legacy of kindness for everyone and how important it is to reach out to people around us and check in on their well-being.

This week's episode features Dr. Jonice Webb. She is the author of the best-selling book Running on Empty: Overcome your Childhood Emotional Neglect. And has just published a follow-up to the book Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children.

Because like many people out there – when you use words like trauma and neglect – they feel too strong to describe what was, yes, a challenging childhood, and so it is easy to reject looking into any subject matter around the topic, especially if you are a person who feels that you have overcome adversities and challenges.
But if you are a person who is still committing acts of self-sabotage such as bad romantic relationships, or have feelings of anxiety or depression frequently, and you have never been able to put a finger on any particular event or experience in your life that may have contributed to them, the concept of childhood emotional neglect just might be the key to unlocking the mystery.
In this episode, Ameé and Dr. Webb discuss the following:

• What is Childhood Emotional Neglect?
• The common types of parents who are more apt to create this emotionally phobic or neglectful environment.
• Now, how does someone feel like an adult if they did experience this lack of emotional connection from parents? What are the outcomes & behaviors typically seen?
• How does a person who has experienced childhood emotional neglect parent their own kids from an empty tank?
• Do you have to confront your own parents to heal from CEN?
• What's the first step to healing yourself from CEN?

Resources:

Dr. Jonice Webb's Website
Dr. Jonice Webb's Facebook Page
Dr. Jonice Webb's YouTube Channel
Dr. Jonice Webb on Instagram
Dr. Jonice Webb on Twitter

Returning to the show is Anna Runkle, the creator of Crappy Childhood Fairy, an online resource for understanding and healing from CPTSD related to chronic childhood experiences. In Season Two, we learned about Anna and her work after a listener wrote in and recommended her processes. As a childhood trauma survivor, Anna brings a perspective from the trenches and methodology that has helped her for over twenty years slow the spinning of the hamster wheel in her head as well as for others. In this episode, Ameé and Anna talk about how the current worldwide climate of the pandemic can be impacting those who have CPTSD and introduces some strategies for managing it.

Recorded on the morning of May 25, 2020, we both had no idea of what was yet to come later that day and the days following with the death of George Floyd, and thought the COVID-19 situation would be the most significant event for people to deal with.

In this episode, you will hear:

• The distinction between PTSD and CPTSD
• The relationship of CPTSD and health disorders
• What are emotional flashbacks
• Why we must be accountable for understanding our symptoms and guiding our own healing
• How healing is about becoming lucid of our experiences and what is happening with us in the moment
• Anna’s process for healing and living with CPTSD

Resources:

https://crappychildhoodfairy.com/

https://courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/courses/daily-practice

The Crappy Childhood Fairy on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCZlDCbFTqHkzV_rUP4V5bg

Today Ameé tackles perhaps the most taboo topic in the world throughout history: Incest. Her guest, Nancy Allen – a father-daughter incest survivor, is the founder of Tail of the Bell, an organization that offers coaching and resources to other incest survivors.

Trigger Warning: Nancy speaks very candidly about the abuse she endured at the hands of her father. So, if you have experienced sexual assault, there could be some triggering moments during the interview for you!

The psychological impacts of this particular form of abuse are devastating. When a child is conflicted with trying to understand what their relationship is with an older sibling or parent and then also engaging in sexual acts before their own brains and bodies are ready for it, it leaves wounds that, as Nancy says, you don't just "get over it."

In this episode you will hear:

• Nancy's story of abuse by her father
• What is the common feeling incest survivors have about themselves?
• How she compartmentalized as she grew up
• The supportive work environment
• Does someone need to admit publicly or even to spouses or friends they were sexually abused as a child in order to “heal” or move on?
• Men as incest survivors
• What services her organization provides
• What Nancy recommends as a first step for someone sitting there with this secret and they have never told anyone or addressed their abuse before

Resources:
https://www.tailofthebell.com/