How To Handle Emotionally Immature People with Dr. Lindsay Gibson

08/18/19 • 55 min

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Ameé has back on the show one of the One Broken Mom listeners' favorites, Lindsay Gibson. Lindsay is the author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents and has just published the follow-up book, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries & Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

Lindsay and Ameé have spoken a couple of times about Emotionally Immature Parents – who they are and what its like growing up with them as your own parents. She has really become the expert on identifying and naming the condition of “Emotionally Immature Parents” (EIP) and putting some arms around how their parenting styles create unstable and sometimes chaotic experiences for us during our childhood and into adulthood.

In this episode, you will hear not only practical advice and tools for redefining your relationship with your parents but also for any of the emotionally immature people you run into or have to deal with in life.

In this episode you will also hear:

What are the characteristics of emotionally immature people
Do your emotionally immature parents have to be cut off or can you have a relationship with them
How did growing up with EIP impact our communication styles
What is differentiation
How EIP's are hostile
How EIP's may have made us learn to NOT be assertive
How growing up with EIP's may lead you to have romantic relationships with emotionally immature people
Learning how to set boundaries

Resources
Lindsay's Website
Book Links:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries & Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

In this episode you will also hear:

What are the characteristics of emotionally immature people
Do your emotionally immature parents have to be cut off or can you have a relationship with them
How did growing up with EIP impact our communication styles
What is differentiation
How EIP's are hostile
How EIP's may have made us learn to NOT be assertive
How growing up with EIP's may lead you to have romantic relationships with emotionally immature people
Learning how to set boundaries

Previous Episode

Understanding the Origins of Violence

In the wake of recent mass shootings, Ameé had an opportunity to speak with Nick Hoffman, the Director of Development with the Avielle Foundation.
The Mission of the Avielle Foundation is to prevent violence and build compassion through neuroscience research, community engagement, and education. And it was founded after the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting in 2012 by two parents who lost their only child that day.

The Avielle Foundation accomplishes this mission by directing efforts and resources in two areas. First, the Avielle Foundation provides financial support of breakthrough neuroscience research, bridging biochemical and behavioral sciences, and making the neurosciences a prestigious and lucrative life endeavor. And second, knowing that action is as important as education, the Avielle Foundation fosters community engagement and education initiatives that empower youth, parents, teachers, health care providers, law enforcement – the everyday citizen – to advocate for brain health in themselves and others.
In this episode, Ameé speaks with Nick about some of the important studies the Avielle Foundation has supported and touch on the results of those studies that provide the evidence needed to understand why some people become violent and others don't.
In this episode you will hear:
The history and mission of the Avielle Foundation
Research projects supported that study the origins of violence
What kinds of projects funded by the Avielle Foundation
How to support the Avielle Foundation and how to apply for grants
Resources:
Donate to Support The Avielle Foundation
How to Apply for Funding
The Brainstorm Experience

Next Episode

The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap with Ross Rosenberg

In this episode, Ameé speaks with Ross Rosenberg. He is the owner Owner of Clinical Care Consultants in Chicago and Self-Love Recovery Institute as well as a psychotherapist, trainer, and author who specializes in Codependency, Narcissism, Trauma & Sex Addiction.

He is the author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap which provides answers to why patient, giving and selfless individuals (codependents) are predictably attracted to self-centered, selfish and controlling partners (emotional manipulators).

In this episode, you will learn:

What is co-dependency or self-love deficit disorder? What are the signs?
Can you be “sometimes” co-dependent – that is, exhibit the characteristics more so with certain people and not with others?
Are you turned into a co-dependent by a bad partner or is this something we’ve had in us all along that is pulled out once the conditions are right?
What is "chemistry"?
How do you counsel people who are constantly choosing or are attracted to the “wrong person” to re-tune or just be made aware of this predilection to certain types of people who are going to hurt us?
How does a man end up in a relationship with a narcissistic woman?

Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Buy The Human Magnet Syndrome book
Self-Love Recovery Institute Website
Ross Rosenberg's YouTube Channel
Self-Love Recovery Institute on Facebook