When Enabling Becomes Abuse
05/11/21 • 44 min
In this Episode:
For many of us, helping is part of our nature. We want to help our children, our parents as they age. and our partners. Unfortunately, sometimes our desire to help leads to more harm than good. That helping becomes enabling. Do you know when enabling becomes abuse? If you think that your actions have transformed from help to harm, this episode is for you. We discuss what it means to enable, the different ways that we do it, and the harm it can cause.
Highlights in this Episode Include:
- Definition of enabling and how it harms.
- The five freedoms by Virginia Satir.
- The selfishness behind enabling.
- The signs of enabling behaviors and how they become harmful.
- How stopping enabling becomes difficult.
- Why we do it.
Are you ready to accept the 8-Day Self-Care Challenge?
Off the back of our episode on self-care, Jeanna is holding an 8-day self-care challenge. Learn how to provide yourself with the care that you deserve without the guilt of being selfish with 8 simple activities. Click here to learn more.
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In this Episode:
For many of us, helping is part of our nature. We want to help our children, our parents as they age. and our partners. Unfortunately, sometimes our desire to help leads to more harm than good. That helping becomes enabling. Do you know when enabling becomes abuse? If you think that your actions have transformed from help to harm, this episode is for you. We discuss what it means to enable, the different ways that we do it, and the harm it can cause.
Highlights in this Episode Include:
- Definition of enabling and how it harms.
- The five freedoms by Virginia Satir.
- The selfishness behind enabling.
- The signs of enabling behaviors and how they become harmful.
- How stopping enabling becomes difficult.
- Why we do it.
Are you ready to accept the 8-Day Self-Care Challenge?
Off the back of our episode on self-care, Jeanna is holding an 8-day self-care challenge. Learn how to provide yourself with the care that you deserve without the guilt of being selfish with 8 simple activities. Click here to learn more.
Get More from Back Porch Chats:
Visit the Back Porch Chats website
http://backporchchats.com/
Contact Vince or Jeanna
[email protected]
[email protected]
Follow us on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/Backporchchats
Connect with Jeanna Online:
Follow the Now Sober Coach Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/jeannafoxcoach
Join the FREE Now Sober Coach Facebook group for Community and Support
https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobrietycoachfox
Connect on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/recoverywithjeanna/
Check out the Now Sober website
www.nowsobercoach.com
Contact by Email
[email protected]
How You Can Help
If you enjoy this podcast and would like to offer your support, there are three things you can do.
1. Head over to your favorite podcast app and leave a review.
2. Share this episode on social media.
3. Visit our store and wear your support. Now available: Back Porch Chats Merchandise in the Now Sober Lifestyle store.
https://now-sober-life.creator-spring.com/
Previous Episode
8 Areas of Self-Care
In this Episode:
Do you have trouble determining the difference between selfishness and self-care? If so, this episode is for you. Often, the recovering alcoholic feels guilty when they provide themselves with self-care because it means they sometimes have to put themselves before others, and that feels selfish, but there is a difference. In this episode, Vince and Jeanna share 8 areas in which you can take care of yourself and how doing that can be a selfless act towards the people around you.
Other Highlights in this Episode Include:
- Definition of selfish and self-care and the differences.
- How being selfish can appear as control.
- How giving too much to the people around you without consideration of your own self-care can be harmful.
- 8 areas of self-care with examples.
Are you ready to accept an 8-day self-care challenge? Click here to learn more.
Get More from Back Porch Chats:
Visit the Back Porch Chats website
http://backporchchats.com/
Contact Vince or Jeanna
[email protected]
[email protected]
Follow us on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/Backporchchats
Connect with Jeanna Online:
Follow the Now Sober Coach Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/jeannafoxcoach
Join the FREE Now Sober Coach Facebook group for Community and Support
https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobrietycoachfox
Connect on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/recoverywithjeanna/
Check out the Now Sober website
www.nowsobercoach.com
Contact by Email
[email protected]
How You Can Help
If you enjoy this podcast and would like to offer your support, there are three things you can do.
1. Head over to your favorite podcast app and leave a review.
2. Share this episode on social media.
3. Visit our store and wear your support. Now available: Back Porch Chats Merchandise in the Now Sober Lifestyle store.
https://now-sober-life.creator-spring.com/
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Roban's Story and Driving Miss Jeanna
Roban’s Story and Driving Miss Jeanna
In this Episode:
In this episode of “Back Porch Chats”, Vince meets Roban, Jeanna’s taxi driver from “back in the day”. Roban tells her story of how she was introduced to her drug of choice (meth) and quickly became addicted. She also shares with us how her daughter saved her from that life only to follow a similar path. As a bonus, you will hear laughter and pain in a taxi driver’s story.
Highlights in this Episode Include:
- How her children knew about her addiction.
- How giving her testimony and being baptized changed her life.
- Stories of a taxi driver.
- How she had to detach from the daughter that saved her because of addiction.
- The day she discovered she had experienced molestation as a child and how she has internalized it.
- How telling her story can help others.
Roban's Bio
Roban has over 20 years in recovery. She currently lives in Oregon and cares for her mother while running her nail and jewelry businesses. If you want to support Roban, you can find her at Purdy River VIP Nails by Roban.
Are you ready to accept the 8-Day Self-Care Challenge?
Off the back of our episode on self-care, Jeanna is holding an 8-day self-care challenge. Learn how to provide yourself with the care that you deserve without the guilt of being selfish with 8 simple activities. Click here to learn more.
Get More from Back Porch Chats:
Visit the Back Porch Chats website
http://backporchchats.com/
Contact Vince or Jeanna
[email protected]
[email protected]
Follow us on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/Backporchchats
Connect with Jeanna Online:
Follow the Now Sober Coach Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/jeannafoxcoach
Join the FREE Now Sober Coach Facebook group for Community and Support
https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobrietycoachfox
Connect on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/recoverywithjeanna/
Check out the Now Sober website
www.nowsobercoach.com
Contact by Email
[email protected]
How You Can Help
If you enjoy this podcast and would like to offer your support, there are three things you can do.
1. Head over to your favorite podcast app and leave a review.
2. Share this episode on social media.
3. Visit our store and wear your support. Now available: Back Porch Chats Merchandise in the Now Sober Lifestyle store.
https://now-sober-life.creator-spring.com/
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