How Niceness Leads to Dis-ease

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03/12/22 • 45 min

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Season 2 Episode 23 we step into why so many of us are nice and how this is impacting us on many levels, including the biological level. Jessi shares her journey into niceness and revelas her personal opinion on the millenial generation's hang ups around niceness and the deep need for real one on one conversations, despite our many diverse viewpoints. She reviews how to healthfully hold your ground physically when in an overactivating situation, like saying no or vocalizing a need or a differing opinion. Jessi shares her observations from life, clinical practice and favorite expert and answers the question - why is it that so many nice people develop dis-ease? This is a deeply personal share and one that is foundational to the Authentic Calm Method and all of Jessi's work. It's not one you will want to miss!

Topics discussed:

Why are we nice?
Why are the nice humans the ones to deveop disease.
How we can step out of niceness and live authentically and healthfully.

Episode quotes

"What does it mean to be nice and how does this impact your body? As a human, but especially as a sensitive. I'm just going to give it all to you in one sentence, maintaining your niceness is the path to disease. Let's talk about this. So first of all, why are you nice? Why is it that you feel you have to always be nice and what is nice?"

"God does not ask us to be nice. God does not ask us to repress emotions, opinions, perceptions, and experiences. God does ask us to step into other people's shoes and to be kind. But he also, and I personally connect with God as a, he as a little side note. But. God also, you know, asks us to have healthy boundaries."

"So you can be respectful. You can be kind, you can be loving, you can be giving, you can be conscientious. You can be thoughtful. You can be aware, you can be intelligent. All these things you can be without being nice. Without repressing. Now you may have many conversations that are uncomfortable because within our beautiful country here, we are quite diverse in our view set."

"I of course experienced the world differently than most people. And as a result of this experience, a lot of rejection around any sort of expression of my experience or my needs, I received the message and owned the message and absorbed the message that I was too much and that I was drama and that I was selfish."

"Why is it that the nicest piece, but people are always the ones that seem to get sick. Why is that rarely, do you see the cranky, bitchy bastardly individuals actually die young?"

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Topics discussed:

Why are we nice?
Why are the nice humans the ones to deveop disease.
How we can step out of niceness and live authentically and healthfully.

Episode quotes

"Why is it that the nicest piece, but people are always the ones that seem to get sick. Why is that rarely, do you see the cranky, bitchy bastardly individuals actually die young?"

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Previous Episode

Why Does My Sensitivity Heighten When Doing Healing Work?

Season 2 Episode 22 - Have you ever begun a therapy, like nutrition, flower essences, acupuncture, counseling, or EMDR and found that you suddenly noticed more and felt more. Your sensitivity heightened. Believe it or not, this is a positive sign. It can feel alarming without the context, so Jessi spends this episode explaing the process of disconencting, the numbing and repression. She covers why the rerun of true sensitivity is a beautiful sign of your authenticity coming through and clarifes what it looks like to reconnect with your physical body, yes, your sensitive physical body in order to holistically heal.

Topics discussed:

The set up that leads to numbing and how we disconnect to save ourselves.
Holisitic healing requires connection.
How we return. Reconnection in action.

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Next Episode

The Foundation to Healing for Sensitives

Season 2 Episode 24 dives into the core. Do you want to heal? Jessi does not mince words and explains why you cannot look to practitioners or tools or therapies or tonics alone. She's been there and tried it all. There is a foundational layer and vital step that is often missed. Sensitives are the most likely to avoid this practice, yet we are the ones that need it most! This is a glimpse into the core of Jessi's method and life's work.

Topics discussed:

Why we disconnect.
Jessi's personal discovery of the foundation of healing.
Why we must step into this as Sensitives and what happens in our bodies when we do.
Jessi's personal recommendations for integrating this foundation into the everyday.
A glimpse into what shes's building for this sensitive community.

Episode Quotes

"we try out all these different therapies and tonics and You know, different tinctures and tools, just tools overall that we're trying to use to bring forward healing. I'm completely bypassing the foundational issue, which is that we are not actually registering how we feel."

"It's not on them. It's actually on you. And they're there to guide and offer you what I call remedies. Whatever they may look like to optimize, to increase, to Quicken your ability to heal. But the actual ability to heal is yours, it is not theirs it is yours. And so it's important to recognize that and to see everything as outside supports that you add on as needed."

" There's so many tools, gua sha and all of that, which are all gorgeous and beautiful ancient and, being revisited in this modern world and I love that, but you have to remember that those aren't your saviors, they are simply add ons and really what it comes down to is acknowledging and trusting the body that you've been given is meant to heal."

" They are a gift. It is a gift to be able to hear those messages so clearly most people can not hear their messages. Believe me, it's my job to help interpret."

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