Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD - E215: I Don’t Know What Else To Do! 5 Ways to Find Fresh Solutions When You Feel Stuck and Hopeless in the Same Old Frustrating Problems

E215: I Don’t Know What Else To Do! 5 Ways to Find Fresh Solutions When You Feel Stuck and Hopeless in the Same Old Frustrating Problems

11/16/23 • 26 min

Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD

“I’ve tried everything!”

When you’re dealing with a particularly frustrating problem that’s gone on for years, like parenting your exasperating child, looking for relief from a chronic health issue, or advocating for your child struggling at school, you start to run out of energy AND optimism.

When you’ve got a situation that feels hopeless...

When you’ve run out of ideas...

When you’ve looked under every rock and barked up every tree...

Should you just give up?

Sigh.

Except you REALLY want to find a solution. You’re not ready to give up on your kid, your health, the things that truly matter to you.

What’s a mom to do?

My kindergartener surprised me with his fresh take on counting last week, and it made me think twice about how I look at the same-old-same-old.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing five valuable ways to find a fresh perspective when you feel overwhelmed or stuck. Let’s look outside the box and past the same advice you’ve heard 37 times to find what you actually need or could use.

These are the kinds of problems that are worth another go. You’re worth it, too.

Get some cheerleaders in your corner and join our free Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/motherhoodinadhd

After our first session together, you’ll know how to stay cool when your Uncle Roger starts with his political BS at the next holiday party. It won’t ruin the day for you.

Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching ends today! Registration reopens in January.

The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now to get signup details, so you’ll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.

You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-215-dont-know-what-else-to-do-how-to-solve-hopeless-problems-feel-stuck

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“I’ve tried everything!”

When you’ve got a situation that feels hopeless...

When you’ve run out of ideas...

When you’ve looked under every rock and barked up every tree...

Should you just give up?

Sigh.

Except you REALLY want to find a solution. You’re not ready to give up on your kid, your health, the things that truly matter to you.

What’s a mom to do?

My kindergartener surprised me with his fresh take on counting last week, and it made me think twice about how I look at the same-old-same-old.

These are the kinds of problems that are worth another go. You’re worth it, too.

Get some cheerleaders in your corner and join our free Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/motherhoodinadhd

After our first session together, you’ll know how to stay cool when your Uncle Roger starts with his political BS at the next holiday party. It won’t ruin the day for you.

Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching ends today! Registration reopens in January.

You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-215-dont-know-what-else-to-do-how-to-solve-hopeless-problems-feel-stuck

Previous Episode

E214: Parenting Lessons from Bad Bosses: When Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) affects our Parenting and Partners

What’s your story of working under an unqualified or unsupportive boss? I’m sharing a few of my terrible boss experiences.

But today’s episode is not just about the bad bosses in the workplace. As a parent, we often feel underqualified. You don’t want to be a “bad boss”, but no one handed you an instruction manual when your children arrived!

What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

When you don’t feel sure of your choices, it starts to seep into your confidence level. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) shows up to make you doubt your parenting decisions, increasing the guilt around what you should have done, and layering in the shame on how you’re ruining your kids forever with your mess ups.Yikes!

RSD also taints how we relate to our partners, which can stir up the same conflict over and over again. It influences how we react to the slightest eyebrow raise and every “what if” scenario. It makes you scared to bring up important conversations.

Knowing it’s not just you is half the battle. Let’s dive into how we can better support and care for our families and partners, by starting with ourselves.

Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-214-parenting-lessons-from-bad-bosses-when-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-rsd-affects-parenting-partners

When you know how to stay calm, your child’s meltdown over leaving the holiday party won’t ruin your day. You can respond firmly and lovingly because you’re in control of your emotions.

Next week, Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching is open to the waitlist for 3 days only.

The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now so you’ll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.

You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.

Next Episode

E216: What I Wish I Knew Before Taking ADHD Medication: Your Questions Answered! Best Of Series

How do you feel when you think about taking ADHD medication?

Nervous?

Hopeful?

Overwhelmed?

The process of obtaining and finding the right medication can feel like A LOT.

First, you have to approach the subject with your doctor (who may or may not be well-informed about ADHD) -- and then there is finding the right type and dosing of medication, dealing with potential side effects, and the whole process of trial and error.

It never goes perfectly. But it can go more smoothly -- when you take a few steps to plan and prepare for it.

On this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I share all my best tips and strategies for starting ADHD medication that I learned the hard way -- from tackling that first conversation with your doc, to riding out your first few months.

You'll learn:

Tips for remembering to take your medication daily (No more, "Ugh, did I actually take that today?" moments)
How to take your medication for maximum effectiveness
How to work with your doctor to start and stop medication safely
Tips for finding the right dosing
What to do if you can't afford your ADHD medication
Tips for approaching the topic of ADHD medication with your doctor (No, you're not a "drug seeker"!)
And so much more!

Your first go-round with ADHD medication doesn't have to be a disaster. You deserve to feel confident, informed and fear-free while you find a treatment plan that works for you.

**This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.**

This episode is part of our Best Of Series by your requests and originally aired in June 2022.

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-216-what-i-wish-i-knew-before-taking-adhd-stimulants-best-of-series

What if you could feel productive and accomplished, knowing you showed up for the people and things you love most? What if you could look back at your day, and know you did what was on your to-do list?

It’s possible with the Daily Planning for Moms with ADHD course, where I teach you how to keep a calendar and organize your to-do lists in a way that makes sense for your ADHD brain.

Join today at: bit.ly/adhdplan