74: An Intimate Conversation Dispelling the Myths About Adoption with Mom at 41 Listener Traci-Ann Delisser

01/19/15 • 37 min

How does Adoption work? Can the Birth Mom ‘take the baby back’? Is the birth mom or birth dad involved in Parenting the kids? And how do you navigate the relationship with the birth mom?

In this Episode Traci-Ann and I discuss:

why she decided to adopt as a Single Mom at the age of 40 and how she was placed quickly with her daughter Arielle
some of the biggest Myths about Adoption
the difference between the Closed Adoption of the past and the Open Adoption system now
why Traci-Ann wants to make sure her daughter doesn’t feel any shame about her adoption

A Beatiful Quote About Adoption

“Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.”-Oprah Winfrey

Some of the Biggest Myths About Adoption

Myth: The birth moms are irresponsible or ‘bad’ girls. Truth: Their actions that got them pregnant may not have been responsible, but their decision to find a famiily to raise their baby absolutely was incredibly repsonsible.

Myth: The birthmoms ‘give away’ their babies. Truth: The birth moms make an incredibly difficult and courageous decision to place their babies with another family.

Myth: Your (adoptive) kids are so ‘lucky’ to have you as parents. Truth: As adoptive parents, WE are the lucky ones. We did not adopt out of charity, and are so incredibly grateful to the birth moms who chose us.

Myth: The birth moms ‘give up’ their kids and don’t love them. Truth: It is because of the love they have for their kids, that they decide to place their kids with a mom or family when they are not yet ready to be a mom. They have not given up on their baby, but have made this difficult decision out of love.

What Traci-Ann Would Like Others to Know About Adoption

You can love your child as an adoptive mom as if it was your own, and bond with them from the moment you first meet.

There is no shame in adoption, and no need to hide it from your kids. Tell them the truth. It is their history. Adoption is a blessing.

Related Mom at 41 Episodes

Episode 2: First Time Mom: Tyson’s Story

Episode 3: Kai’s Story: The 36 Hour Roller Coaster Ride to Becoming a Mom Again

Episode 10: Adoption From A to Z

Episode 16: My Family is Weird

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How does Adoption work? Can the Birth Mom ‘take the baby back’? Is the birth mom or birth dad involved in Parenting the kids? And how do you navigate the relationship with the birth mom?

In this Episode Traci-Ann and I discuss:

why she decided to adopt as a Single Mom at the age of 40 and how she was placed quickly with her daughter Arielle
some of the biggest Myths about Adoption
the difference between the Closed Adoption of the past and the Open Adoption system now
why Traci-Ann wants to make sure her daughter doesn’t feel any shame about her adoption

A Beatiful Quote About Adoption

“Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.”-Oprah Winfrey

Some of the Biggest Myths About Adoption

Myth: The birthmoms ‘give away’ their babies. Truth: The birth moms make an incredibly difficult and courageous decision to place their babies with another family.

What Traci-Ann Would Like Others to Know About Adoption

You can love your child as an adoptive mom as if it was your own, and bond with them from the moment you first meet.

There is no shame in adoption, and no need to hide it from your kids. Tell them the truth. It is their history. Adoption is a blessing.

Related Mom at 41 Episodes

Episode 2: First Time Mom: Tyson’s Story

Episode 3: Kai’s Story: The 36 Hour Roller Coaster Ride to Becoming a Mom Again

Episode 10: Adoption From A to Z

Episode 16: My Family is Weird

How Can you Connect with Traci-Ann?

Twitter

Instagram

Traci-Ann’s Website

Email: [email protected]

Mom at 41 Facebook Page

Mom at 41 Newsletter

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73: Essential Oils Tips for Healing Your Sinuses

In this Episode I’m sharing:

2 simple and natural solutions to healing your sinuses with Essential Oils
an amazing story on how just one Essential Oil from doTERRA alleviated 2 years of chronic sinusitis

Resources

Breathe Essential Oil

Sinus ‘Tea’ Recipe:

2 drops each of: Peppermint, Melaleuca, Oregano and Lemon Essential Oil in a mug of hot water. Inhale the vapours as many times as feels good, and repeat a few time throughout the day until sinuses feel clear again.

Watch the video to show you how to make it and the science behind why it works here.

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Family Physican's Kit (5ml Bottles of Breathe, Peppermint, Melaleuca, Oregano, Lemon, Lavender, OnGuard, Frankincense, Digestzen, Deep Blue AND Slim and Sassy) + inlcudes Wellness Advocate Fee (Wholesale Membership).

Home Essentials Kits (full size 15ml Bottles of all oils in Family Physician's Kit except for Slim and Sassy, PLUS Petal Diffuser and includes Wellness Advocate Fee).

To order any of the doTERRA Essential Oils mentioned in this episode and others, go here.

Make sure to Register as a Wellness Advocate to get 25% off products for an entire year, AND a chance to accrue points for free Products! (you can view a short video I made to show you how to place your first order here).

To register for the Essential Oils 101 Classes:

Online Class on Wednesday January 21st at 3pm EST (1pm MT) click here. If you can’t make this time LIVE, still register and I’ll send you the recorded replay after the class!

In-Person Class on Wednesday January 28th at 6:30 PM, click here. The first 20 people will receive a FREE bottle of Wild Orange Essential Oil!

Or feel free to email me ([email protected]) if you’d like to:

1. Connect via Skype to for a FREE 30 Minute Wellness Consultation including Personalized Essential Oil Recommendations for you and Your Family.

2. Get together 6 or more of your friends, I’ll come to your home to teach a FREE Essential Oils class, that includes gifts for everyone! (this can also be hosted at my Chiropractic Office).

3. If Sharing Essential Oils with other Moms to help their families be healthy and well, and to create more Healers in Home in your Community, send me an email, and we can set up a Consultation to answer all your questions and get you started.

Related Mom at 41 Episodes

Episode 63: A Healer in Every Home

Episode 67: Daily Tips With Essential Oils

Episode 70: Basic Essential Oils: Tips For Lavender, Lemon and Peppermint

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75: Essential Oils Tips for Colds and Flus

In this Episode I’m sharing:

4 simple Essential Oils Tips for Colds and Flus
Easy Recipes and Protocols to help with a Cough, Sore Throat, Fever, and with Flu Symptoms

Resources Reduce a Fever

2-3 drops of Peppermint Essential Oil diluted in Fractionated Coconut Oil to bottoms of feet and along the spine. You may also rub a drop across the forehead.

Reduce a Cough and Congestion

2-3 drops of Breathe Essential Oil mixed with Fractionated Coconut Oil. Rub onto chest and bottoms of feet, diffuse during day or at night next to your bedside table.

Sore Throat

2-3 drops of OnGuard Essential Oil and Lemon Essential Oil with 1 teaspoon of raw honey in hot water and drink like a tea.

Flu Bomb

4 drops Lemon Essential Oil

2 drops Melaleuca Essential Oil

2 drops On Guard Essential Oil

2 drops Oregano Essential Oil

2 drops Frankincense Essential Oil

Drop in doTERRA Vege Capsule, every 4-6 hours until symptoms improve

For kids-half the dosage above, with frationated Coconut Oil and rub into bottoms of feet 3x/day.

Other Great Winter Cold and Flu Remedies!

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To get all the Essential Oils mentioned in today’s episode, try the Home Essentials Kit! You get full size 15ml Bottles of: Lavender, Lemon, Peppermint, OnGuard, DigestZen, Melaleuca, Oregano, Deep Blue, Breathe and Frankincense, PLUS a Petal Diffuser and your Wholesale Membership is included. Great deal!

To order any of the doTERRA Essential Oils mentioned in this episode and others, go here.

Make sure to Register as a Wellness Advocate (the Wholesale membership) to get 25% off products for an entire year, AND a chance to accrue points for free Products! (you can view a short video I made to show you how to place your first order here).

To register for the Essential Oils 101 Classes:

At each class I share:

*the Uses and Benefits of Essential OIls

*the 3 Ways the Body Best Absorbs Essential Oils

*the Science behind how Essential Oils Work

*how you can get doTERRA Essential Oils for your family and become a Healer in Your Home

Online Class from Wednesday January 21st: Click here to watch the Recorded Replay (only until Sat Jan 24th at midnight!)

In-Person Class on Wednesday January 28th at 6:30 PM, click here. The first 20 people will receive a FREE bottle of Wild Orange Essential Oil!

Or feel free to email me ([email protected]) if you’d like to:

1. Connect via Skype to for a 30 Minute Wellness Consultation including Personalized Essential Oil Recommendations for you and Your Family.

2. Get together 6 or more of your friends, I’ll come to your home to teach a FREE Essential Oils class, that includes gifts for everyone! (this can also be hosted at my Chiropractic Office in St. Albert, Alberta).

3. If Sharing Essential Oils with other Moms to help their families be healthy and well resonates with to help Supplement or Replace your Income, send me an email, and we can set up a...