74: An Intimate Conversation Dispelling the Myths About Adoption with Mom at 41 Listener Traci-Ann Delisser

How does Adoption work? Can the Birth Mom ‘take the baby back’? Is the birth mom or birth dad involved in Parenting the kids? And how do you navigate the relationship with the birth mom?

In this Episode Traci-Ann and I discuss:

• why she decided to adopt as a Single Mom at the age of 40 and how she was placed quickly with her daughter Arielle
• some of the biggest Myths about Adoption
• the difference between the Closed Adoption of the past and the Open Adoption system now
• why Traci-Ann wants to make sure her daughter doesn’t feel any shame about her adoption

A Beatiful Quote About Adoption

“Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.”-Oprah Winfrey

Some of the Biggest Myths About Adoption

Myth: The birth moms are irresponsible or ‘bad’ girls. Truth: Their actions that got them pregnant may not have been responsible, but their decision to find a famiily to raise their baby absolutely was incredibly repsonsible.

Myth: The birthmoms ‘give away’ their babies. Truth: The birth moms make an incredibly difficult and courageous decision to place their babies with another family.

Myth: Your (adoptive) kids are so ‘lucky’ to have you as parents. Truth: As adoptive parents, WE are the lucky ones. We did not adopt out of charity, and are so incredibly grateful to the birth moms who chose us.

Myth: The birth moms ‘give up’ their kids and don’t love them. Truth: It is because of the love they have for their kids, that they decide to place their kids with a mom or family when they are not yet ready to be a mom. They have not given up on their baby, but have made this difficult decision out of love.

What Traci-Ann Would Like Others to Know About Adoption

You can love your child as an adoptive mom as if it was your own, and bond with them from the moment you first meet.

There is no shame in adoption, and no need to hide it from your kids. Tell them the truth. It is their history. Adoption is a blessing.

Related Mom at 41 Episodes

Episode 2: First Time Mom: Tyson’s Story

Episode 3: Kai’s Story: The 36 Hour Roller Coaster Ride to Becoming a Mom Again

Episode 10: Adoption From A to Z

Episode 16: My Family is Weird

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