#13 - Navigating Chaos & Coming Back to Center

03/25/25 • 14 min

Midlife Butterfly: Self-Discovery, Women Empowerment & Life Transitions

Life isn’t just about love and light—it’s also about contrast, uncertainty, and the unexpected twists that shake us to our core. In this episode, we explore how to shift our perspective on contrast and use it as a tool for growth and expansion. Because life will always have duality—joy and sorrow, expansion and contraction—but what if instead of resisting it, we learned to navigate it with grace?

Here’s what we dive into:

Contrast as a Guide: How life’s ups and downs are not obstacles but invitations to return to your center.
Fear vs. Love: Recognizing how fear creeps in (through external noise and our own mind) and reclaiming our power by shifting our response.
A Personal Story of Loss & Synchronicity: How the unexpected passing of a dear friend reminded me of life’s impermanence and the signs that guide us back to love.
Sacred Ceremonies & Connection: The beauty of community, ritual, and finding support even when you feel alone.
Grounding Practices for Chaos: A simple breathwork technique to shift from contraction to expansion, from fear to presence.
Welcoming the Fullness of Life: How expansion and contraction exist in everything—even in your own body—and why embracing both is the key to peace.

Your Reflection Questions:

When contrast shows up in your life, how do you respond?
What practices help you shift from fear to love?
Can you recognize a recent synchronicity that reminded you that you are always held?

This episode is a reminder that even in the middle of chaos, you have the power to return home to yourself. 💛

✨ Let’s connect! I’d love to hear how you navigate contrast. DM me on Instagram or share your thoughts in the Midlife Butterfly community: http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly/

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You can find all the podcast details right here: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/podcast

Download the Midlife Butterfly Guide with 5 Radical Practices to Heal, Take Your Power Back & Rise
Follow Kena on Instagram: @kenasiu

Join the Midlife Butterfly Community: http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly

For Coaching, Courses & More Visit Kena's Website: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/workwithme

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: https://midlifebutterfly.ca/empoweredsession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Here’s what we dive into:

Contrast as a Guide: How life’s ups and downs are not obstacles but invitations to return to your center.
Fear vs. Love: Recognizing how fear creeps in (through external noise and our own mind) and reclaiming our power by shifting our response.
A Personal Story of Loss & Synchronicity: How the unexpected passing of a dear friend reminded me of life’s impermanence and the signs that guide us back to love.
Sacred Ceremonies & Connection: The beauty of community, ritual, and finding support even when you feel alone.
Grounding Practices for Chaos: A simple breathwork technique to shift from contraction to expansion, from fear to presence.
Welcoming the Fullness of Life: How expansion and contraction exist in everything—even in your own body—and why embracing both is the key to peace.

Your Reflection Questions:

When contrast shows up in your life, how do you respond?
What practices help you shift from fear to love?
Can you recognize a recent synchronicity that reminded you that you are always held?

This episode is a reminder that even in the middle of chaos, you have the power to return home to yourself. 💛

✨ Let’s connect! I’d love to hear how you navigate contrast. DM me on Instagram or share your thoughts in the Midlife Butterfly community: http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly/

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You can find all the podcast details right here: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/podcast

Download the Midlife Butterfly Guide with 5 Radical Practices to Heal, Take Your Power Back & Rise
Follow Kena on Instagram: @kenasiu

Join the Midlife Butterfly Community: http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly

For Coaching, Courses & More Visit Kena's Website: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/workwithme

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: https://midlifebutterfly.ca/empoweredsession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Previous Episode

#12 - Boundaries That Empower You – with Tina Jett

In this episode, Kena sit down with the incredible Tina Jett, a transformational life coach, clarity catalyst trainer, and Reiki master, to dive deep into boundaries that empower you.

We explore why midlife women struggle with setting boundaries, how people-pleasing is actually a form of self-betrayal, and why prioritizing yourself is the ultimate act of self-love. If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no or feared disappointing others, this episode is for you!

Key Points:

Why boundaries are essential for self-worth, joy, and inner peace
The deep-rooted fears behind boundary-setting: fear of rejection, guilt, and losing relationships
How people-pleasing is actually manipulation—and how to break free from it
The connection between boundaries and inner child wounds (abandonment, safety, and validation)
Practical ways to start setting boundaries today—including the simple "yes or no" method
The power of self-boundaries—because honoring your own needs is just as important as setting limits with others
How setting boundaries shifts your relationships—some people may leave, and that’s okay!
Why choosing yourself is NOT selfish, it’s self-honouring

Reflection Questions for You:

Where in your life are you saying "yes" to others but "no" to yourself?
What’s one small boundary you can set today to protect your energy and joy?
How would your life change if you fully trusted that saying "no" is an act of self-love?

It’s time to stand in your truth, reclaim your joy, and set boundaries that empower you! 🎙️✨

Visit Tina's website: www.life-wire.net

Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! And don’t forget to tag me on Instagram @kenasiu.

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You can find all the podcast details right here: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/podcast

Download the Midlife Butterfly Guide with 5 Radical Practices to Heal, Take Your Power Back & Rise
Follow Kena on Instagram: @kenasiu

Join the Midlife Butterfly Community: http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly

For Coaching, Courses & More Visit Kena's Website: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/workwithme

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: https://midlifebutterfly.ca/empoweredsession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Next Episode

#14 - Sisterhood in Midlife: The Power of Female Connection

Female friendship isn't just a luxury—it's essential for our growth, healing, and transformation at midlife. In this extraordinary gathering, Kena welcomes five remarkable women from her podcasting community for a powerful conversation about sisterhood and connection.
Through laughter, vulnerability, and profound insights, these women share their personal struggles with isolation, the competitive mindset many of us were conditioned to adopt, and the transformative power of finding your true tribe.
Key Points:

Female friendships often become harder to maintain in midlife due to family responsibilities, work demands, and shifting priorities
Many women experience a competitive mindset with other women that stems from patriarchal conditioning around scarcity
Research shows children benefit tremendously when they observe their mothers maintaining strong female friendships
Breaking the ice with potential new friends requires courage but can be as simple as offering a compliment or suggesting coffee
Female friendship "breakups" can be as painful as romantic ones but often signal necessary growth and evolution
The most powerful relationships come from showing up authentically rather than trying to be perfect
Midlife brings clarity about which relationships deserve a "seat at your table" and the confidence to release those that don't align
Younger generations of women model unapologetic self-celebration that many midlife women weren't encouraged to embrace

Reflection Questions:

Who are the women in your life that truly see and celebrate you? How can you nurture those connections?
What kind of sisterhood do you crave in this season of your life? What would it feel like to be fully supported?
What’s one step you can take today to call in your soul-aligned tribe—whether it’s joining a new community, reaching out to someone, or showing up more authentically?

Reach out and make the first move! Also join the Midlife Butterfly Community in Facebook.

Where can you find our guests?

Casey Taton

Instagram: @cataton
Facebook: @casey.taton
Podcast: Inner Spark

Dana Hunter Fradella

Instagram: @girls.who.recover
Podcast: Girls Who Recover

Jama Patel

Website: www.jamapantel.com
Instagram: @jamapan

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You can find all the podcast details right here: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/podcast

Download the Midlife Butterfly Guide with 5 Radical Practices to Heal, Take Your Power Back & Rise
Follow Kena on Instagram: @kenasiu

Join the Midlife Butterfly Community: http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly

For Coaching, Courses & More Visit Kena's Website: http://midlifebutterfly.ca/workwithme

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: https://midlifebutterfly.ca/empoweredsession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Midlife Butterfly: Self-Discovery, Women Empowerment & Life Transitions - #13 - Navigating Chaos & Coming Back to Center

Transcript

Kena Siu00:00:04.307

MidLife isn't a crisis . It's a calling , a wake-up call that shakes it up , strips away the old and invites you to something bigger . You feel it , don't you that deep knowing , that whisper that says there's more for me ?

Kena Siu00:00:20.704

I see you , beautiful . You spent years showing up for everyone else , being the good wife , the devoted mother , t