Parenting Teenagers, the Panini Generation & Know Your Kids with Peggy Derivan, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

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03/13/25 • 55 min

If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the one keeping your therapist up at night ... this one’s for you. Raising a teen - anticipating raising a teen - join us an intimate conversation with the bright and bubbly Peggy Derivan. She’s going to push your process and perspective on raising teens - thank goodness. After all “we’re pretty screwed up, and doing our best” (hey, she said it, and she’s the expert).

While societal norms have taught you that “dreading the teenage years” are the norm - we’re here to debunk that. Well, Peggy is. Ever questioned the old adage that you can’t be friends with your kids? Us too. Guess what - we go there. After all the key qualities of deep friendships and key qualities of relationships. So why wouldn’t we want to be friends with our kids?

From shaving your legs - to the pressure we all felt, to fit in. This conversation brings up some of our own childhood and teenage memories. Trigger time - the “am I a bad mom” convo. How to set boundaries, express yourself - and ensure you’re a mom your kids can look up to, and a mom they maybe even want to be. The role of children in our family has changed drastically in 100 years. We’re the “panini generation” - the single generation to experience both authoritarian style families (from days of old) to children with access and educations, whose feelings and sense of self have a deep rooted value in our familial systems.

And it’s no easy task to transition through all the ways we personally have seen children take a role in the household. Peggy gives us both lots of grace - sage advice - and some extra tools to help us navigate these uncharted waters. A friendly reminder momma, you’re not alone in the mayhem of raising kids ...

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We’re back on eggs and the “pan scramble”discussion ... do you pan scramble? And how meany - 2? 4? - what’s worse, snail mucin or egg juice? A ramen experience gone “grey” - kicks off today’s episode. Why did one of us think cutting open the grey egg would make it “more photogenic” ... we’re bringing the mayhem today folks. We never cease to amaze with the food triggers and dialogue ... and we accidentally brought a random dude along on the ride during our most recent lunch egg-scapade.

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Ever feel like you're making it up as you go along? You're not alone. In this refreshingly candid conversation, we catch up on life's little moments while embracing our perfectly imperfect selves.
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The episode takes a vulnerable turn as we acknowledge that despite being in our forties, we often still feel like those awkward teenagers with braces, especially when facing new parenting challenges without a roadmap. From getting stuck in chairs at the dentist's office to debating whether to embrace or conceal nipples in our wardrobe choices, we find humor and wisdom in life's awkward moments.
Our fashion discussion leads us to rediscover American Eagle, celebrating finding clothes that actually work for our real, adult bodies. Throughout, we return to a central theme: authenticity may lead to occasional awkwardness, but it's the foundation of genuine connection.
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