Marketing & Mayhem - Ovaries, Frontal Lobes & the Power of Your Notes App

Ovaries, Frontal Lobes & the Power of Your Notes App

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01/23/25 • 63 min

Marketing & Mayhem

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In the animal kingdom, when an animals main purpose has been fulfilled, that animal typically dies off.
A dark way to start an episode, but ultimately we got to thinking about why women live longer than men, even though one of their main purposes is to create offspring. Grandmothers play in maintaining family wisdom and legacy across generations - turns out there’s some science behind that and that’s where our conversation with Kirsten Hatcher from Raising Marriage starts. Don’t worry, this episode is full of laughs, we even tackle the whole one ovary per cycle conversation.
Today’s conversation started from a podcast a few weeks ago we talked about using our Notes app to fully form our feelings in our reactions. Navigating the stormy seas of relationships can be challenging, understanding, even preserving your own emotions while holding space for another person’s isn’t always easy. And so - we are back on the iceberg - the "anger iceberg". Drawing from Gottman's marriage counseling method, we share strategies to avoid emotional flooding and maintain rational communication. Through relatable personal anecdotes, learn how to pause and walk away, or channeling your emotions with a little chat gpt support can help refine your message and release resentment.
And of course, we’re having this conversation with a dear friend, so we trip, stumble, and fall into a few very personal conversations. But ultimately our guess is that each is very relatable. Tell you what - there’s nothing quite like personal therapy on a public forum. Repeat after us, “we listen and we don’t judge” ...
Things we discussed:
Book: Fast Like A Girl
Book: Men Are Like Waffles - Women Are Like Spaghetti
The Anger Iceberg
Publix Philly Cheesesteak Dip
Attachment Styles

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Pinky Promises, Hibachi & 2025 Words

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A pinky promise has one of us is chasing snow, while the other refuses to chase anything.
You might say she is “bananas” - and thanks to a recent hinge match, you’d be correct. We’re talking about last-minute road trips, spicy romance books, girls, weekends, spring sporting events (baseball vs hockey), and apparently we haven’t hit the cap on how much TMI is too much TMI. Don’t even judge us, there is not a chance that we believe you’ve never been in our shoes. And of course, what inspired this conversation? A hot guy on Instagram admitting the same thing. You can always count on us to level the playing field.
Thank goodness we have a therapist coming next week because this week we’re taking self-help into our own hands. Well - that’s a stretch because we’re actually letting Mel Robbins and her “let them” theory (and book) guide us. One of us has the highlighters out and one of us is using her car time to catch up. If you haven’t heard of the “let them” but you align to a lot of our fears and worries regarding conversations about drawing boundaries, control, and happiness, this might be a journey you want to join us on.
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Tubbing, Drunk Dialing & People Pleasing with Christina Smalley, Licensed Family Therapist

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You’ve heard of the “everything shower” - but have you heard of the “good girl shower”? Bet not. Quick trip to Costco is in store for after this recording because it sounds like we all need the new bamboo shower chair.
We’ve got our notes app back open - and we’re talking about dating. Yes, dating. Where do we land? Somewhere between “cry baby breakfast” and raising our standards. And we brought company. Our “family therapist” is back - Christina Smalley. And we’re returning to the resolution conversation one more time because we noticed a theme. Both of our resident therapists are not setting resolutions this year, and it got us thinking. Want to know why? Tune in.
“Say what you mean - mean what you say - but don’t say it mean”. We circle back to the people pleaser conversation - and the real reason we find it hard to trust people’s words, actions or intentions. Hint - it’s because of the way we often validate others, that creates this insecurity. Is this a female exclusive issue - or just the human condition?
We’re moms - and she’s a mom. So the conversation ultimately takes a turn to the guilt of motherhood and the pursuit of perfect. We’re giving you grace to have a bad day - and the beauty of being imperfect. And we tackle the differences of living in a house where yes, the moms sometimes lose their cool - but ultimately crate an environment of apologies and love and a place where bad days and mistakes exist. After all - we’re deeply committed to not passing along some of these traits we’re tackling for our own growth. An honest, deep and funny dialogue.