376 - Monday MamAffirmation: I am... so my kids will be!

11/14/22 • 5 min

Is there something that your kid does that bothers the sh*t out of you?
Do they constantly complain, whine, yell, make a mess?
This may sting....but it's most likely on YOU!
I know you are doing your best and being a mom is no easy task and you already have so much do and now you not only have to teach your kids but you have to look at your actions and change too!?! Damn, that's a lot!
But here's the good news. You are in control of YOU and therefore you have the ability to change not only yourself, but your kids too! You have the power to create your "I AM!"
Now you may not be the only parent here. I get that. But here's the thing...there's a few studies that show that your disposition and example of gratitude weigh much heavier than that of the Dad.
More responsibility and onus put on the Mom!?!?
Especially when it comes to gratitude (this month's theme) it was show that the mom's disposition to gratitude greatly impacted the biological child's. The dad's actually had no bearing at all!
I'm not trying to put more on you, I'm letting you know the facts. But this is actually great news too, because since you have control you can change it!

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375 - 4 steps to grow gratitude in your kids

Are you tired of hearing your kids complain that they want more? Fee like they aren't grateful for what they have?
Here are 4 simple steps to grow gratitude in your kids!
Andrea Hussong did a study with focus groups of parents to determine how parents think of their childrens' gratitude and how to cultivate gratitude in their kids. She then postulated that gratitude experience has 4 parts:
1. notice what we can be grateful for.
2. Think about WHY we have been given those things or experiences
3. What do you feel about what you have been given (where do you feel it)
4. Do something to express appreciation for these actions
Practice these 4 steps with your kids:
For example:
1. What are you grateful for? Food on the table.
2. Why have we been given the food? People made/farmed the food and parents worked hard to have money to buy the food.
3. What do you feel? I feel so happy to eat and I feel connected to my family because I get to spend time with them over this meal.
4. Do something to express appreciation - We can donate food to a local food bank.

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377 - There's more to gratitude than a good deed

Helping people out, acts of kindness and good deed are awesome; but there's more to it than that!
What affects whether a person feel gratitude or not? If the they feel more gratitude or less gratitude.
There are 2 factors that affect how you feel gratitude when others perform good deeds:
1. Perceived intention of the benefactor (the one doing the good deed)
2. The perceived value, or the cost to the benefactor
So if you are out there doing a "good deed" that is really to benefit you - people know that, including your kids!
For a person to feel the most gratitude for a good deed they need to know the intention of the person was pure , they really are trying to help and not simply for selfish reasons. And there is a value to the good deed or cost to the benefactor; whether that be time, money or energy.
The next time you do a good deed - evaluate how the person receiving it will look at the intention and the value.

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