Ep #96: What are your non-negotiables? (your brain on cruise control)

03/29/24 • 15 min

What are your non-negotiables, the things that you make time for, no matter what? Maybe it's a shower, maybe it's running, maybe it's a nightly drink on the patio. Non-negotiables are a superfuel and identifying ours gives us enormous power to shape our lives. Being intentional about our non-negotiables lets us create a life that reflects our values, priorities, and commitments. Take a listen and let me know what resonates -- email me at [email protected] or tell me about your own non-negotiables in my Spotify Q&A.

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Ep #95: Feeling safe enough to say yes (and get unstuck)

You know how you can go to therapy, read all the books, and still struggle to change? Or how you can know you really feel better when your house is picked up, but still not manage to clean off your desk?

This episode provides one missing piece to the puzzle -- safety. We often don't change because we don't yet feel safe enough to change. In this episode, I offer ways to build safety with ourselves so we can do the things we really want to do without bullying ourselves. It's a powerful companion to episode #94, on consent. Because we need to feel safe in order to say yes, even to things we want to do.

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Ep #97: What is enough?

What does enough feel like? What would it feel like to know that you have enough, do enough, are enough? Most of us aren't very familiar with that feeling but we're very familiar with the feeling of not enough. Not enough leads us to overwork, overeat, overdrink, and generally just feel bad about ourselves.

In this episode I rethink enough, focusing on it as a decision we can make, and a feeling we can choose. I also talk about the paradoxical relationship between enough and desire. We assume that our desire comes from not enough, from wanting to fill a need. When we aren't seeking a feeling of enough, though, we can just decide what we want because we want it.

This episode is a good follow up to ep #94 about consent and #95 about safety -- because enough is a feeling of safety, while not enough makes us feel unsafe in our world.

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