Making Midlife Magic

What are you willing to experience in order to have the life of your dreams? In this episode, we look at the importance of being willing to feel all the feelings -- especially the uncomfortable ones. Along the way, we ride an imaginary roller coaster, take a plane trip, and consider whether we prefer loud Musak or smelly sardines.

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Your ride or die is a friend who always stands with you. Someone who celebrates you in the good times and comforts you when things turn bad. A friend who always has your back, whether you’ve been betrayed by another person or by life itself.

But often, we're not this way with ourselves. When things go wrong, we judge ourselves rather than supporting ourselves.

In this episode, I'll share two core beliefs of ride or die friends and how we can use them to be our own ride or dies.

The ability to be your own ride or die is life-changing. You'll want to listen to this one more than once, and to come back for next week's practical magic, when I'll share useful ways to have your own back.

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Failure feels like %$#%, so it's no surprise that we try to avoid it. But if we want to experience new things -- especially extraordinary things -- we need to embrace failure. If we're willing to fail -- to feel the feeling and to keep going -- we become unstoppable.

In this episode, learn how to fail better (no hiding under the covers required).

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In last week's episode we traveled to the future and in today's episode, we travel to the past. Too often we travel to the past to bring back self-doubt and regret, and throw our previous self under the bus. In today's episode, I offer a different way to think about decisions you've made in the past and share how to have compassion for your previous self.

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Do you ever feel invisible?

So many of us do, especially as we age. We can't get the bartender's attention, salespeople look through us. Our family thinks the toilet paper is magically replaced by elves in the middle of the night. Invisible.

And then we stop seeing ourselves. We no longer feel vibrant and complex. When I'm in this place, it usually means that I'm doing everything for my family and feeling unseen and unappreciated. I say, "I'm the mule," or "I'm Dobby [from Harry Potter], waiting for someone to hand me a sock." I think of myself like an animal or a mythical creature -- less human.

The antidote to this isn't to change the bartender, salesperson, or your family (although you can try). The antidote to feeling invisible as we get older is to embrace our own humanness. By increasing our tolerance for the hard parts of being human (eg, embarrassment, mistakes, mixed emotions), we let ourselves be visible. It's like a membership fee for the human club.

In this episode:

⭐ Why we need a visceral, felt sense of the richness of adult humanhood

⭐ How being invisible makes us less human

⭐ Why robots and AI aren't better at life than we are

⭐ How embracing mistakes as a membership fee for the human club increases our tolerance for them

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