Episode 645: High-Functioning Codependency and Boundaries with Terri Cole
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12/11/24 • 54 min
Terri Cole is back for her 7th appearance—yes, 7th—to dive into high-functioning codependency and boundaries. Her latest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, is a game-changer and I am thrilled to welcome Terri back to the show!
Together we unpack the myth of what codependency is—especially for high-achieving women—and give us a clear picture of high-functioning codependency (HFC). We’re talking about things like auto advice-giving and running everyone else’s life at the expense of your sanity.
Terri and I also break down tools such as resentment inventory and the art of detachment (she explains what these are - don’t worry!). And we also talk about boundaries, of course! Specifically how healthy boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about letting yourself breathe.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- What is high-functioning codependency and how does it show up? (6:11)
- Where it all begins: understanding root causes and the need for control (17:38)
- Mastering the art of detachment without losing the connection (23:58)
- The secret to setting boundaries that actually work (27:49)
- Resentment inventory: your tool for spotting burnout and over-giving (33:30)
Resources:
🎉52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls!
Terri’s website
Terri’s book
Terri’s HFC Toolkit
Episode 385: How to Be a Boundary Boss with Terri Cole
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!
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Terri Cole is back for her 7th appearance—yes, 7th—to dive into high-functioning codependency and boundaries. Her latest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, is a game-changer and I am thrilled to welcome Terri back to the show!
Together we unpack the myth of what codependency is—especially for high-achieving women—and give us a clear picture of high-functioning codependency (HFC). We’re talking about things like auto advice-giving and running everyone else’s life at the expense of your sanity.
Terri and I also break down tools such as resentment inventory and the art of detachment (she explains what these are - don’t worry!). And we also talk about boundaries, of course! Specifically how healthy boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about letting yourself breathe.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- What is high-functioning codependency and how does it show up? (6:11)
- Where it all begins: understanding root causes and the need for control (17:38)
- Mastering the art of detachment without losing the connection (23:58)
- The secret to setting boundaries that actually work (27:49)
- Resentment inventory: your tool for spotting burnout and over-giving (33:30)
Resources:
🎉52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls!
Terri’s website
Terri’s book
Terri’s HFC Toolkit
Episode 385: How to Be a Boundary Boss with Terri Cole
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!
MSN is supported by:
We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/
Episode link:
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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Resources:
🎉52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls!
Heidi on Instagram @welcometoheidi
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Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!
MSN is supported by:
We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/
Episode link:
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