Tamica Wilder on Radical Self-Love & Embracing Her Erotic Self as a Mother
07/18/23 • 40 min
Hi Mamas. This week, my guest is Tamica Wilder, Australia’s leading Sexologist for Mums, author, and Founder of The Orgasmic Mama. Through her work and the many resources, courses, and retreats she offers through The Orgasmic Mama, Tamica teaches women the tools and frameworks to create sex-positive households for them and their families, and facilitates women to re-attune to the wisdom of their bodies and to shamelessly seek better sex and pleasure.
A while back, Tamica chatted to the mothers in my Rebirth program, and her session was incredibly valuable to the women involved, so I’m excited to have her here again to share her experiences and wisdom with you all.
In this conversation, Tamica talks about her personal transition into motherhood and the importance of normalising and making space for the changes we experience in our identities when we become mothers. We talk about how Tamica works with women and mothers, and discuss the power of embracing the new version of yourself, reacquainting yourself with who you are now sexually, challenging patriarchal ideals of what a mother ‘should’ be as it pertains to sexuality, and how these shifts can ultimately lead to more pleasure, radical self-love and acceptance.
Tamica is doing such important work and I’m excited to share this conversation with you.
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas ***This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Free Values Aligned Living Workbook
Find out more about Tamica in these places:
Purchase Tamica’s book, ‘Wild Honey’
Join Tamica's Sex Positive Parenting Training (starts Wed 2nd August). Tamica is gifting this training as a pay as you can offering.
Looking for support for anger while you mother? To access my Why Am I So Angry Workshop click HERE
Hi Mamas. This week, my guest is Tamica Wilder, Australia’s leading Sexologist for Mums, author, and Founder of The Orgasmic Mama. Through her work and the many resources, courses, and retreats she offers through The Orgasmic Mama, Tamica teaches women the tools and frameworks to create sex-positive households for them and their families, and facilitates women to re-attune to the wisdom of their bodies and to shamelessly seek better sex and pleasure.
A while back, Tamica chatted to the mothers in my Rebirth program, and her session was incredibly valuable to the women involved, so I’m excited to have her here again to share her experiences and wisdom with you all.
In this conversation, Tamica talks about her personal transition into motherhood and the importance of normalising and making space for the changes we experience in our identities when we become mothers. We talk about how Tamica works with women and mothers, and discuss the power of embracing the new version of yourself, reacquainting yourself with who you are now sexually, challenging patriarchal ideals of what a mother ‘should’ be as it pertains to sexuality, and how these shifts can ultimately lead to more pleasure, radical self-love and acceptance.
Tamica is doing such important work and I’m excited to share this conversation with you.
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas ***This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Free Values Aligned Living Workbook
Find out more about Tamica in these places:
Purchase Tamica’s book, ‘Wild Honey’
Join Tamica's Sex Positive Parenting Training (starts Wed 2nd August). Tamica is gifting this training as a pay as you can offering.
Looking for support for anger while you mother? To access my Why Am I So Angry Workshop click HERE
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Seeds For Your Garden – Asking for Help
In this week’s episode of Seeds For Your Garden, I discuss why, as mothers, we often find it so hard to ask for help, and what we can do about it.
In my recent conversation with Laura Danger (you can listen to the episode here), we talked about the experience of pandemic parenting, and it got me thinking about how we access support, and why we sometime struggle to. Much as the pandemic amplified these issues, and meant that we were out of practice in asking for help, this is an issue which predates the pandemic and runs a lot deeper, and it’s something I see come up time and time again with my clients.
In this episode, I unpack the reasons why we don’t ask for help, including social and family expectations, guilt, fear of judgement or of being a burden, and patriarchal motherhood ideology. I also discuss what we can do to take steps in this area, in the hope that it might help to move you closer to asking for support where it exists when you need it. I also touch on my own experience of becoming a mother and my journey of peeling back the layers of independence, and accepting that my need for community, connection and support isn’t a weakness.
The books I reference in this episode are:
The Gift of Imperfection – Brene Brown
- How To Do The Work – Dr. Nicole LePera
- Adults of Emotionally Immature Parents – Lindsay Gibson
- No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz
Value Clarification Workbook - https://subscribepage.io/valuealignedliving
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas ***This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Next Episode
Seeds For Your Garden - Mothering Without A Blueprint
In this solo episode, I delve into the challenging journey of mothering without a clear blueprint. Many women find themselves in this position, either due to the absence of a maternal role model or their desire to parent differently than their own upbringing. We discuss the importance of inner work before and during motherhood, the struggles of healing while parenting, and finding hope and support in this unique path of mothering.
Some of the key points in this episode include:
· Doing inner work before becoming a parent & how motherhood can bring new insights and challenges to the healing process.
· The Reality of Mothering Without a Clear Blueprint
· The burden and challenge of reparenting oneself while parenting a child & the hope amidst the challenge.
· The Importance of Taking Breaks from Healing Work
· Where to seek support
Suggested Reading:
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas ***This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
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