151-How Much Is the Desire to Control Your Food & Weight Really Costing You?

08/26/18 • 44 min

How much is the desire to control your food costing you

I’ve decided to write and speak about this topic of “Cost” after a lot of reflection. I was hesitant because I know the values and beliefs that many of us have around money and how sensitive it is for many women.

After months of thinking, I’ve decided to speak publicly. Cost and money are the #1 reason why women do not take their knowledge to the next level, thus, creating changes and transformation in their lives. Nothing will ever change if we continue doing the same thing that resulted in our current situation. That applies to anything...

The truth is we live in a world that requires an energy exchange of some type when it comes to almost anything including learning. That form of energy is money... the problem with money and eating behaviors is this:

We’ve spent a lot in the past to lose weight, to change eating behaviors, to stop binging, etc... and it didn’t work. You see your weight, body and it’s clearly a fail.

It’s now later in your life... 30-40... with what you believe to be dozens of failure under your belt and you are afraid of spending more. Low self-esteem, low self-confidence drive your belief that you’ll waste your money once more and you can’t justify this to your family, husband... or bank account.

Think about this for a minute: If your car had a problem starting in the morning on your way to work and it made you late. You went to your car mechanic, he quickly fixes the starter, you pay him and you’re on your way with your car operating well. A week later again the car doesn’t want to start... you go back to your mechanic, quick fixes on the starter and the car starts again. All seems good... for 2 weeks. Again, Monday morning 2 weeks post-last repair the car still doesn’t want to start... What would you do?

1- say to yourself... the car problem... it’s not worth me paying again for it. I’ve spent enough money trying to fix the problem already... I’ll just give up and walk to work instead. There’s no point!

2- say to yourself... maybe my mechanic isn’t good... maybe he isn’t really fixing the problem. Maybe the quick fix isn’t the answer... I’ll try a different mechanic and ask to take a different approach? I need to have consistency and be able to start my car daily.

Say you picked #2, you go to a new mechanic, who, instead of using old ways of car fixing, use a diagnostic tool. He finds out that the issue isn’t with the starter... instead it’s your engine. Would you give a shoot to fix the engine or say... well it’s too scary, I'll just stay with a car that doesn’t start 1 out of 2 days?

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In this episode I discuss

How much is the desire to control your food costing you
The real reason why many women have the desire to control food
How the desire to control your food impacts your relationship with your partner
Do your beliefs around controlling food and weight directly affect your children? Listen to some case studies.

Last episode, I talked about something that many women wished they've been blessed more with: self-confidence so that they can achieve their goals. Many think that if they had received the gift they too would be where others are.

The good news is that self-confidence is a learned skill. Meaning, you can learn how to improve self-confidence. With the 4 steps that I shared in the episode, you’ll be able to practice and foster an environment that will lead you to improve and boost self-confidence.

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How much is the desire to control your food costing you

We’ve spent a lot in the past to lose weight, to change eating behaviors, to stop binging, etc... and it didn’t work. You see your weight, body and it’s clearly a fail.

Visit https://www.stephaniedodier.com/podcast-episodes/ for complete show notes of every podcast episode

In this episode I discuss

How much is the desire to control your food costing you
The real reason why many women have the desire to control food
How the desire to control your food impacts your relationship with your partner
Do your beliefs around controlling food and weight directly affect your children? Listen to some case studies.

Take a listen to this episode and learn the 4 steps to boost your self-confidence. Click here.

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Links mentioned in the episode:

Get started with the Audio Training: How to ...

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150-Boost Your Self-Confidence in 4 Steps

Many women wished they had been blessed with more self-confidence so that they can achieve their goal. Thinking that if they had received the gift they would, too be where others are.

Here’s the good news, ladies... self-confidence is a learned skill. Meaning, you can learn how to improve self-confidence. With the 4 steps that we will review today, you’ll be able to practice and foster an environment that will lead you to improve and boost self-confidence.

One thing to understand first is that self-confidence and self-esteem aren’t the same. Self-Esteem is an evaluation of one’s own worth, whereas self-confidence is more specifically trust in one’s ability to achieve some goals.

What we will focus on today is self-confidence, however, know that in the areas of self-care and eating behavior, self-confidence is intertwined with self-worth especially when it comes to body image.

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In this episode I discuss

The difference between self-confidence and self-esteem and why they don't always go hand-in-hand
The transformative concept we teach in the Going Beyond the Food Academy to boost self-confidence
How to improve self-confidence in 4 steps
1. Speak well to yourself.
2. Visualize yourself as a confident person.
3. Give yourself permission to not be perfect.
4. Practice being kind to yourself: self-compassion

Last episode, I answered a listener question on the topic of 'people-pleasing'. Are you are a people-pleaser? If you want to learn more about this behavior - the definition, different behaviors associated with people-pleasing, its origin and why it's critical to healing it and the side-effects of this behavior, this episode is for you. Ultimately, I talked about the solutions on how to stop being a people-pleaser.

If this is you, and you want to stop focusing on others and making you a priority without feeling guilty. You gotta listen to this episode. Click here.

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In this special bonus edition of The Beyond the Food Show podcast, I’m sharing a powerful case study that will show you how transforming your relationship to food is not only possible without willpower but also transforming your entire life: kids, partner, work and all!

To kick off this new segment of the podcast, I’m showcasing the story of one of the members of our Academy community, Jessica Tomasko. Jessica is in her 40’s, a mother of 2, wife and a professional who, in her words, says she has spent her whole life binging and dieting. She was desperate, miserable and scared that if nothing changes, she would spend the rest of her life suffering.

Jessica is a source of inspiration for all women. Jessica agreed to do this to impact other women... like you.

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In this episode I discuss

Why is it worth your time and money to do the Going Beyond the Food Academy
How the Going Beyond the Food Academy can help you not only as an individual but also as a mother
The reasons why the Going Beyond the Food Academy is different from other weight loss programs
Why we need to stop fearing our emotions
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Last episode, I talked about how much is your desire to control your food and weight is really costing you. I was hesitant at first because I know the values and beliefs that many of us have around money and how sensitive it is for many women. However, after months of thinking, I’ve decided to speak publicly.

Cost and money are the #1 reason why women do not take their knowledge to the next level, thus, creating changes and transformation in their lives. Nothing will ever change if we continue doing the same thing that resulted in our current situation. That applies to anything...

If you are one of the women who's hindered by money to be able to create changes and transformation in your life, this episode is for you. Listen up! Click here.

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