Why Is Friendship In Your 30s So Hard? (feat. Holly Bourne)

03/18/25 • 48 min

Does friendship get harder when you're older? And if it does, why? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by acclaimed British author Holly Bourne to talk all about adult friendships.

Holly is the author of the bestselling novel "Am I Normal Yet?" which was praised for its realistic portrayal of OCD, as well as "How Do You Like Me Now?". She was shortlisted for the 2018 YA Book Prize from The Bookseller. Her latest novel "So Thrilled For You" is out now at all good bookstores.

In this episode, Michelle and Holly talk about female friendships, how they evolve with age, and how friendships can struggle under the stress of life-changing events such as marriages, breakups, and motherhood.

Holly shares insights into writing about heavy subjects such as abuse and emotional complexity in an accessible way, and they both share anecdotes about the pressure they have felt on friendships as they have grown older.

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What You Need To Know About Female Health (feat. Dr Nighat Arif)

We are diving into women's health on this week's episode of In All Honesty, as Michelle is joined by expert Dr Nighat Arif, a GP specialising in women's health and family planning with over 15 years of experience (you might have also seen her on TV on shows such as This Morning!).

We're covering everything from the importance of advocating for yourself in the healthcare system (especially as a marginalised individual), the stigmas surrounding women's health and the systemic biases that exist.

Dr. Nagat also shares her insights on menstrual pain, UTI and thrush prevention, the importance of vaginal health, and the effects of societal norms on wellness.

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How To Feel Your Feelings

This week's episode of In All Honesty is all about the practical steps to help you truly feel your emotions... rather than just thinking about them!

Michelle Elman is taking us on a guided tour of how we feel emotion within our bodies. Starting off by delineating the difference between feelings in the body and thoughts in the brain, go on a coached journey with Michelle as she explores breathing exercises and visualisation techniques to help you address pain points.

Along the way, Michelle tackles overthinking, how to engage with your feelings without over-analysing them and how to release emotions physically.

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