It’s Not an Oil Change: Using Divorce Road Map 2.0 with Karen Covy

05/03/22 • 38 min

How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Today we’re talking with Karen Covy, author of When Happily Ever After Ends: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially, and Legally. Karen has been working as a divorce professional for over 25 years as a mediator, attorney, arbitrator, decision coach and more. She’s come up with an online program called Divorce Road Map 2.0 that helps people navigate the challenges that come with divorce. Her mission as a divorce coach is to educate and empower people to get through their divorce with less damage, conflict and expense.

Karen joins Pete and Seth on the Toaster today to talk about how to learn how to better and more intelligently use your divorce attorney. It’s difficult to turn off that emotional decision-making tool in your brain so make sure you’re using your attorney to help you. Divorce is not an oil change, after all. There are lots of moving parts.

So tune in to hear this week’s conversation about learning to make decisions during your divorce.

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So tune in to hear this week’s conversation about learning to make decisions during your divorce.

Links & Notes

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It’s Not an Oil Change: Using Divorce Road Map 2.0 with Karen Covy

So tune in to hear this week’s conversation about learning to make decisions during your divorce.

Links & Notes

Karen’s Website and The Divorce Road Map 2.0
Karen’s Book ‘When Happily Ever After Ends: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially, and Legally
Karen on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Karen Covy
(02:19) - What Is Divorce Road Map 2.0?
(06:57) - Understanding What Your Lawyer 'Can' Do
(08:08) - Know Who You Are & Let Them Know
(10:38) - Know What You Want
(13:25) - When You Can't Decide
(14:46) - Helping People Sort It Out
(22:51) - Least Resistance Options
(24:05) - Keep It Simple
(26:40) - Sponsor: Soberlink
(28:13) - Emotionally vs. Intellectually Disorganized
(31:15) - Becoming a Better Divorce Client
(34:30) - Remember: Your Lawyer Is Not Your Friend
(35:23) - Interaction Expectations
(36:27) - Finding Karen

Next Episode

Surviving Your Last Marriage’s Half-Life with Brittany Bliss & Reid Givens from Brittany and the Blisstones

Brittany Bliss and Reid Givens each had been married for 19 years to other people before divorcing them. While figuring their new lives out, they met each other and fell in love. Now, almost five years later, they not only are about to get married but also have started a band together. In today’s episode, Brittany and Reid talk with Seth and Pete about lessons learned along the way and how they’re making it work.

They talk about their previous marriages, why they didn’t work, and the divorces. How did that shift what they knew they’d have to do in future relationships? Brittany and Reid share their meet-cute, which is truly adorable. But how challenging is it to not bring you previous marriage’s issues into your new relationship? There’s a lot to learn, and we hear them talk about the the half-life of their previous marriages and how to navigate those elements in their new life together. As Reid says, “Any part of it can bleed into all the rest of it.” How true, how true.

There’s also talk about the magic of pre-defined phrases to use when working through issues. We’ve all heard of safe words. Yeah, that’s essentially what we’re talking about. But, you know, for talking about gripes, issues, irritants and more.

It’s a great conversation about the ups and downs of marriage, divorce, and reconnecting. We haven’t had a couple on before, and we couldn’t have asked for a better pair to be the first. Join us!

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