#4 How to Find Joy Through Honest Conversations with Dr. Amber L. Wright

07/10/23 • 35 min

Our guest today is Dr. Amber L. Wright, a communication expert and founder of Words Well Said, a personal development company that helps organizations do a better job at making their people feel seen, heard, and valued. As an executive coach and speaker, she guides leaders toward expressing their highest selves with confidence and grace. Her popular TEDx Talk entitled, “Ask Better Questions to Build Better Connections,” has inspired people all over the world to become stronger communicators in their everyday lives. She has been mentioned in Fast Company, Essence, and Mashable, and (now officially) has a doctorate of education in Organizational Change and Leadership at the University of Southern California.
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RESOURCES FROM DR. AMBER:

Can We Talk Cards

“Can We Talk? 10 Life Lessons on Finding Your Voice and Finding Yourself” Book---------

CONNECT WITH DR. AMBER:

Twitter @talktoamber

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WHAT JUNE & DR. AMBER DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

Introducing Dr. Amber L. Wright
What is your definition of joy?
What is bringing you joy these days?
If you are not good at communicating, where do we even begin?
Why is it important to ask better questions?
Is specificity key in asking better questions?
How do we elongate conversations, especially if we accidentally ask a YES / NO question?
Examples of follow up questions
Why follow up questions are a form of care and selflessness
Deepening intimacy through conversations
How to be open to receiving questions when you think they are innately intrusive, rude, or nosy
What are the most common grievances about learning to communicate
Why public speaking or speaking in general is terrifying
Do I really want these people to see me?
Why is it important to speak up and be heard?
Releasing the ego to speak from the heart
How to communicate in professional settings
How to be honest in complicated situations with honesty
Confrontation without antagonism
What is a good way to start a challenging conversation?
Active listening
Amber’s top 3 pieces of advice on how to find joy through honest conversations
June and Amber play with Amber’s “Can We Talk” cards

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RESOURCES FROM DR. AMBER:

Can We Talk Cards

“Can We Talk? 10 Life Lessons on Finding Your Voice and Finding Yourself” Book---------

CONNECT WITH DR. AMBER:

Twitter @talktoamber

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WHAT JUNE & DR. AMBER DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

Introducing Dr. Amber L. Wright
What is your definition of joy?
What is bringing you joy these days?
If you are not good at communicating, where do we even begin?
Why is it important to ask better questions?
Is specificity key in asking better questions?
How do we elongate conversations, especially if we accidentally ask a YES / NO question?
Examples of follow up questions
Why follow up questions are a form of care and selflessness
Deepening intimacy through conversations
How to be open to receiving questions when you think they are innately intrusive, rude, or nosy
What are the most common grievances about learning to communicate
Why public speaking or speaking in general is terrifying
Do I really want these people to see me?
Why is it important to speak up and be heard?
Releasing the ego to speak from the heart
How to communicate in professional settings
How to be honest in complicated situations with honesty
Confrontation without antagonism
What is a good way to start a challenging conversation?
Active listening
Amber’s top 3 pieces of advice on how to find joy through honest conversations
June and Amber play with Amber’s “Can We Talk” cards

Previous Episode

#3 How to Find Joy When You're Single with Shani Silver

If you are currently single and feeling exhausted by the dating apps, the games, the people who keep asking you your status and giving unsolicited advice... If you’re feeling pressure from family, society, or even your own inner critic to finally settle down, or you’re frustrated and starting to feeling hopeless because you feel like your life can’t start or won’t start until you find “the one”, well this episode of How to Find Joy is dedicated to you!

My guest is going to blow your mind and flip your beliefs on its head because she is going to make you question everything you may have been taught to believe about being on your own AND empower you to show up with more joy, especially when you are in your singlehood!
And for those of you who are in relationships, I’m also talking to you too because...

1) if you’re in a relationship or marriage that is toxic, but you stay because you are terrified about what it means to be single, I hope this conversation also comforts and supports you.

2) Even if you’re happy in your relationship, this episode will teach you how to better support and respect your single loved ones, which IMO is very important!
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Our guest today: Shani Silver
Shani Silver is an author of A Single Revolution and podcaster for A Single Serving from Fort Worth, Texas. Her name is pronounced like "rainy" with a "sh." In April of 2019, she launched A Single Serving Podcast to change the narrative around being single and to help single women shed both societal shame and a digital dating dependency. Shani wants single women to know that it's possible to feel free and optimistic about singlehood. To love single life and desire a relationship at the same time. After fifteen years single and four years dating app free, she's living proof.
Connect with Shani Silver
Website
Patreon
Instagram
TikTok
Twitter: @shanisilver
Here is what Shani and I discussed on this episode:

Shani’s definition of joy
How Shani finds joy
Questioning societal expectations on singlehood
Different treatment for single people / Questioning why married people get more respect than singles
What is blocking your joy while you're single
What are the most common grievances for being single
Shani’s core mission to offer up a new narrative about singlehood, particularly for single women
3 pieces of advice on how to find joy when you’re single
Helpful tool for singles, Shani’s book: “A Single Revolution: Don’t Look for a Match, Light One”
Why her podcast is also a supportive tool for singles “A Single Serving Podcast” on Patreon

Next Episode

#5 The Top 5 Blocks to Joy aka JOY KILLERS (Just June Episode)

This episode is a Just June, where our host, June, discusses her opinion of 5 different Joy Killers that may exist within you. Listen to find out which Joy Killer you are...

HERE IS WHAT JUNE DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: