Healing In Christ's Light

Host, Jeni Brockbank, shares why she chooses to heal in Christ's light. She shares her experience being married to a man who struggles with sex addiction and severe mental illnesses.

When Jeni entered recovery, she became curious about how the gospel of Jesus Christ fit with the things that she was learning. She began to wonder how therapy and doctrine fit together and began exploring answers.

She shares that she is in the middle of some difficult things and because of that, she brings curiosity to what she is learning.

"This much I know: I can use all of the tools. I can do all of the therapy, and I can gain all of the awareness. But without Christ, it's incomplete."

Therapist Geoff Steurer discusses the 4 A's, which are:

• Abuse
• Addiction
• Adultery and/or
• Abandonment

Geoff explains what someone who experiences the 4 A's from a loved one might go through and validates their experience. He also talks about what the person who has experienced such behaviors can do, such as implement boundaries.

From Crisis To Connection Podcast with Geoff and Jody Steurer

Geoff Steurer's Weekly Columns/ Blog

Love You Hate

Cedar Fort Publishing

Psalm 74:21

President Spencer W. Kimball Quote:

“To every forgiveness there is a condition. The plaster must be as wide as the sore. The fasting, the prayers, the humility must be equal to or greater than the sin. There must be a broken heart and a contrite spirit. There must be 'sackcloth and ashes.' There must be tears and genuine change of heart.”

Jeffrey R. Holland Quote:

Katy Willis and Jeni Brockbank discuss the concept of a "Window of Tolerance," incorporating the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Katy shares her wealth of knowledge about the different parts of the brain that are involved when we get outside of our Window of Tolerance. There is discussion about Captain Moroni being hangry, the Savior drawing in the sand instead of reacting and examples with Nephi as well.

Just like temples, our bodies need to be maintained so that we can stay within our window of tolerance.

Thanks for healing with us in the Light of the Savior.

Sources:

1. Jeni’s book: https://healinginchristslight.com/the-book.html (https://healinginchristslight.com/the-book.html)
2. Amygdala quote from “The Body Keeps The Score,” Bessel Van der Kolk, page 42
3. Captain Moroni scriptures Alma 48:17 and 60:2, 5-7
4. Self-care quote from “Intimate Deception,” Dr. Sheri Keffer, page 278 of the Kindle version.
5. Window of Tolerance quote from “The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact To Shape Who We Are,“ Dr. Dan Siegel, page 511
6. 1 Nephi 17: 1-3, 8, 12-13, 20-21, 45

It's common to think that family members of those who struggle with addiction can save our loved ones from their destructive patterns, but only Christ saves. Our loved ones have a Savior and it's (thankfully) not us.

Jeni interviews her husband, Bart Brockbank, about how loved ones can appropriately support their loved ones while staying safe. Bart shares his story about being addicted to pornography and various ways that have harmed him and his family over the years, including Jeni suffering from betrayal trauma. He also talks about what Jeni has done and what family members can do to help those who are struggling with addiction, including implementing boundaries and helping them to feel loved.

He also shares why he continues to support Jeni in telling their story and helping women heal from betrayal trauma.

Sources:

Alma 34:10

Betrayal Trauma SOS Podcast (Jeni's betrayal trauma podcast)

Have you ever tried to be a peacemaker but the results were less than peaceful? I sure have. In an effort to learn more about this subject, I interviewed Danny Deaton, who mentors family members of those struggling with addiction.

Danny shares his own story of addiction and redemption, along with the importance of the role that family members can play in the recovery of their loved one.

He shares that addiction is first a moral failing and then it's a disease where the user loses their agency.

As we consider those who were Peacemaker's let's consider that Christ, when He cleansed the temple was a peacemaker. Captain Moroni from the Book of Mormon was a peacemaker.

And you and I, as we set boundaries and keep them, are also peacemakers.

Let's look at peace with new eyes.

Sources:

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. “How many marriages could have been saved if one spouse had followed through with the threat of ‘If you don't stop drinking or coming home at midnight or hitting me or yelling at the kids, I will leave until you get some treatment?’ Or how many young adults' lives would have been turned around if their parents had followed through with their threat of, ‘No more money if you quit another job without having further employment or no bed if you continue to smoke marijuana in my house?’”

Danny Deaton Links:

Your Living Proof

Danny's Story (on his website- scroll down to the video)

Your Living Proof Instagram

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