Ep 4 Redefining Being a Peacemaker W/ Danny Deaton

05/31/23 • 43 min

Have you ever tried to be a peacemaker but the results were less than peaceful? I sure have. In an effort to learn more about this subject, I interviewed Danny Deaton, who mentors family members of those struggling with addiction.

Danny shares his own story of addiction and redemption, along with the importance of the role that family members can play in the recovery of their loved one.

He shares that addiction is first a moral failing and then it's a disease where the user loses their agency.

As we consider those who were Peacemaker's let's consider that Christ, when He cleansed the temple was a peacemaker. Captain Moroni from the Book of Mormon was a peacemaker.

And you and I, as we set boundaries and keep them, are also peacemakers.

Let's look at peace with new eyes.

Sources:

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. “How many marriages could have been saved if one spouse had followed through with the threat of ‘If you don't stop drinking or coming home at midnight or hitting me or yelling at the kids, I will leave until you get some treatment?’ Or how many young adults' lives would have been turned around if their parents had followed through with their threat of, ‘No more money if you quit another job without having further employment or no bed if you continue to smoke marijuana in my house?’”

Danny Deaton Links:

Your Living Proof

Danny's Story (on his website- scroll down to the video)

Your Living Proof Instagram

Healing In Christ's Light Links:

Healing In Christ's Light Website

Healing In Christ's Light Podcasts

Healing In Christ's Light on Instagram

Danny shares his own story of addiction and redemption, along with the importance of the role that family members can play in the recovery of their loved one.

He shares that addiction is first a moral failing and then it's a disease where the user loses their agency.

As we consider those who were Peacemaker's let's consider that Christ, when He cleansed the temple was a peacemaker. Captain Moroni from the Book of Mormon was a peacemaker.

And you and I, as we set boundaries and keep them, are also peacemakers.

Let's look at peace with new eyes.

Sources:

Danny Deaton Links:

Your Living Proof

Danny's Story (on his website- scroll down to the video)

Your Living Proof Instagram

Healing In Christ's Light Links:

Healing In Christ's Light Website

Healing In Christ's Light Podcasts

Healing In Christ's Light on Instagram

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Ep 3 I Can't Save My Loved One, But Christ Can With Bart Brockbank

It's common to think that family members of those who struggle with addiction can save our loved ones from their destructive patterns, but only Christ saves. Our loved ones have a Savior and it's (thankfully) not us.

Jeni interviews her husband, Bart Brockbank, about how loved ones can appropriately support their loved ones while staying safe. Bart shares his story about being addicted to pornography and various ways that have harmed him and his family over the years, including Jeni suffering from betrayal trauma. He also talks about what Jeni has done and what family members can do to help those who are struggling with addiction, including implementing boundaries and helping them to feel loved.

He also shares why he continues to support Jeni in telling their story and helping women heal from betrayal trauma.

Sources:

Alma 34:10

Betrayal Trauma SOS Podcast (Jeni's betrayal trauma podcast)

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Ep 5 "One In Christ" W/ NEW Co-Host Katy Willis

Jeni introduces her new co-host, Katy Willis. Together, they discuss Elder D. Todd Christofferson’s recent General Conference talk, “One in Christ,” and how to apply these principles to relationships with destructive patterns through hard boundaries, soft hearts, personal revelation, and (of course) Jesus Christ.

Come sit with us.

Sources:

1. Healing In Christ's Light From Patterns of Sexual Betrayal by Jeni Brockkbank PRESALE
2. ”One in Christ” D. Todd Christofferson, April 2023 General Conference
3. Tony Overbay teaches his 4 Pillars for connected conversations and how to apply them when there is emotional immaturity or narcissistic tendencies. For example, here is one of his podcast episodes from his podcast, “Waking up to Narcissism:”
4. “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High,” by Joseph Grenny

5. “Revelation is scattered among us,” Elder Neil L. Andersen (Leadership Enrichment Series, “Align with the Brethren,” Elder Neil L. Andersen, August 15, 2012.)
6. Boiling pot of water with eggs and potatoes suggestion from “Come, Follow Me” The Book of Mormon 2020 manual; see Alma 62:41
7. Luke 21:26 “Men’s hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken.”
8. Matthew 24:12 “And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.”
9. “Hard boundaries to protect a soft heart”
10. Katy Willis's recent blogpost about The Book of Mormon, “A Precious Manual for Navigating Destructive Relationships with Jesus Christ”

11. “Contempt” definition from Oxford dictionary: “the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.”

You can find Jeni Brockbank at:

Healinginchristslight.com
Healinginchristslight on Instagram

[email protected]

You can find Katy Willis at:

gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com
Gracefilledpathways on Instagram
Gracefilledpathways on Facebook