Ep 3 I Can't Save My Loved One, But Christ Can With Bart Brockbank

05/16/23 • 31 min

It's common to think that family members of those who struggle with addiction can save our loved ones from their destructive patterns, but only Christ saves. Our loved ones have a Savior and it's (thankfully) not us.

Jeni interviews her husband, Bart Brockbank, about how loved ones can appropriately support their loved ones while staying safe. Bart shares his story about being addicted to pornography and various ways that have harmed him and his family over the years, including Jeni suffering from betrayal trauma. He also talks about what Jeni has done and what family members can do to help those who are struggling with addiction, including implementing boundaries and helping them to feel loved.

He also shares why he continues to support Jeni in telling their story and helping women heal from betrayal trauma.

Sources:

Alma 34:10

Betrayal Trauma SOS Podcast (Jeni's betrayal trauma podcast)

He also shares why he continues to support Jeni in telling their story and helping women heal from betrayal trauma.

Sources:

Alma 34:10

Betrayal Trauma SOS Podcast (Jeni's betrayal trauma podcast)

Previous Episode

Ep 2 The 4 A's, Addiction, Abuse, Adultery & Abandonment with Geoff Steurer

Therapist Geoff Steurer discusses the 4 A's, which are:

Abuse
Addiction
Adultery and/or
Abandonment

Geoff explains what someone who experiences the 4 A's from a loved one might go through and validates their experience. He also talks about what the person who has experienced such behaviors can do, such as implement boundaries.

From Crisis To Connection Podcast with Geoff and Jody Steurer

Geoff Steurer's Weekly Columns/ Blog

Love You Hate

Cedar Fort Publishing

Psalm 74:21

President Spencer W. Kimball Quote:

“To every forgiveness there is a condition. The plaster must be as wide as the sore. The fasting, the prayers, the humility must be equal to or greater than the sin. There must be a broken heart and a contrite spirit. There must be 'sackcloth and ashes.' There must be tears and genuine change of heart.”

Jeffrey R. Holland Quote:

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Ep 4 Redefining Being a Peacemaker W/ Danny Deaton

Have you ever tried to be a peacemaker but the results were less than peaceful? I sure have. In an effort to learn more about this subject, I interviewed Danny Deaton, who mentors family members of those struggling with addiction.

Danny shares his own story of addiction and redemption, along with the importance of the role that family members can play in the recovery of their loved one.

He shares that addiction is first a moral failing and then it's a disease where the user loses their agency.

As we consider those who were Peacemaker's let's consider that Christ, when He cleansed the temple was a peacemaker. Captain Moroni from the Book of Mormon was a peacemaker.

And you and I, as we set boundaries and keep them, are also peacemakers.

Let's look at peace with new eyes.

Sources:

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. “How many marriages could have been saved if one spouse had followed through with the threat of ‘If you don't stop drinking or coming home at midnight or hitting me or yelling at the kids, I will leave until you get some treatment?’ Or how many young adults' lives would have been turned around if their parents had followed through with their threat of, ‘No more money if you quit another job without having further employment or no bed if you continue to smoke marijuana in my house?’”

Danny Deaton Links:

Your Living Proof

Danny's Story (on his website- scroll down to the video)

Your Living Proof Instagram

Healing In Christ's Light Links:

Healing In Christ's Light Website

Healing In Christ's Light Podcasts

Healing In Christ's Light on Instagram