Ep 6 From Victim To Righteous Empowerment

11/23/23 • 49 min

Jeni and Katy discuss the difference between “victimhood” and being “victimized” as targets of abuse, adultery, abandonment, and addiction. Jeni shares three principles to move victims towards righteous empowerment and how Jesus Christ can help us be victorious throughout the process.

Show notes:

1. FREE spiritual support team training for betrayal trauma: https://gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com/15829 (https://gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com/15829)
2. Join the waitlist for FREE spiritual support team training for relational trauma (coming soon!): https://gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com/how-to-talk-to-clergy-about-betrayal-trauma (https://gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com/how-to-talk-to-clergy-about-betrayal-trauma)
3. Pre-order Jeni’s book: https://healinginchristslight.com/the-book.html (https://healinginchristslight.com/the-book.html)
4. 2 Nephi 2:14
5. 2 Nephi 2:26
6. Mosiah 18:8-10
7. “Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, share this message with others and practice these principles in all you do.”“ https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/addiction-recovery-program-a-guide-to-addiction-recovery-and-healing/step-12-service?lang=eng (https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/addiction-recovery-program-a-guide-to-addiction-recovery-and-healing/step-12-service?lang=eng)
8. “Now therefore be not grieved, nor angry with yourselves, that ye sold me hither: for God did send me before you to preserve life.” Genesis 45:5
9. “And the Lord was with Joseph” Genesis 39:2
10. “To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.” Isaiah 61:3
11. “He Is Risen with Healing in His Wings: We Can Be More Than Conquerors,” Elder Patrick Kearon, April 2022 General Conference: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/04/24kearon?lang=eng (https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/04/24kearon?lang=eng)

You can find Jeni Brockbank at:

Healinginchristslight.com
Healinginchristslight on Instagram

[email protected]

You can find Katy Willis at:

gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com
Gracefilledpathways on Instagram
Gracefilledpathways on Facebook

Show notes:

You can find Jeni Brockbank at:

Healinginchristslight.com
Healinginchristslight on Instagram

[email protected]

You can find Katy Willis at:

gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com
Gracefilledpathways on Instagram
Gracefilledpathways on Facebook

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Ep 5 "One In Christ" W/ NEW Co-Host Katy Willis

Jeni introduces her new co-host, Katy Willis. Together, they discuss Elder D. Todd Christofferson’s recent General Conference talk, “One in Christ,” and how to apply these principles to relationships with destructive patterns through hard boundaries, soft hearts, personal revelation, and (of course) Jesus Christ.

Come sit with us.

Sources:

1. Healing In Christ's Light From Patterns of Sexual Betrayal by Jeni Brockkbank PRESALE
2. ”One in Christ” D. Todd Christofferson, April 2023 General Conference
3. Tony Overbay teaches his 4 Pillars for connected conversations and how to apply them when there is emotional immaturity or narcissistic tendencies. For example, here is one of his podcast episodes from his podcast, “Waking up to Narcissism:”
4. “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High,” by Joseph Grenny

5. “Revelation is scattered among us,” Elder Neil L. Andersen (Leadership Enrichment Series, “Align with the Brethren,” Elder Neil L. Andersen, August 15, 2012.)
6. Boiling pot of water with eggs and potatoes suggestion from “Come, Follow Me” The Book of Mormon 2020 manual; see Alma 62:41
7. Luke 21:26 “Men’s hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken.”
8. Matthew 24:12 “And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.”
9. “Hard boundaries to protect a soft heart”
10. Katy Willis's recent blogpost about The Book of Mormon, “A Precious Manual for Navigating Destructive Relationships with Jesus Christ”

11. “Contempt” definition from Oxford dictionary: “the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.”

You can find Jeni Brockbank at:

Healinginchristslight.com
Healinginchristslight on Instagram

[email protected]

You can find Katy Willis at:

gracefilledpathways.freshlearn.com
Gracefilledpathways on Instagram
Gracefilledpathways on Facebook

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Ep 7 Window of Tolerance From a Gospel Perspective Part 1

Katy Willis and Jeni Brockbank discuss the concept of a "Window of Tolerance," incorporating the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Katy shares her wealth of knowledge about the different parts of the brain that are involved when we get outside of our Window of Tolerance. There is discussion about Captain Moroni being hangry, the Savior drawing in the sand instead of reacting and examples with Nephi as well.

Just like temples, our bodies need to be maintained so that we can stay within our window of tolerance.

Thanks for healing with us in the Light of the Savior.

Sources:

1. Jeni’s book: https://healinginchristslight.com/the-book.html (https://healinginchristslight.com/the-book.html)
2. Amygdala quote from “The Body Keeps The Score,” Bessel Van der Kolk, page 42
3. Captain Moroni scriptures Alma 48:17 and 60:2, 5-7
4. Self-care quote from “Intimate Deception,” Dr. Sheri Keffer, page 278 of the Kindle version.
5. Window of Tolerance quote from “The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact To Shape Who We Are,“ Dr. Dan Siegel, page 511
6. 1 Nephi 17: 1-3, 8, 12-13, 20-21, 45