Sexual Mindfulness | Ep. 11

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09/02/22 • 62 min

People who practice sexual mindfulness experience more desire, better self-esteem, more consistent orgasms, a better relationship with their partners, and better overall sexual functioning! In this episode I introduce Tantra and Sensate Focus as ways to incorporate sexual mindfulness into your life. Plus I answer a question about meeting and dating with social anxiety!
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6 Tips for Sexual Mindfulness
5 Reasons People Who Meditate Have Better Sex Lives
Sensate Focus

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In this episode, I share some of the mind-blowing facts and concepts I've recently learned about kink in school. The specific article I reference comes from the Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy, published in 2017, which includes fun facts about kink, common myths, reasons people may seek therapy for their kinks, and what we can learn from kinky people. Listen to the end, because there is an incredible section from the book that shows an empirically-validated foundation for kink and BDSM altering states of consciousness. WHAT?! I know, so cool. Also I answer a question about what to do when you're accidentally gaslighting your partner!
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Sex Drive Myths That Need Busting | Ep. 12

We get so much information from our families, communities, media, and larger society about sexuality and a lot of times, it's unhelpful or downright inaccurate. Today I'm correcting 10 common myths about sex drive:
1. Aphrodisiacs make you horny
2. If your partner rejects your advances, they aren't attracted to you
3. Porn doesn't change your sex drive
4. Sex should last 30 minutes or longer
5. Men are always horny and ready for sex
6. Women have lower sex drives than men
7. Sex and desire should be spontaneous
8. Having a low sex drive is bad
9. Your sex drive is fixed and stable
10. Sex drive disappears as you age
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Sources in this episode: The Journal of Sexual Medicine & The Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy