Girl Talk With Pops

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Last season, Pops and I released an episode on moving in with your significant other. That was before I spent significant time living with my long distance boyfriend. Since the pandemic, I’ve spent a few months living with my partner, and now I want to revisit that conversation and discuss what I’ve learned and experienced while living with a man.

In today’s episode, I reveal what these past months of cohabitation have taught me about the effect of work schedules on a relationship and setting household rules with your partner. Pops and I also talk about personal workspaces,work-from-home demeanors, and the difficulties in establishing and adapting to different expectations for living with your mate.

In addition, I reflect on discoveries I made about myself during all this, the importance of patience when living together, and the need to plan *how* to live together. Then, we wrap up this episode with a few funny things that tickled and surprised me during the experience.

In this episode:

[03:49] - Brittney didn’t realize how different work schedules can affect a relationship.

[06:02] - Pops points out the positive in having separate work schedules.

[11:13] - Relationships, where couples work in different fields, can also be very challenging.

[13:10] - Brittney thinks it's necessary to establish roles and responsibilities even when staying with someone for a short amount of time.

[18:55] - With some reflection, Brittney realizes her personal needs became clearer and necessary to communicate.

[21:39] - When coming together, these two inner selves have to constantly adjust to each other.

[24:13] - Pops doesn’t see the point of couples taking a year to plan a wedding when they don’t plan how to live together first.

[25:12] - Brittney reflects on how beneficial her living together was for her long distance relationship.

[29:13] - When facing everyday bickering, sometimes couples forget that other couples have the same challenges.

[31:05] - Brittney finds it humorous how competitive men can be with their ladies.

Links and Resources:

Season 2 Episode: Things to consider before moving in together

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We’re back with Pops and my cousin Dana to continue our lively discussion about black male privilege. In part 1 of this conversation, I define black male privilege to get us on the same page, and Pops and Dana express their feelings on if they agree that black men are more privileged than black women.

We got into issues about men needing to feel in charge and assert power, traditional lines of gendered responsibility possibly being erased, the possibility of recent history slowly being written to benefit black women more, and the lack of black women highlighted in African-American history in school. Then, I started sharing privileges from a checklist I discovered written by Jewel Woods about the ways in which black men have an advantage over black women.

This week, we debate more black male privileges from the checklist. We also talk about how important it is to recognize those privileges, starting with the question we left off with in episode 5, “Who has more marriage or cohabitation options after a divorce: men or women?” Let’s get into it!

We hope you enjoy what you hear today. If you do, let other people know by writing us a review and rating our podcast on Apple with five stars. And if you haven’t already, make sure you hit the subscribe button so you won’t miss a single episode!

In this episode:

[02:30] - According to the people Pops and Dana know, are men or women more likely to end up in a relationship after divorce?

[06:49] - True or false: as a male coach, can you motivate, punish, or embarrass a player by saying that the player plays like a girl?

[08:45] - Pops doesn’t think others see the “play like a girl” insult as a big deal. But if a girl heard that, how would she feel?

[10:21] - Brittney still sees this kind of insult in use and recalls a recent example.

[12:01] - Joking about women can reflect how you treat women in real life. Brittney emphasizes that word choice matters.

[14:07] - For equitable dynamics between men and women, people need open dialogue and awareness, but only women are really driving the conversation.

[16:06] - Brittney points out that it’s a privilege in and of itself for Pops to not have to carry the conversation forward.

[17:31] - True or false: men can use language such as “hittin-it” to convey images of sexual acts based on dominance and performance.

[18:43] - Do women have their own locker room talk regarding sex? If so, is it similar to men’s?

[21:04] - Brittney highlights that Pops and Dana are conflating sports locker room talk with rap.

[23:40] - How are Pops and Dana supporting the movement for more equality between the sexes?

[28:30] - Brittney expresses hope that Pops and Dana won’t be afraid to call out their friend’s or other men’s behavior when they see it.

[29:10] - Brittney ends the episode with a few final thoughts.

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The Black Male Privileges Checklist by Jewel Woods

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Would you say yes to a marriage proposal if you weren't 100% sure or ready for marriage? Well apparently men often propose to women without being full bought into the committed life or the concept of marriage. In this week's episode Brittney and Pops talk about the various reasons a man might propose, what the engagement period is all about and how it could/should be used, and the general psychology involved in gearing up to marry "the one".
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It's Father's Day weekend and we're back with more questions you probably wouldn't ask your dad!
We're excited to welcome Jerralyn Belinda to the show, co-host of the Tea with Qwns Podcast! On this episode she's helping us elevate the conversation around father-daughter relationships and share another woman's point of view on how she talks to her dad about dating, relationships, and love. And from the questions below you can tell she's keeping it 100!

• How can I address my partner climaxing too quickly?
• Tips on how to officially end an argument/interact with your partner post-fight

Shout out to @jerralynbelinda for joining GTWP and check out the Tea with Qwns Podcast.
By listening to GTWP, this Father's Day and everyday, we hope that you're inspired to have more meaningful conversations with you pops and father figures. Shout out to all the dads out there listening! ❤️
Also, check out our recent feature: Girl Talk with Pops: How Dads Improve Dating

Traditionally we hear about lessons that dads teach their daughters, but to mark the end of season 2 Brittney and Pops talk about what he's learned from her. Pops then shares what he's learned about himself in the GTWP journey so far and talks about how GTWP has impacted his love life.

They discuss how being a father and learning how to parent don't stop when kids reach adulthood as well as how having a daughter can make men more vulnerable and accountable for their actions.

Brittney shares some lessons too, but you can check out a full read of things she's learned from Pops here: 5 Lessons I Learned from My Dad on Men and Dating.

Thanks for rocking with GTWP for another season. Don't forget to share this episode with a friend and rate GTWP 5 stars on Apple Podcasts.

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