Healing from Daddy Issues (Part 2)
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01/24/21 • 30 min
How do daddy issues impact romantic relationships? What’s it like to be expecting a new child while still healing the relationship with your father? How difficult is it to talk to your parents about parenting, when you don’t trust their opinions or how they’ve shown up for you in the past? In today’s episode, we answer these questions and more in a continuation of our conversation with special guest Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com and The Discussion Room podcast.
You’ll hear about Ms. Reid’s limited dating experience as a teenager, including breaking up twice with a cheating high school boyfriend. Abandonment issues, and certain things she didn’t really want to see from parental figures, came into play and made it easy for her to end romantic relationships.
We also touch on the co-parenting discussion Ms. Reid had with her partner (who already has a child), one non-negotiable aspect of raising her child, the impact of a parent’s age on their kids, and even discuss a bit about blended families. Then the tables turn for a few minutes, where the interviewee becomes the interviewer and asks Pops a question. This, and more family stories and surprising anecdotes, make up the conclusion to our interview.
We hope you enjoy what you hear today. If you do, let other people know by writing us a review and rating our podcast on Apple with five stars. And if you haven’t already, make sure you hit the subscribe button so you won’t miss a single episode!
In this episode:
[01:57] - Ms. Reid explains how she thinks her relationships with her biological dad and other father figures impacted her love life in general.
[04:00] - One particular time, Ms. Reid saw her father do something pretty wild involving a woman who he was dating at the time.
[06:23] - Brittney wonders if having a younger parent impacts kids differently. Ms. Reid believes that this was to her benefit.
[08:59] - Brittney mentions how her own mom (who had her at 18) would warn her against doing certain things at a young age too.
[10:48] - Thinking about father-daughter relations and with a child on the way, Brittney asks Ms. Reid how she thinks about this type of relationship generally?
[13:55] - Recently, someone asked Ms. Reid’s about her non-negotiables around parenting her expectant child.
[16:10] - Brittney gives Ms. Reid the floor to ask Pops any questions on her mind. She asks, “What was it like for Pops to co-parent with different people for his kids?”
[19:03] - Someone has to be the bigger person in a co-parenting scenario, whether or not they like the situation.
[22:51] - What’s the benefit of having a blended family? Pops gives his opinion.
[25:38] - To close it out, Ms. Reid shares her self-reflective work. In 2015, she started dealing with daddy issues (which turned into her blog).
Links and Resources:
@GirlTalkWithPops on Instagram
How do daddy issues impact romantic relationships? What’s it like to be expecting a new child while still healing the relationship with your father? How difficult is it to talk to your parents about parenting, when you don’t trust their opinions or how they’ve shown up for you in the past? In today’s episode, we answer these questions and more in a continuation of our conversation with special guest Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com and The Discussion Room podcast.
You’ll hear about Ms. Reid’s limited dating experience as a teenager, including breaking up twice with a cheating high school boyfriend. Abandonment issues, and certain things she didn’t really want to see from parental figures, came into play and made it easy for her to end romantic relationships.
We also touch on the co-parenting discussion Ms. Reid had with her partner (who already has a child), one non-negotiable aspect of raising her child, the impact of a parent’s age on their kids, and even discuss a bit about blended families. Then the tables turn for a few minutes, where the interviewee becomes the interviewer and asks Pops a question. This, and more family stories and surprising anecdotes, make up the conclusion to our interview.
We hope you enjoy what you hear today. If you do, let other people know by writing us a review and rating our podcast on Apple with five stars. And if you haven’t already, make sure you hit the subscribe button so you won’t miss a single episode!
In this episode:
[01:57] - Ms. Reid explains how she thinks her relationships with her biological dad and other father figures impacted her love life in general.
[04:00] - One particular time, Ms. Reid saw her father do something pretty wild involving a woman who he was dating at the time.
[06:23] - Brittney wonders if having a younger parent impacts kids differently. Ms. Reid believes that this was to her benefit.
[08:59] - Brittney mentions how her own mom (who had her at 18) would warn her against doing certain things at a young age too.
[10:48] - Thinking about father-daughter relations and with a child on the way, Brittney asks Ms. Reid how she thinks about this type of relationship generally?
[13:55] - Recently, someone asked Ms. Reid’s about her non-negotiables around parenting her expectant child.
[16:10] - Brittney gives Ms. Reid the floor to ask Pops any questions on her mind. She asks, “What was it like for Pops to co-parent with different people for his kids?”
[19:03] - Someone has to be the bigger person in a co-parenting scenario, whether or not they like the situation.
[22:51] - What’s the benefit of having a blended family? Pops gives his opinion.
[25:38] - To close it out, Ms. Reid shares her self-reflective work. In 2015, she started dealing with daddy issues (which turned into her blog).
Links and Resources:
@GirlTalkWithPops on Instagram
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Healing from Daddy Issues
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How Society Silences Women
We talk a lot about men and women and the dynamics between them in relationships. But I don’t think we’ve talked about it like we do in this episode. Today’s show is inspired by a few conversations with friends and one in particular with my boyfriend. He had a call with a community group and was surprised to hear from black women that they often feel they’re at the bottom of the societal totem pole.
I was shocked to hear that he’d never heard that sentiment before. So I wondered why that might be the case, and I get my dad’s take to see if he feels the same way. We also debate the “supportive role” that women are expected to play, how history and perspective contribute to conditioning people this way, and how everything going back to what we saw and experienced as children plays its part. Additionally, we briefly touch on the concept of black male privilege and discuss why therapy needs to be a regular part of people’s lives.
We hope you enjoy what you hear today. If you do, let other people know by writing us a review and rating our podcast on Apple with five stars. And if you haven’t already, make sure you hit the subscribe button so you won’t miss a single episode!
In this episode:
[02:53] - Does Pops think that women care for, prefer, or help men more than themselves? He sees a generational difference.
[05:00] - However, Brittney has a different perspective. She sees the rise of self-care as a priority among women today, especially of her generation.
[06:07] - In history, even as recently as the 60s and 70s in the U.S., women have needed men in order to do certain things.
[08:30] - Pops feels that a lot of women fall into the characterization of being subordinate instead of the stronger woman behind a strong man.
[10:03] - What’s Pops’ perspective on why women still fall into that stereotype?
[11:31] - Brittney believes that patriarchy at its finest is the fact that so much of history is written from the perspective of men.
[13:11] - If women created the laws, Pops doesn’t think we’d have as many problems as we do now.
[15:05] - Black male privilege is a thing that isn’t really recognized.
[18:03] - For Brittney, black women with a son or in a relationship are more likely to nurture and prioritize men more than themselves.
[19:50] - Pops doesn’t believe the nurturing phase should go on forever. It’s seasonal and once it’s over, it’s over.
[21:16] - Brittney discusses the ego’s close relation to the unfulfilled needs of the inner child.
[22:46] - Even if you don’t realize it, childhood patterns and other things you learned and saw from your parents play a part in your relationships all the time.
[23:55] - You can’t view this type of conversation from one specific lens.
[25:51] - Brittney stresses the need for therapy to be a normal part of society, like getting a physical exam every year.
[28:43] - Pops shares that he’s been wanting to do therapy and encourages others to think about going too.
Links and Resources:
@GirlTalkWithPops on Instagram
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