
The Challenges of Being a Gay Man
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08/29/24 • 59 min
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In this insightful episode, we turn our focus to the often unspoken challenges that come with being a gay man. The reality for many queer folks is that our lives are met with unique hurdles that impact our mental, emotional, and social well-being.
Through candid discussions and personal experiences, we are looking at these challenges from the gay male perspective. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are:
- Learning to hide who you are
- Social discrimination
- External and internalized homophobia
- Dealing with rejection
- Loneliness and isolation
- Our relationship to masculinity
- Sexual shame
- Impacts to self-worth and self-esteem
- Finding acceptance within our families and communities
This episode aims to foster a deeper understanding and empathy for the challenges gay men face, providing a platform for open dialogue and support. Whether you're a member of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally seeking to learn more, this conversation will help foster awareness and solidarity.
Today's Hosts:
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
- Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
- Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
- Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
- Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
- Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
- Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
In this insightful episode, we turn our focus to the often unspoken challenges that come with being a gay man. The reality for many queer folks is that our lives are met with unique hurdles that impact our mental, emotional, and social well-being.
Through candid discussions and personal experiences, we are looking at these challenges from the gay male perspective. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are:
- Learning to hide who you are
- Social discrimination
- External and internalized homophobia
- Dealing with rejection
- Loneliness and isolation
- Our relationship to masculinity
- Sexual shame
- Impacts to self-worth and self-esteem
- Finding acceptance within our families and communities
This episode aims to foster a deeper understanding and empathy for the challenges gay men face, providing a platform for open dialogue and support. Whether you're a member of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally seeking to learn more, this conversation will help foster awareness and solidarity.
Today's Hosts:
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
- Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
- Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
- Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
- Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
- Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
- Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
Previous Episode

Attachment Styles in Dating
In this episode, Matt speaks with Counsellor Ken Reid about attachment styles in dating and relationships. Together they unpack how attachment styles can impact whether or not we choose to be in monogamous or non monogamous relationships. They explore the impact of trauma on the development of insecure attachment styles, and what we can do to heal if we find ourselves anxious or avoidant in our relationships.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
- What is an attachment style?
- Secure vs insecure attachment styles
- Monogamy vs non monogamy when it comes to attachment styles
- How insecurity may influence you choice between monogamy and non monogamy
- How anxious people date and show up in relationships
- How avoidant people date and show up in relationships
- What can we do to move towards more security in our attachment style?
Today's Guest: Ken Reid
Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
- Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
- Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
- Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
- Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
- Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
- Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
Next Episode

Social Anxiety in Groups of Gay Men
In this episode, we are talking about the unique challenges and pressures that we face in social settings within our own community. The Gay Men’s Brotherhood is dedicated to helping gay men connect and build more authentic and meaningful relationships, but this is particularly challenging for those who feel anxious in groups of gay men.
We'll share our personal experiences and the coping strategies we've developed to manage and overcome social anxiety. Topics discussed today are:
- Types and levels of social anxiety
- Reasons why group situations trigger anxiety
- Strategies for coping in social situations
- How nerves can manifest in physical symptoms
- The power of self-talk and inner dialogue
- Opportunities for connection within our community
Our goal is to provide you with practical advice and insights so you can more actively engage in our community events and form deeper connections with others.
Today's Hosts:
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
- Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
- Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
- Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
- Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
- Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
- Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
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