093: How to Think Ahead for Your Wife

04/01/25 • 24 min

Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Have you ever asked your wife, "What can I do to help?" during chaos in the home?

There's a good chance the question increased her stress level rather than reduced it.

Our wife needs us to think, not just do.

When men don't absorb some of the mental load that comes with leading a family, resentment builds up.

Today's episode will leave you with two main actions that'll help remove pressure from your wife's plate:

1. Step into the CEO role so you can be strategic and proactive.

2. Initiate the "Fair Play" conversation so you can run the household as a team.

Tune in to take on your share of responsibilities so your wife feels supported and the house feels more peaceful.

Have you ever asked your wife, "What can I do to help?" during chaos in the home?

There's a good chance the question increased her stress level rather than reduced it.

Our wife needs us to think, not just do.

When men don't absorb some of the mental load that comes with leading a family, resentment builds up.

Today's episode will leave you with two main actions that'll help remove pressure from your wife's plate:

1. Step into the CEO role so you can be strategic and proactive.

2. Initiate the "Fair Play" conversation so you can run the household as a team.

Tune in to take on your share of responsibilities so your wife feels supported and the house feels more peaceful.

Previous Episode

092: The Key to Stop Overanalyzing – Make Peace With Your Past Decisions

We all have past decisions that make us cringe. Things we'd do differently the second time around, given the chance.

But if we don't make peace with those decisions, they'll cause us to procrastinate and overanalyze our decisions today.

They'll make a dent in our confidence and lead us to subconsciously question ourselves when we have a big decision on our plate.

You'll leave this ep with three steps that'll help you make peace with your past decisions so you can be a confident decision-maker today:

1. Awareness – ID the regrets that bubble up when you notice yourself overanalyzing.

2. Language – Stop trying to make the "right" decision and instead work towards the best decision, given your circumstance, information, situation.

3. Confidence – Recognize that you're not perfect, and you're still you can still hold yourself in high regard. You'll make mistakes, and you'll recover

Tune in to learn how to free yourself from past choices and confidently make decisions in the present.

Next Episode

094: 3G Model – Control Your Response When Your Wife is Stressed

Ever been ready to relax after a long day at work, but your wife is stressed and so there’s tension in the house for everyone?

It’s tempting to tell her to calm down. Chill out. Explain that mud on the carpet isn’t a big deal. But usually this ends up in a full-blown argument.

In today's episode, you'll dive into the 3G Model to help you respond in a way that actually strengthens your relationship. Here's what you'll learn:

1️⃣ Grrrr Mode – You snap back when she snaps at you. Not pretty.

2️⃣ Guarded Helper – You help around the house, but keep a safe distance, hoping the storm passes.

3️⃣ Grounded Husband – You get curious, check in with her, and show her you're on the same team.

Think of it like climbing a ladder. The higher you go, the stronger your connection with your wife—and the better your relationship.

When you level up your marriage, you level up in EVERY area of life.

Durable Dad with Tommy Geary - 093: How to Think Ahead for Your Wife

Transcript

Speaker 100:00:03.205

This is the Durable Dad Podcast . I'm your host , tommy Geary . This show is going to give you the skills and tools you need to be a rock solid man for your work , your community and , most importantly , your family .

Speaker 100:00:20.080

All right , what's up ? Episode number 93 . We are sitting in our bedroom right now , me and Brenda . There is a spri